Girls, how often do you experience sexual attraction? Are single girls basically asexual?

Anonymous

I have visited (Reddit) AskWomen, TwoXSex and GAG seen some questions about "how often do you experience sexual attraction"
A common opinion that most women shared was,

Very rarely, I need to get to know someone first. I almost always have to get to know people a little bit before I find them attractive bla bla bla

However women are basically asexual when they don't have an emotional connection toward men. They don't look at parts of the male body and have dirty thoughts, get excited or really even feel anything the way men do. This is until they have an emotional connection with a guy.

Most women say...
Looks alone doesn't make me feel anything more than appreciating a nice painting. Someone can be objectively good-looking to me, but until I get to know them I almost never feel any kind of sexual attraction.

Since most women on GAG and irl say they can see a guy and can acknowledge that he is good looking in the same way we straight guys can acknowledge a guy is good looking or not (absence of sexual attraction). Their sexual attraction happens when they’ve started talking to a guy & getting him to know him. Thats when they feel sexual attraction. They just have to have a connection with someone before they experience sexual attraction. A connection generally happens when they get to know someone a little bit better.

Broad shoulders, symmetry face, abs, back muscles, veiny forearms, well-defined calf muscles is just nice as like nice painting if they already don't know the guy well or the guy is not their familiar and if stated conditions aren't met.

If seeing handsome guys doesn't attract you then in what way you are sexually attracted to men, being non-demisexual?

Updates:

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Guys, too many fake pink accounts here. I asked this question towards real women. But I don't know why pink dicks always disturb me.

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Anonymous
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I don't know about other girls but for me sometimes I'm looking at guy's crotch.
I remember a day when i buy food there's a guy beside me, not too close but not too far and out of nowhere I'm staring at his crotch I don't know why.
I also stare at my co worker's crotch when i just get into the job less then 1 day, basically we just met a few hours ago.
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- Asker
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  You can stare at cockroach, pen, chair table etc. What is the difference between staring at these things vs staring at men
LisaLisa89 Guru
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We obviously all got the answer wrong last time. Presumably this is why you're asking again?
Most heterosexual women actually demisexual? ↗
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- Asker
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  How often do you experience sexual attraction? Do you experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys before knowing him, before talking him or without any interaction?
- Asker
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  @LisaLisa89 My dear brother are you alive now? Is it your psychological problem or mental illness that you have to comment on every post by saying asker is wrong but when asker want to know something your disable dick become more disable? How can you use this pink account when you have a disable dick. Bloody fake.
- LisaLisa89
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  I experience sexual attraction to my boyfriend because I love him. Just like any other normal person is sexually attracted to their partner. It's called love. It's different from lust, which is what you are interpreting as sexual attraction.
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- Asker
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  Sexual attraction is attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest. Sexual attractiveness or sex appeal is an individual's ability to attract the sexual or erotic interests of other people. Sexual attraction is not Love. My question was - How often do you experience sexual attraction? Do you experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys before knowing him, before talking him or without any interaction? You totally ignored that part rather you have said, you experience sexual attraction to my boyfriend because you love him. Now tell me the answer.
- Asker
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  Are you ignoring my direct question for your safety because you claim I am wrong. But you can't feel sexually attracted to guys until you fallen in love with him?
- LisaLisa89
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  I did answer your question, but if you're not intelligent enough to work that out then that's your problem, not mine. You are entitled to your own view of what sexual attraction is, but don't expect others to agree with your definition. In the same way, you can continue to believe that the sun goes out at night, the earth is flat, and the moon is made of cheese.
- Asker
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  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_attraction
  
  It's not me, it's you are entitled to your own view of what sexual attraction. See the definition from Wikipedia. I knew that you have some psychological problem or mental illness that you have to comment on every post by saying asker is wrong but you are right.
  
  I know I am not that Intelligent as like you that's why I asked a direct question.
  If you are honest enough the give direct answer without being asshole by ignoring main point and by saying bla bla bla...
- LisaLisa89
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  Try reading the article. I just have: ... physical or other qualities or traits... ... aesthetics... voice... clothing... ... criteria of the person who is attracted... ... etc... etc... Yes, physical attraction is in there but so is everything else. Enjoy your day. Good afternoon.
- Asker
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  wiki.asexuality.org/Primary_vs._secondary_sexual_attraction_model
  
  Try to read this
  
  Primary Sexual Attraction: A sexual attraction to people based on instantly available information (such as their appearance or smell).
  
  My question was -
  
  1. How often do you experience sexual attraction? Do you experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys before knowing him, before talking him or without any interaction?
  
  Answer this without being asshole because you have said I am Regurgitation of the same complete rubbish.
- LisaLisa89
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  I don't know what's wrong with you but you quite clearly get yourself off imagining that girls are guys and being incredibly rude to anyone who does not accept the complete bollocks you write.
- Asker
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  My question was - 1. How often do you experience sexual attraction? Do you experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys before knowing him, before talking him or without any interaction? Give a short answer. YES OR NO. Answer this without being asshole because you have said I am Regurgitation of the same complete rubbish.
- LisaLisa89
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  q. e. d.
- Asker
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  Now clear, you are just an asshole or a bloody dick. Next time if you comment on my any post I will show you who I am. LisaLisa89 username checked.
Anonymous
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I barely experience attraction anymore, but I’m not asexual. I masturbate daily.
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- Asker
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  Dear Brother, what's the reason behind your "barely experience attraction anymore"
- Opinion Owner
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  Why are you calling me “brother”? And because it hasn’t happened since like high school.
- Asker
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  What makes you not asexual? By the way why you are "Anonymous"

Most Helpful Guy

genericname85 Master
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there are some studies, indicating that women aren't attracted to like 80-90% of menso yeah they feel attraction but probably only when the guy is far out of their league.
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ivannna Xper 6
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If he is really attractive... like Chris Hemsworth for example then It might make me feel something more but won't become horny so I guess we experience it different than guys. So yeah it can compare to looking nice painting.. .
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- Asker
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  So yeah it can compare to looking nice painting. - It mean when do you look at nice painting and attractive guys you feel same? NO SEXUAL ATTRACTION? Asexual people also feel same. So you are asexual? If not then "when" do you experience sexual attraction?
- ivannna
  +1 y
  Not the sam but it can be similar... since guys are also living beings it can make me fantasize about having relationship with them or making out but I don't remember I ever fantasized directly about having sex with them... I don't think need for intimacy and emotional connection to feel sexual attraction makes someone asexual. It's not that I never want to have sex or I'm never horny.
- Asker
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  A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being "halfway between" sexual and asexual.
  
