Guys, Men need to know from your stand point, why my boyfriend of 7 years wants me to have sex with another guy in front of him and Join in?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been together 7 years, and we have a 18 month old son.. We were on vacation in 2015 and we were drinking and went out.. When we went back to the hotel he asked me if I would let another guy join I said no., He told me he would marry me if I did.. I was being stupid and under the influence so I said yes and I did it.. No he didn’t marry me he decided he wanted to have a child first., So I gave him a son.. Here we are 2 years later and he said he wants to do it again.. He is a pleaser in bed and I have multiple Orgasms before he gets his. Lately he has been wanting to use a big dildo on me. Is the one that sticks to the floor and he wants me to give him head while I ride the toy.. While he was using it on me he said:” fuck that big dick”.. I told him the first time in Vegas I did not enjoy it, I wasn’t attracted to the guy. So he said I can do it with an attractive guy so I will like it.. But what is confusing to me is; he is a jealous guy.. I can’t even say a guy is cute on TV., This has me very confused.. Can some men help way in on this subject? Why would he want me to have sex with another guy? I guess this is a turn on for him but I don’t understand why.. A part of me is saying no way, because I am happy and satisfied with the way things are, and I have my beliefs in God which is telling me it isn’t right. Then a part of me is also thinking if this guy is attractive I might like it..

[scottyderps]

I see your in quite the pickle my friend. Perhaps it's time to think of the outcome of your relationship, rather than adding more body parts into the equation.

Honestly I find the description of your boyfriend to be a tad concerning due to his jealous streak and other kinks.

A relationship is about 50/50 and it seems your boyfriend is tipping that into his own selfish desires.

[Asker]

Thank you for your honesty.. you brought up some good points.. Yes I’m very confused.,

[scottyderps]

Well I hope you can figure it out. Stay safe

[Zer0Ghost]

Kinks are kinks, fetishes are fetishes, they are what they are and often don't have a source other than "it gets me off." His just so happens to be cuckold/hotwifing, no one questions why doggy gets them off better because it's an "acceptable" kink. It may have no source whatsoever, other than his enjoyment in seeing what's "his" being taken or shared.

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply

[Q-tip-boy]

Its nowhere near acceptable

[Q-tip-boy]

Even though we are in a relationship we are still attracted to some other people. Women can take it as an opportunity but that is what makes it bad When you "settle down" with someone, it doesn't just mean being only with him/her. It also means that you are rejecting all the other people who you can potentially get attracted to. So if you're in a relationship, never do it because there's no point in being in a relationship is you wanted someone else.

[Zer0Ghost]

@asker no worries @Q-tip-boy Dude, if you want monogamny, literally no one is stopping you. But no one, and I mean no one, should get to enforce the status quo if it doesn't work for them just because you don't like it, or because it doesn't fit your idea of what a relationship should be. I don't like poly, so I don't partake, but I also have no right to say it's horrible because it doesn't fit my concept of "relationship" OP asked WHY, not if it was right or wrong for them, I don't get to make that judgement.

[Q-tip-boy]

Whatever... Liberalism is okk but there's a limit to everything. It's not acceptable and well you should save people from making wrong decisions.

[theharlequin]

I'm sorry, but the guy you've wasted 7 years of your life with is broken. You need a new one.

[Asker]

Really? Why do you think this?

[theharlequin]

Because no man with balls would want another guy to touch his girl. I'd kill a guy who touched my woman. I know, 'cucking' is a thing these days, and every time I see it, I laugh because they aren't men.

[Asker]

Ya I’m on the same page as you.. Just want to know if others feel similar as him and why

[nasty4fun]

You are just judging because you don't understand it's a turn on and that's it.

[theharlequin]

@nasty4fun Because relationships are nothing but a feeling and a turn on? Hahaha go back to your doll and leave women to real men.

[purplepopsicle]

Ahhh... the 7 year itch, is what it's called. He wants an open relationship. That is where you will still be together and have sex, but he gives you permission to sleep with other guys because he might want to sleep with other women. He was ok with it the first time because you didn't like the guy, but beware! You may like the other guy next time. Maybe even begin to desire and want him more than your guy of 7 years. Maybe he will have a bigger package and please you more. Every couple I have known that got involved in the "swinger" type love lifestyle, has ended with a breakup or divorce.

