Married man wants to get me pregnant?

[Anonymous]

So I am having a romantic “friendship” with my patient. At the beginning I didn’t know he was married but then his wife came over the doctor’s office and we became really close. She showed me a picture of him and their daughters and that’s when I found out they were married! He explained to me that he doesn’t love his wife and has been trying to leave her for a long time. Apparently she trapped him and got pregnant. So he married her cause she’s illegal and he didn’t want his daughters to struggle. He became a cop to support them. Now he’s a sergeant and works A LOT! They’ve been living together for like 5 years but apparently he “sleeps on the couch”. She doesn’t work and doesn’t drive. Even though she could! She also asked him for $100,000 so she could disappear out of his life. But he doesn’t have all that $! He said he’s willing to pay her little by little just to be with me. I don’t believe him at all!!! But we’ve became so close. I’ve never had such a crazy connection with anyone. He’s like literary my best friend. We’ve kissed but never had sex and it’s been 4 months since we met. And 2 months since we started talking. There’s one thing that scares me tho... I told him I got off birth control and he’s been telling me how bad he wants to cum in me and get me pregnant. He wants to do that while he lives at home with her? NO!!! I told him I really care about him a lot and want to be with him but he’s not giving me the attention I need. I secretly love him but he will never know that. Should I keep being his “friend”? I don't know what to do!

[Logorithim]

Are you serious? Get away from this train wreck- it will cause you nothing but problems.

-He will not leave his wife (these cheaters never do)
-He will have a difficult time supporting three kids
-He is dishonest and has bad judgement
-The wife is likely to go crazy on you when she finds out
-It's unethical to date one's patient, much less get pregnant by them, so you may be risking your career as well as your financial well-being
-You don't want to be a single parent if you can help it- it's hard, even with a good career, which you may not have after this
-He will not treat you the way you want to be treated- he wants to have his cake and eat it too

Tell him he can no longer be a patient of yours and boot him out of your life completely

[Asker]

Best answer. I started birth control just in case. But I will not be having sex with him as long as he’s married! I don’t want to be responsible for breaking up a marriage.

[Asker]

And a family *

[Logorithim]

Thanks for the MHO

[MrOracle]

Why are you so attracted to this chaos? Do you not realize that this relationship will be chaos forever? He has kids! They and the wife will ALWAYS be in his life, one way or another.

Two years from now you're going to end up on Maury if you don't end this now.

[Asker]

Sighs... I need to end it!

[Jan_Classic]

Wow his story sounds weird. Can be all lies. A survey is required: you're to stalk him or text to his wife/friends/neighbors to hear another half of the story.

[Asker]

His wife loves me. That’s the sad part. But she never talks about him romantically. She just says he’s a good father.

[Asker]

She also told me his family hates her and they didn’t go to their wedding. No one went to their wedding cause they knew he was forced to married her. He’s not happy!

[Jan_Classic]

If you text on a regular basis, ask her if she really wanted to leave him for 100 000$.

[Asker]

Nooo!!! I can’t cause then she’ll know I’m talking to him. Apparently he was giving her $50,000 but then she asked for $100,000 to leave him alone.

[Jan_Classic]

Look u need to know the other half of the story. If she gets pissed off = she really blackmailed him with 100k $. If she's still friendly = she may give an honest answer and may be not that bad.

[Asker]

I’m not asking her about that cause then she’ll know he’s trying to cheat on her with me. And that’s a no-no. I am just gonna keep to myself. Not going to give him the time or day!

[Jan_Classic]

Okay, wise choice.

[Zer0Ghost]

You can throw her under the bus all you want, you're still the one fraternizing with the patient and seriously questioning if you should continue it, when it should have ended at "he is my patient"

Even if he wasn't, are you really objective enough at this point to not believe anything he says if it means continuing the relationship, because I'd say a hard "no" to that one, too.

[Asker]

It’s best just to end it 😔 Even if we end up together there’s a high chance he might do the same to me.

