How do you feel about hookup culture?

Question

recently, i received messages from a person whom i had previously seen in passing but had never actually spoken to at length after him seeing me on a social media site. the conversation started out fun and innocent, which turned to him complimenting me on my physical features, which quickly switched to him asking if i was into “sexual stuff”. i responded with an answer that made it clear that i only would if we were in a relationship, and i was not into hooking up. this made me wonder what others’ opinions on this hookup culture is. personally, i’m indifferent, but i would not participate.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Its terrible. Its actually been shown to cause a lot of problems down the line, with the increased number of sexual partners being directly linked to increased probability of divorce, cheating, depression, unhappiness in long term relationships etc. So I am very much against it. Obviously its their life and they can do with it what they will but I think its rather irresponsible to pretend like it doesn't have consequences (it also creates a mentality of disconnectedness in my opinion as they just go through people like they are just objects with a complete indifference to what this may do to them emotionally or what have you. It kind of creates a mentality that people are replaceable which is just going to make a true relationship much harder for them since the moment it gets difficult (and it will) they will just try to replace the person with another instead of fixing the problem (probably why the higher rate of divorce).

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I do not wish to participate in hookup culture. It is not my thing, as I want long term relationships.
That said, people have agency, and it is their choice (and indeed their right) to participate in that culture if they so wish. For some, that is who and what they wish to be, and that is ok.
However, they are (hopefully) adults, and should realise (or at least be informed) that there are consequences to doing so (some people display issues switching from hookups to longer relationships after large numbers of partners).
It then becomes a trade-off: is participation worth the consequences? For many the answer is yes, and all the more power to them for discovering what works for them. Sexuality is not something that should be limited externally (except when others are negatively affected), and adults should be able to make their own choices, that is part of what being an adult is.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The human species is evolving. You don't have to like hookups or friends with benefits, in order to understand that many chose those options because they were a more appealing choice. Love is a wonderful and romantic concept, but it certainly does come with it's own price tag.

candycanehearts · Accepted Answer

I don't know i dont mind if people do it but i also kind of wish it wasn't so popular, i feel like its kind of making it harder to be in a normal relationship

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think it hurts both men and woman and leads to the destruction of future relationships

windknowsmyname · Answer

dont like it. i want my partner or other be pure in terms of doing sexual stuff by relationship means not just being promiscuous.

Khaleesi89 · Answer

I hate it. It doesn't feel normal. It's ruining relationships, people's confidence and views on what is right/ wrong. Nothing is special anymore, females do as they please, men don't care either. It's just sad. Nothing is rare and everyone is shady. People cheat on their partners and their partner won't know about it. No one can be respectful enough of themselves and of their partners. The generation is messed up. Makes me feel scared wanting to talk to anyone. I don't talk to people now because of what's become of this world/ generation and how everything is so normalized that it makes me lose hope on anything pure/ good/ genuine/ true.

SweetgirlNS · Answer

I’m absolutely into hookups. The best of both words - sex without all the emotional crap.
I have a good list of friends with benefits and there’s always new friends I’m adding to the list.
I use an app “NICE” to keep track of all the fun.

eadlynschreave · Answer

Love it

MrNameless · Answer

I think its really overblown, for two reasons. One, Studies have shown that our grandparents have had more partners in their life time than us, despite casual sex seemingly being more acceptable in the 21st century
www.sciencetimes.com/.../...rents-grandparents.htm

Even then, technology and education of protection/birth control has changed tremendously and affected our behavior. A lot of people out there aren't getting it because they are obsessed with technology and staying indoors.. and interact less socially in person, causing them to be more awkward. Then of course there's protection/birth contro and safer sex overall as a result.. and lower birth rates in the west.

Hurlyburly · Answer

The whole "hook up culture" is something that I've only seen on TV so far 😅 therefore I do not feel much about it.

ZanyInternetName · Answer

I don't care. Let the others do what they want. Though I guess I have an absolute outsider's perspective, considering, well, that I'm highly unattractive to say it nicely, so such a story as it happened to you would not happen to me.

EmperorOfRussia · Answer

It makes our society getting more and more like a Bonobo society. People are behaving like monkeys, all they care about is "having some fun", not honor, truth, true altruism, worthiness.

A society like that has no future.

Marrry · Answer

Someone will get hurt always  I hate it

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

I don't agree with it, it causes problems, yet people are scratching their heads wondering why people are still catching stds and having unplanned pregnancies.

MaverickAngel · Answer

I dont get it personally. Its dangerous (STDs and stranger danger)... but mostly it takes the intimacy out of sex... without which I feel we are just going backwards and becoming animals. Just a sidenote: Intimacy and commitment are not the same thing. I find it sad that people are willing to expose their bodies but not minds/hearts to each other...

OnlyYouKnowThat · Answer

I think it is ruining people. Destroying people's ability to pair bond successfully and be happy.

mistixs · Answer

It is horrible

JudgmentDay · Answer

Indifferent. It is whatever it is.

Babsie1984 · Answer

I’m into hookups but I’ve just come out of a very long relationship and was recently diagnosed with an illness that will potentially change my life (or end it!) so my situation is a bit different.

I always practice safe sex and I tend to hook up with the same people over and over again, if we get on and everything ‘works’

Riggers · Answer

Utterly putrid. The sooner we all die the better :)

Pamina · Answer

GaG is the only place I ever even hear about what you people call "hookup culture". Never heard this term before I joined here.

Anyway, nothing wrong with hooking up. Some people enjoy it, some people don't. People are different and that's great.