[MajorZero]

Interesting case, I’ve heard the option of a threesome FFM but not MMF.

[Asker]

Ya crazy huh? He’s not what so ever gay he just wants to see me do it with another guy and join but why?

[MajorZero]

Don’t es t to sound rude but maybe it’s a good chance for you :D, experiment a bit and get implicated in s controlled hook up with someone you feel physically attracted.

[Asker]

Your not rude.. I have thought of this myself, but I’m afraid of what it might lead to.

[MajorZero]

Be careful what you wish for :), I learned the hard way that open relationships And similar are not for everyone because it can open a pandora box. I

[Asker]

Yes exactly that’s what I’m afraid of.

[MajorZero]

Honestly I suggest no to do it unless you are sure of your feelings for your SO. Not to sound dramatic but my fiancée cheated on me because she was Madly infatuated with a guy from work. The opportunity arose and well she cheated. It hurt a lot and that expérience show her that she was not happy with our familiarly and sexual life and having sex with a stranger made her feel alive. It hurt a lot, so the lesson it’s that you might find something you don’t want to find. Tread carefully.

[Asker]

I’m so sorry.. I have been cheated on too by my ex and I know how much it hurts.. funny thing is, his ex cheated on him and he told me he was very hurt.. Even insecure with me in the beginning of our relationship.. He knows I only want him and I would never cheat.. Like I said he is jealous even if I say a guy is cute on Tv so I don’t.. that’s why I don’t understand this.

[LiamSaw]

Morally it isn't right, and it sounds like your boyfriend has been watching way too much porn.

[Asker]

Your right morally it isn’t right.. I have strong morals and beliefs.. it kind of breaks my heart.

[nasty4fun]

Well I think it is erotic for my wife to do the same. It's like bragging what you got and showing what she will do for me.

[Asker]

Really? So you have experience?

[nasty4fun]

Yes I do. A woman who will submit to fucking for her man is a jewel of untold value.

[Knowbetternow1]

He’s looking for a rush. It’s addictive and unhealthy for your relationship and you. STD’s are rampant and what he’ll need to get aroused will only get more intense. I’m saying this because I’ve been there.

[Asker]

That’s what I told him.. Once I do it it’s going to open the door for him to want more and different things.. Thanks for your reply

[Knowbetternow1]

You’re welcome. I’ve been down that path. There is no end and it’s very dangerous to your relationship and health. Good luck

[Asker]

Thank you

[grega239]

a man who likes to see his girlfriend get plowed by another guy is not that manly. sharing your wife is a cuck move and pretty pathetic

[Anonymous]

It satisfies his bi-curiosity and by using a dildo, you will be caught in a heat of passion leading to a more satisfying oral experience for him. in my opinion.

[Asker]

That’s definitely not it.. he is not bi curious.

[Anonymous]

STRICT WARNING dont do it. NEVER
He is having a cuckolding fantasy. Its not merely a fantasy. Its a transformation process. I have this fantasy myself and i warn you NEVER do it. I am telling you, its dangerous. the male person who is into cuckolding keeps reading experiences of people who actually performed this act. And they are somehow convinced that it will make his relationship with his partner better. they slowly shed their inhibitions.
For example, some men who are Not okk with someone kissing their girlfriend. They slowly start thinking that it is okk.
So, that's how it works. These men slowly shed their inhibitions. It is complete transformation process, not merely a fantasy. Transformation of thoughts, emotions and even sexual orientation.

Stop having sex with him until he makes a promise that he would completely forget about it. PLEASE dont do it.

It breaks the trust.

He's saying this because he has already read thousands of articles on internet about cuckolding.

I have always fantasized about being with a single person all my life. even though i was not familiar with this term "cuckolding" i was always aroused by the idea of cuckolding. It was just a fantasy. I didn't knew that people actually did this act. But when i was got to know that this is done in reality. I was shocked and thought "how could anybody do this?"
Then slowly i started comparing it with my future life. "How would it be if?" kind of thing.

