Am I bad at giving head? I am trying to figure out if I am good at blow jobs or not, but the guy I'm with gives NO feedback?

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I've asked for critiques Many times and hell say it was good but then after two years of deep throating he says getting deep throated is uncomfortable. how am I supposed to get better at making him feel good, when he's not honest?
Rate my blow job!!
So taking it from the top the blow job I just gave, from start to giving up (EXPLICIT):
I pushed him onto his back and gave his tummy kisses while I palmed his dick through his pants. I peeled his pants off and peppered his hips with kisses. I grabbed big handfuls of his thighs and kneaded them as I gently mouthed at his balls. He is sensitive so I made sure to only gently lap at them. He was rock hard. I left a trail of kisses from his balls up to his head before downing it in one go. I wrapped a finger and a thumb around the base to cover what I couldn't get in my mouth. He doesn't like deep throating so I didn't take him in past the back of my mouth. I let my tongue massage his cock and I bobbed my head, keeping my hand in contact with my mouth, but making sure to give a slight twist of the wrist on the way up. He was getting less hard. After sucking and bobbing for a little while, my hand was drenched in spit, and I pulled off to give him a few wet tugs with just my hand as I smiled up at him and kissed his thighs. He still felt soft to me. I couldn't tell if he was enjoying this or not. I'm blind without my glasses, but he has said he is sensitive to oral in the past, so I kept giving him a slippery handy instead as I trailed kisses back up his tummy. I gave his nipples wet kisses and sucked on his neck as I dragged my fist up and down his cock. I gave him a kiss and asked him what he wanted to do. 9/10 he says, I don't know. Tonight was no different. He asked me what I wanted to do and I gave him a kiss on his forehead and said I want to make you feel good. (1/2)

LesterJester · Accepted Answer

In all my years, not one single girl I have been with has been able to make me orgasm from a blowjob or hand job.

I enjoy them and they feel good but never good enough.

I apologise, as I didn't read through all of your description, but I did catch that that this example of yours was about 15-20mins. To me, that's just too long. It's a foreplay kind of thing that should be no more than 10mins.

Dry hands aren't an issue, but gripping too tightly and yanking the sh*t out of it is an issue. A little grip but not too much so the penis should slide through the hand with little friction. If it goes on for too long and is too rough, most would start to go flaccid because it's no longer pleasurable. One girl I knew almost ripped mine off because she was being way to damn rough, gripping way too tightly and yanking way more than she should have been.

The other thing to consider is that if you want your partner to orgasm from oral or a hand job, you can't be doing one thing, then doing another, then doing something else every min or so. Switching from hand, then to mouth, then back to hand, then mouth, then focusing on the head then the base, and so on... You end up resetting his focus. A steady and consistent rhythm of whatever seems to work the best for pleasure is what is key. Eventually your partner will start to focus on that rhythm and will be able to relax a bit more, which eventually leads to possible orgasm.

Switching to something else resets that focus and you essentially start from startch again.

Re-reading through your description, it sounds like, although you obviously enjoy trying to provide him with pleasure, that you're simply trying too hard and doing too much for too long.

If you don't want him to orgasm from oral, keep it around 5 mins and then let him do something to you or go into sex. Don't give him to many sensations at once to focus on and don't switch things around too often. Let him focus on one thing at a time.

Granted this is not all your responsibility to figure this out and yes, he should be helping you figure this stuff out. We can only assume based on limited information and our own experiences. Chances are he just doesn't want to make you feel bad due to how much you're trying, but also he sounds like one of those guys who doesn't like to demand their partner do this or that and sound controlling. I am sorta that way where I prefer my partner to do whatever they want while I do what I want to her.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

Ask him what's going on. Here're some tips on doing that. Some guys (why is a mystery to me since I love being deep throated), don't like blow jobs.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Is he the first guy you have given one to? If not what did other guys say? Also how many times have you tried with him? Do you know if he enjoyed It from others if he has been with other girls?