[Caunsos]

I you seen this behavior that is claimed his wife is doing. Or could he be lying so you won't feel guilt for having sex with someones husband. Dude is playing you. He hide is marrage from you and when you found out he portrays it as be emotionally abusive. Find someone worth your time because this guy is bad news.

[Asker]

He wasn’t hiding it. I never asked. And I guess he didn’t say it cause he didn’t want to ruin things between us or maybe thought I’d go run tell her since she’s my patient too.

[Caunsos]

If you knew he was married would you have started a romantic friendship. I assume no. He start romantic relationships without telling he was married. Hide the fact he was married and lied to you. Know you think it not that because you never asked. If you were married and unhappy and guy start flirting with you would tell him that you are married. And would it be wrong to tell a woman her husband is unfaithful if it is true. The guy wrapping you around his finger and get you pregnant is another way to control you. He is emotionally manipulating.

[Caunsos]

Find a hinest man worthy of being your king. This man is not.

[Asker]

I’m not going to give him the time or day. Maybe when he’s single. Not worth the headache. I deserve more!

[Caunsos]

Good for you

[Cellestial]

Don't let yourself be led by your emotions and lust for him especially that getting you pregnant part, because something seems quite fishy about his situation, like this blackmail thing I mean why would he need to give her all that money? and what guarantees she won't ask for more once he gives her that? she'll probably ask for even more if she found out about your relationship with him

[Asker]

Most probably. She might also ask for a divorce once she gets her papers and leave him broke! He wants to pay her off cause he wants her out the way so she could get a house and do her life. He wants to be happy.

[Cellestial]

I think you better tell him to hire a lawyer and do what it should be done in a legal way if he's serious about your relationship

[Asker]

You’re 100% right about that!

[Asker]

But he can’t divorce her now. He has to wait at least 2 years.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

What country is she from?

[Asker]

Italian American

[SuccessfulHornDog]

But she is illegal? So, just Italian?

[Asker]

He was born in New Jersey. And his family is Italian, French & German. She’s from Honduras. Crossed the border illegally and trapped him so he could marry her and give her papers.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Oh, the fact that she is asking for 100k shows what a piece of shit she is. I'm sure she'll be a great mother to his chid

[Asker]

Yup, that’s what she is. She doesn’t deserve him!

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Agreed, you have to decide if you want to be apart of that drama.

[Asker]

I’m just going to focus on myself. Don’t want to break a family. I deserve more!

[SuccessfulHornDog]

That's a great decision

[jmstarling]

Run away!

[Asker]

I’ve been thinking about doing that as well.

[jirwin7979]

yea he's in a hard spot i can't stand when people use others but do what your heart tells u

[Ben228]

I don't think it's a good idea to continue talking with him.

But that's my opinion.

[Asker]

You’re right! I’m not. It’s done.

[JamesRandiDebates]

You shouldn't have any problem stealing him away. Go for it!

[Asker]

I’m debating weather I should end it or try to get him all for me. Sighs... This is just crazy. Never been in this situation!

[JamesRandiDebates]

Do what's best for both of you. Get him away from her.

[Asker]

I’m just gonna stop talking to him. Cause he won’t be serious about me. I’m not going to date a man that still lives with his WIFE at home. I deserve more!

[JamesRandiDebates]

Being the side chick has its advantages.

[Anonymous]

Just tell him to divorce her, she will get half of everything anyway and child support, he will have to pay her either way but it will be legal and she can’t come back for more. Then maybe if he still wants you then it’s all fine

[Asker]

He’s trying to avoid that. Now he’s stuck! Should of signed a prenup!!!

[Opinion Owner]

He can’t avoid that if he wants her to leave unfortunately, sounds like a bad situation you don’t want to be in the middle of

[Asker]

I’m just going to move on. Not worth it! I deserve more. Don’t want to come 4th to anyone!

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah definitely a crazy situation you won’t want to be a part of