Why do you consider going to the strip club cheating?

[Anonymous]

Guys like me don't like lap dances. I prefer to just have a beer, watch the pole dancers and bullshit with a buddy. I personally don't see the problem as it's not different than watching porn. Porn being a little worse in my opinion but still nothing wrong with it as everyone masturbates and everyone watches it from time to time. Thing is I don't love the women in porn or on the stage. They mean nothing to me as a person. To me it's just entertainment. You as my girlfriend/wife are someone I would take a bullet for. I kinda feel the jealousy is unfounded. Enlighten me?

[ak667]

I'm similar but I actually invited my wife to strip club and she enjoyed it too much. I had to stop her from making it rain too much since she spent over $100 in tips and then started buying drinks for all the girls.

But it's kind of hard to explain to some girls if you're the type that doesn't find it a particularly sexual atmosphere which seems bizarre maybe to even a majority of guys if not girls as well. I just liked the atmosphere. It's a bit more entertaining to go to a bar with naked ladies in the background. And I never bothered with table or lap dances. I did try that the first time I went to one when I was single and then it was like $25 for one song which seemed ridiculous to me.

Anyway, with my wife it helped to bring her along. She saw that it was just me chilling out with buddies and we weren't getting raging boners looking at girls or even spending that much time looking at the girls. She started to understand the appeal a bit after that.

Actually with the way I work, a girl should be more worried if I go to bar or night club than strip club. With bars and night clubs that actually can involve some very flirty and sexual kind of behavior. I got laid going to regular bars and night clubs. Never even got close in strip clubs.

[ak667]

My wife was like one of those guys who were too addicted to the strip club and constantly visiting the ATM and you're like, "Dude, how much did you spend?". I had to pull her away that way. She was just having too much fun with it. But that did help when I brought her along with us to show her it's not a big deal.

[ak667]

For me I get a pleasure out of "seedy" places. There's some excitement to just the atmosphere of places like casinos and strip clubs -- the feeling of vice. But I'm similar with casinos. I don't particularly enjoy gambling and find the lowest-stakes craps game and just drink and barely bet. I just like the atmosphere combined with the socializing and drinking. There's something to it that's more appealing to me than like a regular bar.

[Asker]

I'd take us for kindreds. I tip my hat at you sir. Also you right. I get laid at least the majority of the time when I go to a nightclub. Bar I have much less luck. Strip club no luck. The strippers try to talk to me to get me to buy a dance but I dont I will tip them, but I also dont go crazy and I dont stare. Just chill with the bros

[ak667]

Cheers. I never actually thought it was *that* sexual. I don't know but it might be in part because I took figure drawing as part of visual arts courses and got used to drawing naked people (male and female). So maybe I got desensitized a bit to just nudity of a type that doesn't necessarily suggest that me and the girl are going to have sex, if you will. I still get excited if I undress a girl in a seductive context, but a girl dancing around on stage and pole dancing doesn't really do that much for me -- it's kind of interesting and attractive but it's not even like watching porn to me. It's just "interesting background for drinking". I don't go home all sexually frustrated or anything like that. :-D

[Asker]

100% feel the same way. It's not at all sexual. How do I put this. Women that aren't ok with strippers, models who pose nude to be painted. They dont respect those people. They associate nudity with sex. The female form is a beautiful piece of art. And it should be empowered. Instead its looked down upon. Sad really.

[rajson]

Would you like your girlfriend going to a male stripclub?

She would not be happy because then you rather go to stripclubs instead of having a good time with your girl, which will make her feel that she doesn’t satisfy you enough. I would not go to stripclubs if I had a girlfriend.
There is a difference between looking at women trough a screen and looking at women in real life.

[btbc92]

If that's the case, PLEASE don't date or marry. ESPECIALLY get married. It's cheating when you want to see some girls dance sexually in front of you and it entices your imagination. Jesus says you even look at another woman, you already committed adultery in your heart. You're HURTING the other person, and why do they have to take your BS. They rather cheat FOR REAL if it means getting treated better by the other person who doesn't need to see other women. If your 'friends' are leading you to this lifestyle then you need to reconsider who your friends with. Because its either you or the girl. And if you want to have somebody who condones it then you need to tell that girl your terms for dating you that you like to go to strip clubs. I rather he told me the truth BEFORE dating him so that way I don't have to waste my time dumping him. That's all. And any girl who stays with you while it's hurting her is a FOOL. That's an indecent human being who sounds inhuman. It's still the same, it doesn't matter if its porn or going to the strip joint. It's all the same. And its all sin.

[Anonymous]

I don’t consider it cheating unless he lies about it. I’m pretty easy going and open minded about what I consider cheating. I don’t care about strip clubs or porn. I dont care if he flirts with another woman. He’s bound to find other women attractive, just because he loves me doesn’t mean he’s gone blind and can’t see other women. Just like with anything else as long as he’s honest with me about going to a strip club I don’t care if he goes. He would be toeing the line with a lap dance though. I’m not a fan of women touching what’s mine. I don’t really need to worry about it though, he wouldn’t bother with that.
All I ask is that 1) he is honest, if not then no matter how small, if I catch him lying it’s cheating and 2) he consider the roles reversed, if he wouldn’t want me doing it then he shouldn't be either.

