If you could not fulfil all of your partner's sexual desires, you would encourage them to see other people to fill the gaps?

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But what if they are looking at incorporating BDSM play

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  • I personally like BDSM play so thats not an issue. But in some ways i would be open to it but on a case by case basis. I can understand a bisexual girl has the desire to be with a girl and would be open to a threesome. Or in case of BDSM bringing in a third party dominant or submissive. But i do want to participate in the act myself in some form.

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  • I wouldn't "encourage" her but I would leave it open to her, as an option. My wife has had sex with another guy. Not because I can't satisfy her but because I'm the only guy she had ever had sex with and considering we are in our late 20s/early 30s, she wanted to experience something new.

    To me, "not being able to fulfill a partner's sexual needs" isn't necessarily related to some sort of physiological problems. Of course that can be a reason but it doesn't have to be. Rather, I believe it is strange to think that one single person could fulfill ALL needs and desires of another person. In any other context, such a presumption would seem ridiculous. For example no one would come on the idea to suggest that people should only have one single friend. Ideally, we have many different friends for the different things we enjoy doing. Maybe one friend is great to hang out at the pub with and have deep conversations with but he's not so good to party with. For that you've got a different friend.
    It's the same in romance. A man (or woman) might be a wonderful soulmate and partner but they might not be sexually compatible with you. Or at least not entirely. That doesn't mean they are bad in bed, it just means they are kind of different from their partner.

    In the case of my own relationship, my wife loves sex with me but she also loved the experiences with the other guy. To me that makes total sense. These two things are not mutually exclusive. I love chocolate cake and I also love steak. And on one day you can have one and on another day you can have the other. There's no need to have only chocolate cake for the next 50 years, even if it's the best chocolate cake in the world.

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  • No. That is more like a open relationship then and I am not into that. If a partner feels so passionate about a fantasy that I may not feel comfortable with to the extent that they need to find someone else then there is something severely wrong with the relationship. There is more important things than just sex and fantasies in a relationship.

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  • I don't see the possibility of me not fulfilling all of my partners sexual desires no matter what. If it was something like gay sex, or something with him being submissive, I wouldn't be with him in the first place.

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    • Oh and if they were looking to incorporate BDSM play, I'd do it. I'm okay with experiencing pain and stuff for my partners pleasure.

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    • what about bondage tape, collars and the intense kinky toys?

    • Maybe I guess so, yeah

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What Guys Said 33

  • Hmmm probably not. But if it were like she was bisexual and wanted to include a woman in the mix, I wouldn't know what to do about this. I'd probably have to have a lengthy discussion about it with her and reassess how my feelings are about all of this. Very conflicting for sure. I really don't know what my conclusion would be in all honesty. It's easy to say, sure, she can have her cake and eat it too, but is it fair on the other side of the coin to have to put your partner through this conflicting situation? It's one thing a fetish like BDSM, where you can learn and read about it and understand their desires and even try and help them out with it, that's not too hard. But if it's something like they desire to be with someone else and you aren't capable of giving it to them because of how you are designed or something, than really it's something that you can not accurately answer to one way or another without things like how the good the initial relationship is, how much in love one another is, what type of relationship it is, if it's a physical aspect and not that they don't love you less, etc, etc, etc.

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  • If you're that incompatible with someone then maybe it isn't meant to be. I can't think of anything that couldn't be resolved one way or another (without becoming a cuck)

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  • Keep practicing with him you will get his desires met practice makes perfect

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    • Sometimes it is not about that is it, perhaps they just want to experience something new, inject some spice

    • That’s fun also if that’s what you’re ok with

  • That is a toughie if you are not into it - I have been thinking about it for a minute or two - I don't think I would be comfortable with it - If it becomes a dealbreaker for them , it might move into a dealbreaker for me

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  • there is nothing i cannot do ;)
    there is nothing i cannot be
    thats in short words, im really fucked up in the brain i love doing crazy stuff in bed whatever it is ;p

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  • I wouldn't encourage them, but I wouldn't care if they did.

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  • That's not the solution. Such a couple should break up if one partner is that dissatisfied.

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  • I think if this was ok, most married men would need a secondary partner. ESP for bjs. I know girls on here are more sexual (hence why you’re on a sex site talking about sex with strangers), but many marriages are less than sexual and it’s mostnoften because of the woman losin interest. Sure, some women will want whatever on the side too, but that’s not a relationship. Turn that energy onwards towards your partner and make the best of it through compromise. Going outside is like... why are you together?

