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My boyfriend always skips foreplay/ignores my clit or any other thing that could get me off, and gets offended when I suggest he should do that?

I suspect he didn’t have much experience as we started hanging out. The first times we had sex I felt like he didn’t know where to put his hands and stuff. Than we didn’t see each other for about 6 months as I went on an exchange (we were not together but kept in touch and that’s when things got “sweet” between us, before we were just hooking up.

Its been a few months I’m back now and we are dating, but he has never ever gone down on me, he ignores my clit, completely skips foreplay. He also throws in my face the whole time the fact that while I was away he slept with this and that girl, that he had a threesome when drunk etc. Indont get why I would do this, I find it quite annoying. He gets frustrated when he asks if I came and I say no, but I tried to suggest I might need some more clit stuff and so and he got offended as if I was implying he didn’t know what to do...:

am I dealing with a jerk, or with a guy frustrated because he didn’t have much experience and he’s trying to hide it at any cost because he’s ashameed of it? I don’t understand...
He’s clearly inexperienced
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He’s a jerk
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  • I would say both, if he truly wants to make you cum he would listen to you. Even if he doesn't like going down on women he can find a foreplay game to do with you. You should also let him know bringing up stories of him fucking other girls is messed up. I dont like going down on women because my first experiences the women didn't really clean down there or something, it just smelled and tasted bad so I stopped doing it. My current girlfriend she smells and taste wonderful plus flavor lube makes it even better. Ask him his thoughts about going down on you. Communication is needed for great sex.

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  • Honestly that's exactly what I would expect from a guy that doesn't care about his partner in sex. First thing that i think you should do is to tell him that you don't want to talk about other girls. I say that cause in my experience girls get a lot more pissed than we guys would expect when we talk about that. And then tell him that you need more from him than just crude sex, maybe he'll get the memo.

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  • He’s probably secretly gay.

    • Lmao

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  • He could be either...
    Sit down and talk with him in a non-sexual situation.

  • If he keeps boasting about how he did this and that with other girls when he wasn't talking to you, chances are he did it for the title and not because he actually cared much. That is a dick move. He needs to cut it out or ditch him.

    As for foreplay and other stuff, either he's truly not into it or there's something holding him back that he's not sure of. Either way, communication is key.

  • Why is this your boyfriend 🤨

  • Sounds like he’s trying to convince u that it’s ur fault that he’s inexperienced and not willing to learn.

  • He's definitely a jerk for throwing your face the fact that he had sex with these other people while you were away. (It sounds like he's bragging about it.) As for the rest, yeah, he definitely doesn't know what he needs to know about the female sexual response and anatomy.

  • Of all things on earth, sexual intimacy is the most delicate and should be painstakingly respectful. Seems a simple resolvable issue but I not only doubt he can be fixed but believe that his selfishness will show itself in other ways. Get out now.
    A girl once told me that more can be learned by a girl about a guy from a half hour of cunnilingus than from an hour of conversation. If he is nurturing to your body he will be good to her in many ways.

  • Sounds like he might be both inexperienced and a bit of a jerk. He could try to please you.
    When i first hooked up with someone, i suffered from opening night nerves, couldnt perform. With no experience i focussed on her, found the g spot and clit and had her screaming

  • I vote A and B. If you can’t please your woman there is a problem, the whole point is to listen to your partner follow his or her guidance in what feels good, listen to the breathing and the voice of him/her. If I guy doesn’t like to lick that pussy clean and make you orgasm or at least put forth the effort to make you feel good then that’s just flat out selfish on his part. Eat that pussy like groceries and please your woman. Make her feel special. Make her know how much you care.

  • So teach him. Nobody becomes a expert overnight.

  • If he can't or won't push the right buttons for you, find someone who will. Especially when you try to tell him.

  • you should know not all guys are into giving oral sex and you can't force him.

    • Sure but it’s not just oral, it’s everything else too.

    • a guy doesn't need to give you oral but yet you expect it. that's your problem not all guys will do that and are disgusted by it and some wommen respect your boyfriend first maybe and ask how he feels about it first lo

  • sounds pretty selfish to me. I will never understand that in the bedroom. I'd address it and if nothing changes move on...

  • Why aren't you make a mature approx 35 years old boyfriend

  • leave the selfish cunt

  • He is a jerk..

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