The only thing I can think of after reading your description is make sure it is wet before you start so maybe after you go from the balls start licking all around it before then slowly go for it while still licking all around while you go down (since he doesn’t like deep throating) don’t go all the way down and just gently hold your hand at the bottom sliding it up and down.

weysally · Accepted Answer

the fact that you gave it a twist and he was less hard should have told you something, I haven't met a man yet that likes deep throat, they all seem to like the tongue around the head and across the hole at the top,
and another thing I have found out is they love eye contact,
I love being teased so I tease them by moving away from that area and then going back, alternating from one thing to another, I think men are like us, the same isn't good but changes are

-sunflowersss- · Accepted Answer

You're fantabulous queen

Dargil · Answer

Your description is elaborate and interesting but reveals, in my view, why blowjobs "fail". If you want to engage in teasing foreplay, stay with a handjob/erotic massage. A blowjob should be the main event, bringing him from (nearly) flaccid through to a strong, productive orgasm. I've written this and call it "Blowjob 101".
A productive BJ is not passionate sex. It's skilled, nurturing sexual therapy. Done confidently and without drama, it will give him deeply intimate sexual pleasure and give you the satisfaction of a (blow) job well done.
It has one simple goal. Get him highly aroused and for long enough to build for a strong, "productive orgasm" and then bring it through to a decisive finish. Once you understand what he needs; when and where he needs it, (he probably can't tell you), you will get it right every time and he should cum in about 15 minutes, foreplay to finish.
Do it in 3 steps.
*Foreplay; an erotic massage, knees to nipples. Don't overdo his "package" at this time. You don't want him to cum too early because it will be weak and disappointing.. You want to get him fully hard and flowing precum but not "closing in" on orgasm. The "semen pipeline" becomes in emergency production mode and you want to give it a little time to "load".
*Work-up, steady bobbing, sucking and hand-stroking all in sync. No need to go too fast. Your mouth goes down to just below the head of the penis. Your hand takes care of the shaft. Cup, lift and massage his balls with the other hand. Arousal to orgasm is like climbing a down escalator. Keep a steady and gradually building pace. He can lose ground if you pause or slow down. When he starts to buck and breathe deeply, go for the finish.
*Finish; faster and more aggressive bobbing and sucking. Hand stroking becomes independent and as fast as you can manage. When ejaculation starts, stop all mouth motion except sucking during the first rapid-fire squirts while still stroking rapidly. Then resume stroking more slowly to coax out the final squirts. Keep straight sucking gently until he unplugs.
This probably seems mundane but it gives the penis what it needs when and where it needs it. Extraneous antics like teasing and deep throating are wasted, distracting effort. An effective blow job can last from well under 10 minutes to up to 20 minutes and will leave him feeling spent and grateful. Nothing you can do for a guy will make him feel more loved.

catmandoes · Answer

I would love that blowjob. Sometimes if a blowjob is too slow the cock gets a little soft, sounds great though.

Kenni · Answer

You do know that not every guy loves bjs right?

nylonmoocher · Answer

If he's not screaming in pain and erect, carry on

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Well it seems you are good at least describing the situation. LOL ;)  by the way may i ask how old is he?

shades777 · Answer

A women who is willing to be the freakiest usually wins.

if you want to swallow or receive a facial and tell me that, I'm most likely going to climax for you.
if you want to spit it out, or act disgusted by my semen, then that's the last time your giving me a blowjob.

And I making myself clear?

if a man barely lick's your vagina are you going to ask him to do it again. Of course not. Same goes with a blowjob.

You give it all you got, and enjoy it, and let me know you enjoy it.

Honestly you should know if your blowjob sucks or not. Be honest you probubly didn't give a real effort and you used your teeth, had rough hands.

if you really want to know how to do it right, go to a porn site and see which blowjob videos get the best reviews from men.

Rolla78 · Answer

I don't believe that you are doing anything wrong. Hell, you had my attention, while reading this. Your technique was good. I think he might have a issue somewhere. But, if he came, you are good.

Bismarck_96 · Answer

That sounds like a pretty bomb ass head 😛

CuriousAZ · Answer

he's gay

Am I bad at giving head? I am trying to figure out if I am good at blow jobs or not, but the guy I'm with gives NO feedback?

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