Can people with sex experience please answer these questions?

[dragonfruitA]

I just recently lost my virginity and I'm still learning. My partner is away right now for military purposes and I want to "study" while he's gone. I always feel bad for ruining the mood by going, "I don't know what I'm doing" or him having to instruct me on how to do something. So I have these questions:

1. General Question: It seems I dry up really fast and so he always has to stop and get me a cup of water... Is that normal? Am I supposed to be extra hydrated beforehand?

2. Missionary: It seems I'm always so "loose" that he has to tell me to clench my vagina and thighs for more pressure, which is really tiring, but is this what girls always have to do or am I supposed to be naturally "tighter" somehow? If so, is there a way to be tighter?

3. Blowjob: He says I'm "actually pretty good" at it, but I can never tell how tightly to grip his dick with my hand and how tightly to wrap my lips around him - as tightly as possible?

4. Blowjob: Am I supposed to suck in or only move my mouth down his length?

5. Blowjob: Do I use my tongue?

6. Blowjob: I feel like my teeth get in the way sometimes - how do I fix that?

Please help. Thank you ^^

[partydelights]

Two girls answered well and I'll try not to repeat. This are some other points:

1) Get him to give you cunnilingus. You'll probably be wet from it. (As a guy, I claim it as a man's "job" to make my woman wet, orally. So if she doesn't lube up naturally, I'll lube her with my saliva.)

1b) If you're bold enough (smile) ... surprise him with doggy style the next time you fuck. (Read up or ask a question about it.)

2-4) Fellatio: Apart from skills, show some "attitude". Yes, slurrrrrrrrp with a little noise (not too much, act a bit, but naturally). Look into his eyes and smile if he stands and you kneel.

In short: Show enthusiasm. This is a MAJOR turn on to most guys because we really appreciate how our woman enjoys eating us.

5-6) How much tongue, how much teeth, how wet, ... ASK HIM. Different guys like such differently. But don't be too formal. just trial and error and observe his reaction, then simply ask "more?" "harder?" "like my sucking" etc?

Conclusion:
You're already doing very well giving him head. If you could, acquire his cum taste asap. So swallow.

Mistake: He emits, you hesitate, holds in your mouth, not knowing to swallow or spit. This will cause the "aftertaste" to linger in your mouth.

To do: When he says "I'm cumming" (a gentlemanly statement) or you discern he's about to shoot, push his penis deeper to your throat (not deep throating, don't do it yet) and swallow as soon as his cum reaches. It'll be less after taste. (Prepare a glass of strong drink by the bed if you need to...)

So have fun and I envy your boyfriend (smile)

[letsseeoh]

your asking wrong people, promise hed love to tell you how he like a bj. FYI if you can suck the whole length... bless you my child lol id marry that girl personally. to me more then one position for sex can be better some angles will feel deeper for the girl some will feel better for guy just practice all day you'll learn what not tooo try twice

[SaffronTowers]

1. If you aren’t wet during sex, that’s a problem with him - not you. Maybe try using lube.

2. Look up kegel muscle exercises on YouTube if you want to get tighter, if you don’t want to do that, wrap your legs around him in the missionary. It’s a great position for both you and him, and you effortlessly are able to tighten your vagina due to the position of your legs (he probably won’t want to pull out tho lol)

3. Don’t worry about how hard you grip his dick, focus more on the balls (lick every inch of his balls and gently cup them while you’re going down on him)

4. Both, mix things up a bit so he never knows what you’re gonna do next.

5. Yes, lots and lots of tongue

6. Practice makes perfect. In the short term, try having your lips over your teeth while you go down on him. But this doesn’t feel or look very sexy, so you might want to practice sucking normally on a cucumber until you get the hang of it.

If you want any more tips feel free to DM

[iskg679]

I disagree with the first thing that this @SaffronTowers said. Many women have this issue. My ex-girlfriend had this issue. Even though she was very much mentally attracted to me, sometimes that didn't translate to physically attracted during the time that we would have sex. Just use more lube.

[SaffronTowers]

Uhhh, if you couldn’t make her wet without lube, that’s a problem with you, not her. You should be physically and mentally attracted to your partner for this exact reason.

[iskg679]

@Saffrontowers There are instance in which women are physically and sexually attracted to their partners, but just don't get wet. You should read the book ''come as you are.''

[MF_Treestar]

1. Keep a watter bottle by the bed, that she help. You don't go to the gym without one do you?

2. that doesn't sound right to me, unless he is unusually small, or using a condom that is too small that shouldn't be a problem.

3. not so tight that you hurt him or make yourself tired, but pretty tight.

4. Suck, move your mouth, use your tongue, mix it up a bit. If you aren't having fun what is the point?

5. Yes.

6. Practice, I'm sure he won't mind helping you.

Bonus: learn from an actual professional.

https://www.youtube.com/user/sexplanations

[jimyee]

Drinking a cup of water isn't going to make you wet, it doesn't work that way. Some girls are natural on the dry side, buy some lube.
I've never heard of someone having to clench their thighs and vagina.

[7Roses]

I'm so sorry Saffron. You need some education.