One most important question that i have asked to myself.
1) Was that something that i had expected with my future life?
My answer-
Nope, before becoming familar to the term cuckolding and before knowing that people do it in reality and before comparing it with my future life, I HAVE NEVER expected anything of that sort in my personal and private life.
I have always dreamt about having a single woman in my life , having kids and living peacefully. in any of my romantic fantsy, i have bever thought or expected any kind of non-traditional relationship.

So why should i do something that i have never expected?

2) cuckolding fantasy has three main reasons

It is a kink. It may or may not be a fetish though. IT is a firm of sadomasochistic act.

Men enjoy the thought that their wife is too hot and INSATIABLE

It's kind of showing off your partner and exploring her wildness.

IT IS SIMILAR TO A MOTHER (the cuckold husband) WHO KEEPS BRAGGING about how cute and intelligent and tallented her CHILD (hotwife) is!

[Opinion Owner]

the cuckold husband also want to be cared by his wife like a Mother cares for her child and at the same time he enjoys that she's too hot to be satisfied. One more question you should ask is Is it valid? Is it a legitimate act? Nope, its not a legitimate act. Because you wouldn't have married him in the first place if you didn't want to be only with him. Marriage is strictly and necessarily between TWO people ONLY. . Okk , you , the cuckold husband , want her to enjoy her wildest dreams. Its like a parent who is happy because his child is getting what it (the child) . But parents do scold their children when they start demanding too much. Parents won't provide their children everything that the child asks/wishes for. Its not a good thing to do anything in excess, right? Another thing is that If you can't marry a prostitute or a slut or a whore, then how can you stay with such a lady? wouldn't you try to stop her if she's doing anything wrong?

[Opinion Owner]

When you start opening up to other men, your private life becomes your public life. Sex was a part of your private life before trying it for the first time, right? doesn't IT. SATISFY YOU. KNOWING THAT SHE. DITCHED ALL THE OTHER MEN IN THE. WORLD FOR. YOU. what can be more satisfying than this feeling.

[Opinion Owner]

Sex is not merely enjoyment. Sex is a TOOL. Sex is a tool used to build, maintain and improve intimate/romantic and EMOTIONAL relationship between two people. A cuckold husband is basically an EMOTIONALLY. DAMAGED person. 50% of his emotions are damaged or at least hurt when his wife cuckolds him. Women involved have two choices 1) completely reject the idea of cuckolding and try to improve and develop emotional relationship with their partner 2) take it as a "opportunity" to fuck thousands of men that they have dreamt about. My suggestion = Ditch the opportunity and take it as another opportunity to proove your love. Proove that no amount of sexual pleasure is worth hurting any of his emotions and his trust. Cheating with consent is also cheating. Even though you cheat with consent, his trust will still be broken and he will land in a shock that you can actually do it to him. After breaking this trust , the man would want to leave the woman.

[Opinion Owner]

But since all of it happened with consent, he would be forced to continue the relationship. Even though it gives him sexual pleasure, he won't be able to get past his emotions. Sexual pleasure wouldn't matter anymore. He would want to leave her. Most men dont realise it before doing it. And guess what? When you'll become old , you'll both realise that you didn't actually get anything out of it.

[Opinion Owner]

Most important thing, These kind of things happen because people are unable to find SATISFACTION in their relationship. Satisfaction includes sexual life too. These things happen because people feel tge need of excitement in their sexual lives. But these people fail to realise that it's their private relationship and they should bring this excitement themselves without inviting a third person and breaking their marriage. Its time to start realising how our life would have been without our partner. Most people do it because there always exists some kind of a VOID in every relationship. Marriage means two people only. FILL. THIS. *VOID* YOURSELVES.

[Opinion Owner]

The hotwife is basically a whore and if you can't marry a whore. then why do you stay with her. The man's cuckold fantasy and other reasons that i have stated for people adopting this life style are mere excuses for the woman to become a whore or a slut. And i am sure , any whore will give you any similar set of stories (excuses) for becoming a whore. That's why there's no difference between a whore and a hotwife. All whores have to be treated the same way and all hotwives have to be treated the same way as the whores.

[Anonymous]

Research cuckolding, it will tell you all you need to know. You saw the warning signs, saw the redflags but you still got involved. There will be trouble ahead.

This behaviour is not for me, but some men enjoy this. I think it's a dysfunction because it goes against nature. I bet he wants you to find BBC too. Good luck.

[Asker]

What’s BBC?