[MlleCake]

Well, some people still hold very conservative views about sex, and seeing other people naked, porn, etc.

Some people have more liberal attitudes about it.

I think this is the kind of stuff modern people need to talk over when they get into a relationship. It helps if you both start out on the same page as to what is ok and what counts as cheating. It's really a matter for the two people in the relationship to decide.

[ashleyb93]

It's not cheating just disrespectful to your partner..

[MsgtDixon]

It's not cheating if that all your doing. Maybe a little odd, but eveyone is in their own way.

[Tazgal]

Tbh i don’t know what to think. It doesn’t make sense getting a lap dance at the club if you have an S. O. I’d say yes I think going to a strip club is like cheating. Especially if I’m not there with you lol

[Asker]

The reason I disagree is because a relationship that lacks trust isn't a healthy relationship. If you can't take your boyfriend at his word that he is not going to cheat. Then you dont trust him. Most of the time people like you dont trust anyone because they have been screwed over far too many times but that wouldn't be your boyfriends fault would it? But before I make you feel condemned by me dont take me wrong. It wouldn't be your fault ether. It's only natural to feel paranoid after situations like that. However after some time it gets to a point you need to be able to move on from being betrayed.

[Asker]

Also lap dances are shit. I doubt we actually enjoy them lol. Yeah the view is nice but how far is it to get hard and get absolutely nothing out of it and have to walk around with that boner. It sucks. Which is why I'll never get lap dances. That $80 for 5 min can go towards video games or a night out with you, or some beer. Haha

[Tazgal]

Anything physical or lap dances and such is like cheating. I wouldn’t tell him not to go but I would tell him I wouldn’t appreciate him getting lap dances lol

[Tazgal]

Exactly lol waste of money when you can get it for free from someone you’re attracted to

[Tazgal]

If he goes to just watch, I’d say it’s disrespectful though

[Gambit3]

if i am with my girl, we both can give each other some fun.
No strip clubs for me... what is Thr use if we cannot confide into each other our kinks

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

"Guys like me don't like lap dances"

Curious what kind of guy you're talking about

[Asker]

Lap dances are stupid. You don't get to get off. And you spend a lot for money it. Screw that man

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Oh you made it sound like there's a certain class of guy that doesn't go for lap dances for some reason

[Worriedone]

A girl who feels that way is highly insecure and illogical, but doubt they would be able to see that...

[ItzLaura]

I don't, it's the same as watching porn, as long as there is no touching on purpose (aka lap dances are fine just not sex or kissing or touching body parts on purpose)

[ghostqueen]

It's not cheating. It's just tacky.

[9teen]

I don't care what you think. The relationship is over if he goes to a strip club. To me, it has to do with a lack of decency if someone goes to a strip club just to have 'fun' as if there is nothing else fun. I don't date trash.

[Asker]

If you felt that way I'd gladly throw you away too.

[zagor]

If you get upset over something like that then you don't sound like much fun.

[Asker]

^this

[9teen]

I wouldn't date you in the first place. How ironic, I don't need to visit a stripclub to have fun. Your fun seems very shallow and pathetic.

[delagarza]

I wouldn't class it as cheating, but I'd be very annoyed that my partner went without telling me OR inviting me!!

[princessfromjupiter]

I wouldn’t let my partner go to see strippers without me lol what
I would totally be up for watching porn with them too & wouldn’t care at all about them doing it alone. It’s definitely not the same as going to the stripclub. Everyone watches porn but people who go to stripclubs for any reason other than curiosity (so like more than once in their life) are typically very trashy & desperate, and simply aren’t relationship material for me.

[princessfromjupiter]

If you’re using the love argument even actually fucking through brothels wouldn’t be considered cheating by you then as long as you don’t „love the hookers“

[Sabrina_gomez]

yes I think it is

[Aenetoo]

No. I went to a strip club once with a bunch of guys. It was depressing. The girl taking off her clothes obviously didn't want to. We gave her money just becuz we felt sorry for her. I would've paid her money to put her clothes back on. My wife didn't even yell at me when she saw how bummed I was.

[Ninakumari]

No it’s not cheating but it’s disrespectful. I find stripping immoral.

[mbht90]

They clearly don't mean anything to you as a person.. (As you say). Or els you would not see them on pole or film as such. It's not cheating but it's also not healthy minded.

[TacosRAwesome]

As long as he doesn't go to the back room and it is not a regular thing, I don't mind.

[Rangers]

If they had sex with one of the whores, that's cheating. If they went there, had a few drinks, watched some dances, and made some new friends, whatever.

[xEmmorixX]

Perfectly ok if you're ok with her doing the same at a male strip club. It's normal and natural.

[Asker]

I'd be super ok with that. Just don't have sex with the stripper. That includes oral. I know how crazy bachalorette parties get. Lol

[Dark93]

It's not cheating, it makes your girlfriend think you just prefer looking at women other than her when you want to have a fun relaxing night.