  I don't remember I ever fantasized directly about having sex with them - really? Then what makes you not demisexual?
  
  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gray_asexuality Read it.
  
  The way you described your sexuality is not normal female sexuality, it's demisexuality or gray asexuality.
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- ivannna
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  Never heard of this... What do u even consider as "normal female sexuality" ... I'm sure the major of females need emotional connection so they can open in sexual way. It could be called sexual introversion. 🤔 I don't know about this "demisexuality" but I'm not asexual for sure.
- Asker
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  "normal female sexuality" = normal heterosexual women experience sexual attraction or get feeling of sexual attraction when do they see attractive member of their opposite sex. Normal straight women are capable of feeling sexual attraction to someone they have no connection to, even if they wouldn't act on it. Generally women don't want to have sex with someone they have no emotional connection, it doesn't mean that they can't feel sexually attracted to him without emotional connection. But yeah, in short - actual demisexuality is when you really don't feel any sexual attraction to anyone without having an emotional connection to them. If you are not asexual then what is your sexuality, since you have said this "I don't remember I ever fantasized directly about having sex with them" LOL *When do you experience sexual attraction? And you also claimed women experience sexual attraction differently, can you tell me how your "women" feel sexual attraction?
- ivannna
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  I don't feel need to explain or define my sexuality. Since you are an expert in women sexuality you will figure that out on your own I said that we experience different than guys because it's not instant but it builds gradually and it's a bit more complex. It requires first some emotional stimulation to make us feel good and then physical. But I think the feeling at the end is same. You get horny
- Asker
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  Louann Brizendine in her book The Female Brain said those women who can't experience sexual attraction without emotional connection are demisexual and far from normal female sexuality.
  
  http://wiki.asexuality.org/Demisexual
  
  You don't need to explain your "weird" sexuality to me. But don't say all women are "weird" as like you that they are asexual before an emotional connection.
  
  Are most women demisexual? ↗
  
  Are most women Demisexual (no offense intended)? ↗
  
  Here all women said when do they see attractive men they feel sexually attracted.
  But who the hell you are to claim that all women are same weird as like you?
  
  Just accept you are abnormal. Just don't try to justify your abnormal sexuality in the name of " we experience different than guys"
  
  I hate when someone lie about their actual sexuality and and claim that she is norm when she is weird. demisexuals are 1% of total population
- Asker
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  You just don't explain others sexuality, just know about your demisexuality. And keep in your mind that most women are not as like you "abnormal"
- Asker
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  Even here Being born as a girl means being demisexual? ↗
  
  See you abnormalities, just go to a therapist and tell her about your weird sexuality. Then see what they see.
  
  "we experience different than guys because it's not instant but it builds gradually and it's a bit more complex.""" That's why the term demisexuality exist. Only 1% people are demisexual as like you. Why you are not accepting that you are not normal. And normal women feel differently.
- ivannna
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  I never said all woman are like that but major of them... stop twisting my words. So you made conclusion based on girls opinions on this site? That's a bit unproffesional. I think the only person that has problem here is you with accepting the truth.
- Asker
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  I think the only person that has problem here is you with accepting the truth that you are demisexual and demisexuality is not normal female sexuality.
  
  Can't you read http://wiki.asexuality.org/Demisexual this?
  
  A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form an emotional connection. It's more commonly seen in, but by no means confined, to romantic relationships. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being "halfway between" sexual and asexual.
  
  Most women are not demisexual, only minority are.
  
  Based on which data you are saying most women are demisexual and demisexuality is typically female sexuality?
  
  Or you can't accept your abnormal sexuality?
- Asker
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  Can you tell why can't you accept that you are demisexual and most women aren't demisexual?
- ivannna
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  I don't need data to understand how women sexuality works. I have friends also and I can see if there is any difference when it comes to this. Which I haven't find yet. The real question is why you can't accept that most women need emotional conection? You are the one that has a burn reaction here which indicates you are not so confident in your believes as you claim you are. I don't care if my sexuality is normal or "abnormal" but I don't know why do you care so much...
- Asker
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  I can't accept that most women need emotional connection in order to feel sexual attraction because most women aren't demisexual. Someone not wanting to or not feeling comfortable with having sex with someone they have no emotional connection to vs you really don't feel any sexual attraction to anyone without having an emotional connection to them IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT CHAPTER. I think you are conflating this. The real question is why you can't accept that most women don't need emotional connection in order to experience sexual attraction? You friends said that they can't feel sexual attraction until they experience sexual attraction? How many of them said? Just because you and your friends are demisexual that's why you claimed that women can't experience sexual attraction without emotional connection. You are the one that has a burn reaction here which indicates you are not so confident in your believes as you claim you are. Are you demisexual? Yes or NO?
- ivannna
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  MAYBE.
- Asker
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  The estimate of demisexual is 0.7% of the whole population, but you are saying it is the norm for women. Are you trying to justify your abnormalities in the name of norm?