Is it okay to be 18 and still a virgin?

Question

Everyone has had their first times, and I just think it`s weird how it seems so normal. I wanted to wait (not until marriage) until I got older, but is that weird? What do you think? Have you had your first time or still waiting?

DJB72 · Accepted Answer

I was 18. I thought I was in love, but I realise looking back that I loved the idea of being in love, not the girl.

After 2 years together we eventually had a fairly messy break-up.

It was 7 years before I had another relationship. We slept together on our first "real" date, after being friends a couple of months. It was intense, passionate and very physical.

The relationship burned out in a few months.

I met my wife about 3 years later.

My biggest regret is that I have never been able to say she was the only person I ever offered myself to that way.

I didn't know her when I was with the other girls. It doesn't stop me feeling like I cheated on her.

I am a Christian. But my Faith is not what makes me wish I'd waited (although I think it should be).

Looking into my son's eyes is what makes me wish.

Myonzon · Accepted Answer

Gurl, Im 19 and also the same as you. It may get lonely at times but thats okay. We all have different views on when or how we lose our virginity. So it's not weird and it's normal. Don't listen too much if friends tell you like "oh you're missing out" and all. You do you.
For my case, I'm waiting and would rather lose it to a girl that I and her feel really special towards to emotionally and especially trusting each other.
If you ever do wanna plan on meeting some guy, just be cautious of who you meet or even let inside you during sex. Because there are indeed guys out there who just wanna play and use a girl just to bang for pleasure and thats it you'd end up regretting losing your virginity. Be aware and careful. Oh and especially have safe protected sex!

MlleCake · Accepted Answer

Not weird at all. You decide when the time is right.

I hope it's a joyful experience when it happens for you.

Not a bad idea to think about starting on birth control. Get your Gardasil shots, Hepatitis A & B vaccine, and meningitis vaccine. Get tested for STDs (yes, there are some you can have even as a virgin).

Then you'll be ready when you meet the right person.

It's totally ok to wait for a situation that is right for you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's ok! I still haven't either and i'm 18. I've had the chance to many times and it's scary! is a big deal and you should be very close to that other person. It's hard if you're surrounded by friends that have but Yea you’re fine! Is your body and there’s no certain age to have sex

nofunkgiven · Answer

I'm 22 and still a virgin and I'm not ashamed of it. I don't think anyone should be ashamed of this. We all decide when to lose our virginity so don't feel embarrassed or pressures to lose it earlier.

heelieswithfeelies · Answer

It's totally fine to still be a virgin! Sex and abstinence are choices you get to make for yourself. I personally just don't enjoy sex - I identify as asexual, so it's not really waiting, it's just my preference. Deciding to be a virgin is uncommon, but shouldn't be a problem. It's kind of like deciding to be vegan. In theory, everyone should, and if someone makes fun of you for it, they're an asshole. However, that goes both ways - don't shame someone for having a lot of sex.

Jan_Classic · Answer

There's no correct answer for that. It's not OK to be a teenage mum, dumping school and higher degree. It's not OK to have no job or business or other means of existence. But about virginity there's no correct answer.

Kennethisapanda · Answer

im a virgin, do not worry, although it seems normal that most people do it, it really isn't, not by a long shot. I'm personally waiting until I get 3 things: a stable job, my own place of residence, and a car. I have friends who lost it at 14... freaking 14, it's not normal, don't rush into such important decisions, your first time should be special and on your terms.

SarahVanRensburg · Answer

I'm in the same position as you. I'm 18 and a virgin. I, on the other hand, want to wait until marriage to have sex which is weird for most people to hear. I don't think it's weird to be 18 and a virgin. It's your body and your choice on what you want to do with it. :)

BarbieSoFetch · Answer

Tbh I think you're okay, since you're a girl.

jerijay · Answer

I'm 18 and a virgin and I'm waiting till I get older. So yeah its okay

Lolo_ · Answer

it's pretty normal, finding the right person is important

Selina_Kyle_ · Answer

It is not weird non even a bit. I share the same thing and whoever thinks it is weird, I am laughing at them.

ZoeAdams2 · Answer

I was 17 and I wanted to lose it before I turned 18. I got pregnant.

sawno · Answer

100% ok

Miristheiss · Answer

Absolutely. Sexual diseases, pregnancy, feeling used, sexual comparison of past lovers. Sex isn't just a harmless game. There is nothing wrong with being very selective and taking your time to make sure your partner is committed to you and isn't using you. Teenagers having sex in high school is just stupid.

wootamandawoot41 · Answer

sure is kid sure is

turnmypainintopower1 · Answer

it is fine who cares you do you girl

AlexBlack007 · Answer

I'm turning 22 this Christmas and I'm still a virgin. If it's supposed to feel weird then there's something very wrong with me because I don't. 😅

YourMomIsCool · Answer

Of course it is. I don't know why people are always trying to grow up so quick. Just live a little

AlexD835 · Answer

Of course it's okay. You shouldn't feel pressured by anyone to lose your virginity. It may be weird i. e uncommon but that doesn't make it bad.

drdidier2 · Answer

If you really want some guy, go for it. If you don't want to fuck anyone, don't. For the love of god, don't fuck just to lose virginity, that's stupid. And being a virgin at your age is no sin, whatever religion or ideology you take.