Guys, Do all guys get erections when they see an attractive woman?

[Anonymous]

Or its only if he has sexual thoughts of her?

My husband thinks my sister is really attractive and i find him checking her out A LOT. Now im afraid he even had a hard on for her, by checking her out, all smiling, and shit. He used ti have it for me all the time when we were still dating, but after we married, he's stop. Now he doesn't even have any erections for me, he doesn't even have one when were going to have sex. And he's the one wanting it.

Is he not attracted to me anymore?

[Miristheiss]

Attractive women give men erections... under the right circumstances.

We don't instantly pop an erection the moment we see any woman that is attractive.

If she is attractive but is dressed in a normal outfit and covered and we just see her for a moment and go on about our day we aren't going to get an erection. We need to dwell on her with our eyes and thoughts. The more naked or sexy she is dressed or undressed can speed up the process but if I see a woman who is attractive but dressed fashionably, I see her for a moment, I recognize she's pretty but then I look away and go on about my business or I actually am talking to her and looking at her face I'm most likely not going to get an erection but if I instead see a woman with a nice shape but then I stare a little bit and I keep looking back at her and I start to imagine how she looks naked or I image how good it must feel to touch her, imagine her touching me... etc. then the erection my come.

[Red_Arrow]

Not “all”. Everyone is different. And there are times that they are hornier than other times. So one cannot generalize when guys will get elections.

I was married for 39 years (she died if cancer). When I was young and we had only been married a short time, I often became aroused seeing her naked. But only when it was normal in the situation. I often became aroused when she was clothed, but I was thinking thoughts of her.
We were nudists and often went to nude resorts and beaches. Getting aroused there would not be appropriate, whether over my wife or someone also. But I still admired attractive women. So nothing unusual about him checking out your sister as long as he doesn’t go overboard.
I certainly got erections when we were going to have sex. Especially when I was wanting it.
As @AustinMan suggested, you should see couple’s therapist. They can help couples understand each other and get along better.

[AustinMan]

I don't know exactly what's going on but I can tell you that I strongly recommend you find a good couple's therapist to work it out.

[Red_Arrow]

Definitely!

[theharshtruth]

We get hard all the time for all sorts of reasons. Nothing to worry about. Even if he is having sexual thoughts about your sister, still nothing to worry about.

[uravgguy]

Sounds like he needs a new stimulus from you, i wouldn't say he's completely not attracted though.

[octopusrebellion]

Maybe... when they were 14.

The thing with your sis - he may be getting off on the taboo nature of the attraction (novelty is a big aphrodisiac).

Sounds like you may need to add some spice to your situation there. Hard to know without more info. Did you guys have a great sex life then things dropped off? Do you stay flirty and engaged with him?

[jessture]

My god... do all women immediately play the drama card?

[ROCKS128]

😂😂😂😂😂
Could be, you must have become less attractive to him.
Guys dont get erection all time by looking at women.
Sometimes erections occur random, sub-conscious.
Most time its coz of attractive women, but its not always possible that the women infront of him is sole reason.

[pj034]

Can't say for anyone else, but I personally get random erections, but also I get one when I see someone who is to me, attractive, it could be he's the same

[Anon-ymous1]

Your post is alllll over the place and is about like three different subjects, for starters. Anyway, do we always get hard ons when we see a hottie-- sometimes, but usually no. Do we always think about wanting to fuck a hottie when we see her-- usually yes.
"Is he not attracted to me anymore." We have never met you or your husband, so obviously without being able to talk to him there's no way we could possibly know the answer to that. I'll say that you may want to read this though, because the answer is "possibly yes."
Girls-- If He Doesn't Want Sex, Something is Wrong. ↗
Good luck out there.

[Stan_Control_]

No.
Maybe.
Maybe you need more foreplay or try something new.

[abc--123]

Yes we do