Is it possible to be a "late bloomer" but still get a lot of girls?

I'm still a virgin at 19 so my count is obviously 0. I'm wondering if its still possible later on to get the number into a respectable range? Or is my time passed because I'm lagging pretty far behind? Guys or girls can answer
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  • For me it was very possible, and I might be the "success model" of the ultimate late bloomer. I went from being so shy that I could not answer the door at my home without having an anxiety attack to having two girls fight over me and guys asking me how I do it.

    That said, I wasn't looking to get as many girls as possible; I just wanted to find a great one for something serious. I did end up getting with many though as a result of complications ranging from traveling for my work and having to move all the time to just becoming pickier and picker the more girls I dated until I finally met the one who would be my wife. I even ended up getting wit ha swimsuit model for those who are so league-oriented, and she was the one who asked me out, not the other way around (though she wasn't my best girlfriend by any stretch, albeit a sweet and fun person).

    I also had some qualities that might be appealing to women. I had a 4.0 GPA throughout high school and university, had an IQ score high enough to qualify for Mensa, ended up publishing some work in university that became popular in my industry and allowed me to work for the highest bidder among countless job offers, was a sponsored vert skateboarder, and fastest sprinter and longest jumper on my track team. My physique wasn't that impressive but it was enough to get girls wanting to feel my chest and bis a lot and compliment my body (though I was so shy that I practically fled when they did).

    I can show an embarrassing pic of me when I was around 16 or so and trying to show pictures of my physique to girls online because I could hide my shyness. I didn't have such big muscles compared to buff guys today, but at 16-years old and back then when so many people around me were out of shape, this sort of thing was good enough to get girls flattering me on my body:

    https://i.imgur.com/j8H1o3D.jpg

    ... and now that's probably so pathetic compared to buff guys today at 16-years old, but at the time fitness wasn't such a big thing and I could even get a lot of respect among the strongest jocks for my physique along with girls wanting to feel and compliment my body (but again I'd run away, so shy and scared).

    My main weak points that were crippling my ability to attract women was that I was so ridiculously shy to the point of not being able to answer phones without fear of talking to someone, so timid, so lacking in assertiveness (always afraid to speak my mind), and so lacking in social confidence...

    • ... but most of all I was a virgin. I was overwhelmed with sexual curiosity for any girl that so much as flirted with me let alone said "hi" to me, and I felt very ashamed of wanting girls this way. What got me to finally break out of my shell was being invited to a university party with drinking from one of the really popular guys in my high school who took interest in me and watched me a lot doing frontside and backside airs on the vert ramp. And that was the first time I ever tried alcohol, marijuana, and also during that party, a girl took so much interest in me that even though I was just sitting in a corner panicking and all nervous, she sat on my lap and brought me Rumple Minze shots. Then I drank those and it calmed my nerves and she kissed me and I lost my virginity to her that night. Then suddenly I got that sexual curiosity out of my system, and I wanted more where that came from... and it finally gave me the kick in the ass to start [...]

    • [...] overcoming my shyness, pay attention to what the guys did who could attract girls, and look at this as a "skill" to improve and train. So I started "training", looking at it as an intellectual challenge to attract women, and over time I got better and better. I'm still not amazing but, compared to before, I no longer became so hopeless. I could do all right with women and again, even though it's not something I wanted, I did end up dating a boatload of women... I like to reflect back upon that, now that I'm married, as "training to build the skills necessary to catch my wife." Each girl I dated sort of improved my skill a little bit more until I finally got good enough to attract my wife who was the hardest catch of them all (she even friend-zoned me originally and I had to bounce out of it by jamming an emergency stop button on an elevator and kissing her). But anyway, to summarize, it's very possible in my experience to go from ultimate reject to someone doing okay.

    • That said, dating girls was one thing. Keeping a relationship was a whole different ordeal that took me maybe half a decade longer to do reasonably well. I was still thin-skinned, overly sensitive. If a girl pushed my buttons I would get so angry and furious that I would storm out of the room and sometimes throw chairs through my own window like an idiot only to have to pay for it to be repaired. I was still so incredibly immature and fragile emotionally. So the second kind of "training" I had to do was to study things like Stoicism on how to control and eliminate our negative emotions by challenging our negative thinking patterns, like so: "He is the most powerful who has power over himself." -- Seneca “If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgement of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgement now.” -- Marcus Aurelius, Meditations That was just as important as overcoming the shyness and developing some confidence.

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  • I mean, I lost my virginity at 18. Getting laid isn’t really all that hard if you approach enough women. I haven’t had much success in the dating pool, but actual sex isn’t that hard to come by.

    That said, the sex is only satisfying in the short term. I’ve currently got my eye on someone as a potential girlfriend, and honestly a relationship like that is probably better for learning about sex.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You're 19. Most people have had very uninteresting or very minor sex lives. You're not really a 'late bloomer', more like just a little below average, don't worry about it.

  • A late boomer? Yep. . . quake was a good game

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  • Quantity doesn’t matter, and losing your virginity isn’t a race. Plus, you’re really young. You have a long time before your time “passes.”

  • That should not be your concern- just Focus on getting a good girlfriend.

  • I wouldn't say that you're "lagging far behind", just a little bit. If you were in your mid-twenties maybe.

  • You're quite young, you can definitely still get lots of girls. But you have to work on your shyness or whatever it is that has made it tough for you to meet girls. I had issues of shyness too when your age, so I know the challenge it can be.

  • Sure it's possible my dude I'll be honest I felt shitty when I lost mine I have no idea why but sex isn't the best thing in the world sure it feels great but comes with a risk. I respect that your still a virgin my dude nothing to be ashamed of it just means you use your brain upstairs rather than downstairs xD but bro college is a great way to meet an intelligent woman just saying

  • whats a respectable number of women a guy should sleep with and move on from?

  • Yup sure

  • We all have different time schedules and values. When you least expect it the right girl will enter your life and screw your brains out. I'm sure jerking off is ok but is getting old. Just be yourself, smile and enjoy the time when it comes.

  • Quantity isn't important, and its not a race

  • Numbers are just numbers - Finding someone you love and they love you back is more important

  • This is not a race and age is not the defining item as some writeers believe. Most 19 year olds really don't have a big sex history. Being a virgin is fine and you can be more active at any age.

  • At 19, you're hardly a late bloomer.
    Short answer yes. If you just want to rack up body count then it dosen't necassarily matter what age you are.
    Depends how you define respectable.

  • U should be proud of yourself for being a virgin,
    Anyone will respect saving it for someone special,, whom u truly love

  • Its never too late to be a pimp my friend.

  • Focus on finding a compatible girl, date, get married, then let that sex thing take care of itself.

    • Once you married you stuck with them. Better hope you are actually sexually compatible.

  • Why do you want to have sex with a lot of girls? Just settle with one and be happy. Next thing you know you’re being used and / or getting an STD.

  • Depends if you look good then you got chances but if you look like shit then nah

  • Lol obviously. Don’t see the reason why

  • In theory u could respect urself in any case but you have plenty time most my sex was in twenties and now also 30s

  • You are 19, not a late bloomer.

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