Why is that when a woman wants and prefers rough sex, people assume she wants domestic violence?

I’m only asking because a friend of mine shared a video of a girl talking about her preferences, I didn’t see anything wrong with that she was saying🤷🏾‍♀️ Not everyone wants to make love all slow and sweet. Not everyone enjoys that. But all my guy friends was saying that she probably wanted a man to beat her and kill her outside of the bedroom 😒

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  • Probably to be that rough, one wonders if a woman is ok with a man being violent with her outside, especially if the rough sex caused bodily harm to her. It means she has a masochist side. I wonder about that with men who are that rough in bed or bdsm that's extreme, where if it's going a dangerous path with conditioning. If a woman wanted me to be violent or throw her around and choke her, it would freak me out. I mean it's a good thing for a man to be hesitant about having his hands on a woman like that. Will a man who gets comfortable during sex being violent, accidentally push or shove a woman outside of it in a heated argument or she hits him? And he would have never done it before but he suddenly reacted and then surprised by his reaction. You know it used to be believed that punching bags were good therapy to take out their frustration and stress and anger. But actually it was worse and over time, it caused people to be more impulsive in confrontation with someone. And instead of talking it out, more likely to fight and hit. You'll be surprised what people, even decent good people can be conditioned.

  • The fact is that a lot of people simply can't grasp the ideas of pain or power exchanges during sex - or that people can enjoy them in the bedroom without wanting or enjoying it outside the bedroom.

    I'm not suggesting that people need to change their OWN preferences - I'm just as fine with people being vanilla in their own bedrooms as being super kinky - but a lot of people think that no one should think or do anything they don't like themselves. And when they come across something like that, it scares them a little, which causes them to demean it in order to feel like they've regained their power over it.

    It's just close-mindedness and insecurity at work.

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  • Shoot I like being choked and thrown around but it comes with consequences.

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  • This chick is wild. I like her and her vampire teeth. I think she may have been exaggerating a little bit, but I have known similar girls. Fuck, she has got me turned the fuck on. And no I do not believe she wants to be beat outside of rough sex. She is just sick and tired of pussy ass guys trying to get all lovey with her when she just wants her pussy pounded.

  • I get what you're saying, but that girl is a piss-poor example. She comes off as being a psychopath.

  • It's tough, because someone that wants violence aka rough can be seen as someone who also likes to dish it out that way. I suppose it depends on how she acts normally but it makes me wonder how she would behave behind close doors. Overall you do have a point, rough sex does not equal domestic violence but it's a thought to make you wonder

  • I'm kinda with them lol I've known 1 girl that liked it as rough as that woman describes. She'd come in on Monday with a black eye, busted lip, and kinda limping. Everyone would freak out and ask if she was okay? what happened? And she'd just say, "yeah, yeah... best weekend ever" lol

  • Because it is domestic violence and sexual violence, it's just that it is consenting. Most people don't understand that one can consent to a certain level of violence and find it pleasing. So to a lot of people smacking your wife around in the bedroom because she is a "dirty slut" looks like the same thing as smacking her around in the kitchen because she burnt the toast.

  • I think that people who don’t like rough sex want to make it sound like illness to shame people out of possibly asking them to participate.

  • Most people are just backwards, immature, judgmental hypocrites who can't accept that other people have views and opinions and preferences different from their own and most of these kind of people happen to be men...

  • I have nothing against rough sex, but I think that the girl in this video is a little bit over-the-top and is doing it just for views. Also I do not think that someone who is into rough sex equates to domestic violence.

  • Because people stereo type and are uneducated.

  • she's rdy for the monkey business.

    I've heard south African women who loose their Vcard in south africa aka tribeswomen don't see sex as something to have pleasure so there could be a connection.

  • Good question. But I’ve never heard that.

  • Most girls like rough sex. Im known as being pretty violent and girls will come up and tell me they heard about me and want to find out more. Girls like men who are as strong and violent as possible just up to the point where they won't murder them. Thats an evolutionary successful strategy.

    Regarding DV i personally dont even believe it. If someone beats you and you dont like it you leave. You dont refuse to press charges and stay and get beat for years. Plus men dont usually just beat a woman for no reason, its like "bitch if you cheat on me id beat you" then the woman WANTS to get beat so badly because the ideas arousing so she cheats on him and then he beats her. Lmao. Bitches bring it on themselves 9x out of 10 in my opinion.

  • I prefer slow and gentle.

    • Not what I asked

    • Its a mystery to me, but i certainly dont equate rough sex to domestic violence.

  • A lot of fetishistic behavior is not even happening in the bedroom or during sex, its even sexless like these extremes who like axhyphation or ballbusting or like a beating or something.

  • I don't see whats wring wuth it

  • rough sex makes me cum to fast but I love ramming it in there deep and hard and fast

  • I wouldn't assume that

  • everyone loves rough sex.

  • I like rough sex too, i love dominant girls.

  • Some people are big loosers

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