Guys, I drunkenly told a guy his penis was small?

[Anonymous]

OK GUYS I need your opinion. LOL ok so I haven't been on this site in a while, but I thought I would try it one more time because I'm bored and need to study for finals, but procrastination seems like a better idea. Ok, so there was this guy in my psych class I thought was cute. I built up this kinda-sorta flirtationship with him if you can call it that. He was an odd guy. He never talked and when he did it was often one-word responses, but I could tell that he was attracted to me. So one day I did him a favor and in exchange he bought me lunch at this ramen place. He turned out to be nothing like I thought he would be, was super into different values than I was and very monotone the entire lunch. If I'm being real, I couldn't tell if we were on a date or not. Anyway, one night I get drunk with my friends and end up messaging him to come over. So we end up hooking up and before I know it, we're done and getting dressed. That's basically when it happened. He was going on about how he wasn't insecure and before I knew it i was telling him his penis was small. Now at the time it seemed like no big deal. He kind of laughed it off and we went our separate ways that night. But in the morning is when I screwed up. I ended up freaking out and sending him a 4 paragraph monologue apologizing about what I said. I think I really fucked up because he didn't come to class for two days after that and then when he finally did, he got up and moved. To make matters even more awkward, I saw him where I worked and we exchanged hellos and how are yous like it was normal. And then felt like he actively tried to avoid me and I feel so guilty that I made him feel like that. How would you say he felt about the overall situation? Like we never even talked about where we stood with the sex and he never replied to my text message. He just avoided everything:/ I wish I had known where his head was at, but I was afraid to ask him tbh. Now we don't talk. I wonder if he's bothered.

[LesterJester]

Well let's see.

Hypothetically speaking, we just finished having sex and as we're getting dressed, I say you were so loose it was like throwing a hot dog down a hallway.

Or I said your tits were wonky?

Or perhaps your vagina smelled like it expired before packaging at the Fish plant?

How would that make you feel?

Believe it or not, guys and girls are very similar when it comes to insecurities about our own bodies. Both genders are constantly bombarded with what the perfect guy or girl should look like. We try to ignore it when some things don't quite measure up, but when someone you were just intamate with mocks the very thing you're insecure about, it can mess a person up... Joking or not.

Which is why I never joke about such things.

What can you do to fix this?

I have no idea. Probably nothing. What's done is done. It sounds like this guy was shy enough as it was and really like you, yet intimidated at the same time. He finally had this situation where he was finally with you and something he thought would never happen suddenly did. He probably felt really great and you made him feel special and wanted or something.

And then you drove an axe right into his chest and basically told him he was inadequate.

I would suggest you leave him alone. You tried to apologise and nothing came out of it. You fkd up.

All you can do is learn from this and try to be more considerate in the future with what you say to someone in this kind of situation. Put yourself in their shoes and think how you'd feel if someone said something similar to you.

Drunk or not, at least "Try" and keep this in the back of your mind.

[Asker]

Ya I really fucked up. I hate myself lol. and I'll never forget this honestly...

[LesterJester]

Well that's all you can do. Learn from it. I know there's been a few screw ups in my days. Couldn't fix them but life goes on.

[ChetAtkins]

You screwed the pooch on this one. No going back. Regardless if size matters or not, stupid matters a lot.

[Asker]

Tbh... I think I just needed to hear other people tell me that.

[ChetAtkins]

There are two things in life you can't take back. *words *bullets Be careful where you aim them

[Asker]

That's really good advice actually. Thank You!

[ChetAtkins]

It's like that funny saying: "Stop listening to what I say, and start listening to what I mean!" It's very easy for people to take things the wrong way. I watched a movie that was funny as shit. This guy just went through a divorce, and is upset. He goes to the travel agency to buy some tickets. This was the dialog: Travel lady: Here's your tickets, sir. Don't lose them. Him: What do you mean by that? Travel lady: I just mean don't lose them. Him: What are you implying? Travel lady: Nothing. Him: Is this because I lost my wife? Is that it? LMAO

[On_the_other_hand]

That was fucked up.

What are the four paragraphs you sent him?

[abc3643]

Um... probably. Move on.

[reptocarl]

Ya think?

[Max_SS]

I don't think he sees you in a positive light. That's a very good way to disrespect a guy. Move on, he's not interested

[Asker]

You right you right.

[Redstang88]

Yeah, you fucked up

Even if he didn’t take it personally, he’s not talking to you again

[Asker]

Ya to make matters worse he's a frat guy lol

[giovannimontolivo]

Was his penis actually small or did u just say it because you were drunk?

[Asker]

I was drunk and being a dickhead. not proud of it

[giovannimontolivo]

Well, if his penis actually WASN'T small, then why don't you just tell him you were drunk and you had no idea what u were saying?

[Asker]

I did say that in the text message technically, but it's all good. He hates me and has every reason to lol

[giovannimontolivo]

But did you actually believe his penis wasn't small or were you just saying it to be nice? If you genuinely do not think his penis was small, then you could convince him

[rickytim]

Yeah sounds like he is but don't worry about it maybe he was small...

[rickytim]

Don't hate yourself for that

[TheSpartan]

I mean, was his penis small? If it is, then he likely took it seriously.

[Asker]

Ya he probably did. I just feel so bad! What kind of dumbass gets into a situation like this with someone they like?

[SSuar19]

Your words are very physical attacking, it hurts

[Asker]

I'm very sorry you feel physically attacked

[Marinepilot]

You are one raging DUMBASS CUNT ! Bitch, you need to rot in hell. And women wonder why nice guys turn bad. You're the fucking reason ! You
and your trashy kind. Hope you like cats.

[Asker]

This comment has actually made me die laughing so thanks for this

[Marinepilot]

Whatever.