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  • No. Couldn't fulfill... give me an example? Do you mean she wants to do it 10 times a day and I can only muster 4 or 5 times a day?

    Well, assuming there is some sexual incompatibility, we'd talk about it, see what compromises we could reach, let's say that after 4 or 5 times I don't get hard any more or I'm too tired after 7 times. Would oral satisfy her... what else could we do?

    If no compromise can be reached we'd just have to go our separate ways. I'll never share a partner or have an open relationship. She'd be dead to me the instant she got with anyone else.

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  • your partner could not fulfill all of your sexual desires, would consider other people to fill the gaps?

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  • If she wanted to make love to a particular girlfriend, that would be OK with me, but apart from that, I would prefer she simply masturbate.

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  • I don't think so, especially if the other person is a man instead of a woman.

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  • Well I want to be able to do that, but I'd rather she not. But if she really really wants to and I have no desire to do what she wants, then maybe.

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  • No, I'd simply break up with them if it was absolutely impossible to comprise or make things work.

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  • Nope. If they even bring it up, I would probably break up with them.

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  • People are what you see is what you get. If you discover that's not working then trying to fill things in doesn't work out in my experience.

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  • No. You just have to up your game and repertoire, and improve in bed.

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  • Yea but I would limit them to sheep and midgets they can't cheat with anyone else but them

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  • The hell, no, just like I would not go looking if the situation were reversed.

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  • You should leave and move on instead of filling gaps for such hypersexual partners. Specially if you are in your late 40s or early 50s. Relationship is not all about sex but if you can explore something together like some dark fantasies that's totally okay but filling gap from others is not okay. That's the first sign of downfall of the relationship. Unless the little boy or girl is totally not working thne filling gap might me appropriate. Again you are not compatible for each other at that time.

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  • Absolutely fucking not. I don’t see what would hold me back from fulfilling all of his sexual desires myself. The only thing I wouldn’t go for is anal or any kind of deliberate infliction of pain, but if a guy was into that I probably wouldn’t be with him to begin with.

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  • You mentioned BDSM and that is the only gap I could not fill as I am not into more than mild playful pain.
    And also things like scat I want nothing to do with, and if my partner did, they would have to find a new partner.

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  • as my husband and I have already explored this, we are into threesomes and more-some,
    what most others forget or don't think about is that after a few years of it being the same routine don't matter how much you love your husband/wife/ bf/gf
    so with others I get to be undressed and my husband gets to undress some one different before sex

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    • Nothing but weirdos you talk rubbish most people are not like you 2 get lost this site is not for picking up girls nothing but 2 perverts

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    • When l read into it you are trying to pick up girls asking them t PM you for you and your weirdo guy and you think its fine to take money for sex

    • No l am not confused thats you thats sick in the head asking girls to PM you this is not a pick up site l dont need to change

  • I would try and work with them on what they like. If I still can not give them what they want then I am not the person for them.

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  • Sex is an important part (albeit not the most vital part) of a healthy romantic relationship. If a couple is sexually incompatible, they might want to think about seeing other people who satisfy them more.

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  • Well for starters I'm a bit into BDSM myself, so I don't see why that'd be an issue. Secondly, I'm sure we could come to some sort of compromise. Since I'm waiting until marriage, I intend to discuss matters like this (i. e. sexual compatibility, turn-on's, etc.) at some point (albeit one very, VERY far into a committed relationship) with my SO. If our tastes aren't reconcilable, well, I don't think the relationship will last. But I will be DAMNED if I let my husband seek out another woman. Sex at its core is supposed to be a fulfilling, loving experience shared between two people in love and in a committed relationship (our society's kinda gone off the rails with that one). If he wants someone who can satisfy his own desires without thinking how it'd affect me, I don't want him. We work together, or we don't--no third players allowed.

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  • No, of course not.
    I would either break up or try to find a solution in between.

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  • Yes
    And we have already added a third person for his needs

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  • Im trying to satisfy my partner during that situation.

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  • Lol no. I'f I'm not enough he can break up 🤷🏻‍♀️

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  • 😒 bitch please 😂

    (Just an expression btw)

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  • No zero chance

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  • Sure, I think it's something we could explore together.

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