He is less hard sometimes in missionary position? Is it my vagina?

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This doesn't happen very often with my boyfriend and I. He is only 20 and we dont do missio art very much. I suspect that it doesn't feel very good for him. He has told me that he prefers doggy style. He says he likes missionary but it is not his go to position with me. the other night we did missionary and when he was done with missionary he wanted me in doggy. I agreed of course but when he took his penis out of me after missionary, it was only half hard.. could my vagina feel looser or less stimulating in that position or something? Most of the time he stays hard in missionary and he has came like that before, but I know its not his preferred position and I'm wondering if It's because my vagina just doesn't exactly feel very good to him in missionary. Help?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

98% this has nothing to do with you.

The most likely reason for this is that he just prefers doggy position - maybe he's big on asses and loves the view, maybe it makes him feel dominant or in control, or maybe he's uncomfortable with you being able to see his face during sex.

It could also be the position itself. Traditional missionary (your knees up but your feet flat on the bed) is actually a difficult angle to access your vagina, especially without him laying his whole body on top of yours (which some women like, but many do not). It's much easier to thrust and easier to enter if you pull your knees back further, as it rolls your hips up more.

Mechanically, a guy has a narrow angle through which he can thrust, so he has to be able to line things up right or the height or angle will be off, it will be difficult to thrust or keep himself in without popping out every 10 seconds, etc. He may find that harder to achieve in missionary than in doggy, but a bit of adjustment might fix that right up.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

He prob just isn’t liking that position. Maybe try a wedge pillow under your hips? Changes the angles and deepness differently! Also, I love in missionary when she doesn’t just lay there. If she tries to move around and meet my thrusts, plus kiss me, plus use her hands to play with my balls or use her nails to scratch my back or dig them into my back or ass, that makes missionary so much hotter! If you like missionary like I do, because I love the closeness and face to face intimacy, try different variations of the position. Check out some ideas online or in sex positions books.

AustinMan · Answer

Have him try missionary but kneeling between your legs. He can get leverage that way.

Worriedone · Answer

Does he go hard and fast in missionary? It’s the hardest position to go hard and fast relative to others. Sometimes physical exhaustion messes with your wood. Doggy does often feel better, but almost impossible it feels good in one position and not good in another. A man’s erection issue is almost never the woman’s fault or anything to do with her at all...

reptocarl · Answer

No it isn’t anything about you or your pussy. Stop worrying

Browneye57 · Answer

You're confused honey. Position doesn't have anything to do with tightness or erections.

Ayer93 · Answer

Fucking hard and fast is usually what it takes most guys to cum. The asshole is generally tighter than a wet pussy regardless. It's a different sensation altogether. Him preferring anal has nothing to do with your pussy.