Guys, Why is sex such a big deal with guys on average?

Hi guys I'm curious about what goes on in the male mind and why is sex for the average guy such a big deal in comparison to girls. Obviously sex for girls is still a big deal but on average it is a huge motivator for guys which I just never can wrap my head around. Why is sex so important to you? Is it just simply the pleasure is beyond words or is it something more complicated.
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  • Because society puts a lot of value on a man's sex-positive identity.

    Humans are biologically driven to desire sex, with a minority population not desiring such.

    Those two together are all it takes.

    Society places a lower value on women's sex-positive identity, on the other hand.

    Though some societies place a lot of value on sex-negative identity.

    There aren't too many countries that actually place value on both women and men's sex-positive identity, save for Russia and parts of Asia.

    Interestingly, Japan places value on people's sex-positive identity in order to counter-act population decline.

    Whereas, India places value on sex-negativity to curb it.

  • The lizard brain sits on top of the spinal cord, it is connected to the dk and that involuntary built in hard wired instinct is as autonomous as rhythmic heartbeats. Women have this instinct too but it is tempered somewhat by her emotional mate selection filter and thereby she seems to have it much less until she identifies that mate. And believe me when a woman decides she wants you to get her pregnant, there is no difference in sex drive and I think in that mode women have more. That all said we have evolved supposedly to contain and control those lizard brain instincts so that we are cultured. Some simply evolve more than others.

    • Thanks for the mho

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  • Basically, when the hormones start hitting our brain we react like addicts and sex is like a drug

  • If we'd compare ourselves it's a lot more important to you than it is to me.

    • Ha I wish! I have like no sex drive. I care more for love, relationships and romance. Casual fling sex isnt' really my thing.

    • Bet you've still had way more sex than me.

    • A few years ago I was abit of a nympho lol. Now though pfft got nothing.

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  • Big deal in what way? Like my life definitely isn't centered around sex and I'm not really a big fan of casual sex tbh. But still of course sex is an important thing for me in a relationship, for me passion is just as important as romance and friendship in a relationship. If there is no sexual chemistry then almost always both or at least one person is going to feel unsatisfied sexually which leads to all kinds of issues.

    • I suppose like for many guys I've met it's their number one agender for finding a girl, compared to seeking a partner/relationship first and sex is a bonus. Oh I agree sexual chemistry is a must for a relationship to work out. I'm screwed then though I got the sex drive of a plank of wood lol.

    • Well that should tell you what kind of relationships those particular guys are actually looking for if all they care about is sex. And I think you'd be surprised at how many how girls are just as shallow. Whether it is about sex, dick size, looks, height, etc. It's rare to find someone looking for partnership over physical attributes.

    • Yeah I have been friends with many girls who have their eyes solely on the D, not that there's anything wrong with just wanting a casual fling of course. Not for me though. I like depth and intimacy.

  • Sex was a real big deal for me when I was single and unattached. After I got steady relationships and later marriage sex didn't run my life once I was comfortable in the relationship.

  • I love sex and making love. I don't just give myself to anyone. I am picky. So when I do find a girl that I want to share my love with then it becomes a big deal.

  • The pleasure.

    • That's all? I mean I get sex is good (If you get someone who knows what they are doing) but can't be that good for guys surely.

    • What's better?

    • Romantic gestures, the feeling you are the most important person in someone's life. Finally beating that secret boss in a game that kept screwing you over haha!

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  • In addition to the physical pleasure, there a huge mental rush that comes with penetrating a woman. It feels powerful and dominant to push inside a woman.

  • we're biologically driven to spread our seed so humanity can thrive, also men have massive amounts of testosterone which basically fuels our hunger for sex

    obviously there are other reasons but u can probs find them on google

    • Couldn't it be counter-argued that women are also biologically driven to spread their eggs (HA PUN) so that humanity can thrive, and thus are also highly sex driven?

    • @SomeOtherGuy lol the last time i looked it up i dont think it worked like that. im not denying that woman aren't also highly sex driven, but it ain't for that reason

    • Ah you're referencing sexual dimorphism. Particularly where women, akin to their other sexually dimorphic species, nest and care for as many children as they can to ensure healthy offspring that make it to fertility.

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  • Why is money such a big deal with girls on average?

    • Money talks that's why. In the world we live in money makes or breaks a person.

    • Just be a rich millionaire bro its easy

  • Women want sex more than men statistically

    • Hmm interesting. I suppose guys on average are just more forthright with their desires.

    • It's more culturally appropriate for guys to be the sexual aggressors, for better or worse.

    • @SomeOtherGuy Which is bullshite in all honesty but culture is adapting over time so that's a plus.

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