Should I be concerned that my boyfriend has a fixation on gay men?

I have been with my boyfriend for about nine months. We haven't had sex yet because he believes a man and a woman should only have sex within marriage, so we sleep in separate rooms. He told me he is a virgin and has never had sex with a girl. I got confused because he also told me that he 'was not proud of his past' and that he had encounters with men who asked him to masturbate together. In his house I found a photo of him sitting and two old men standing behind him, one with his hand over his shoulder. I asked my boyfriend who the old men were and he told me they were a gay couple. Recently, he keeps coming out with weird things out of the blue. He told me that promiscuity is common in the gay community and that when he was on holiday he bumped into a gay community where men were kissing. One time we went out for dinner together, and he asked me if I would want to watch a tv programme about a gay couple together, where one of the men was a transvestite. He also asked me what I thought about gay sex. I asked him why he asked me this, and he told me I was imagining it. He also took me to a gay bar on a date, and men were hitting on him and he got very flattered. Another time he took me to a LGBT party which i think was also a sex party, and most of the men there were gay or bisexual. One of the men told me that he shared a bed with my boyfriend and things got 'handsy.' He told me this about three times that night. Is this worrying behaviour? Should I break up with him?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • He seems to be implying that he’s promiscuous, that’s the thing that should worry you the most. You still have feelings for him since you haven’t broken up with him yet. Have a talk with him and ask him to come clean with everything, from there you can decide if you want to stay with him (give him a chance) or break up with him.

    You seem to have a lot of patience with him. If a woman I was dating were to admit she’s had affairs with other women and was also promiscuous I would break up with her on spot, those are two deal breakers for me, no offense intended.

  • The issue with waiting until marriage to have sex is very good and admirable. But the gay stuff is clearly worrying behavior. Before you make a decision about your relationship you should ask him specific questions in order to clarify where he is coming from. One thing I would ask is if he intends to be monogamous with you, or if he intends to include men.

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  • He’s just a noraml guy. The majority of men are basically gay.

    • normal*

    • Retard

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  • You are dating Mr. Gayerson... I'm honestly shocked you even have to ask.

  • Yes to everything.

  • This question looks REALLY familiar.

    That being said, your boyfriend may be gay, or at least bi.

  • Sis he’s either gay or bisexual

  • He likes nutsacks more than pussies

    Should I be concerned that my boyfriend has a fixation on gay men?
  • It sounds like he is gay or bisexual. If you really love him and want to stay with them consider buying a strap-on and take turns f****** one another

  • He sounds like he's about as straight as a paper-clip.

    • So partially straight?

  • the only bit to be concerned about is the sleeping with that man
    he could just be bi or bicurious

  • Well it sounds like he may be gay or bisexual and in at least partial denial about it
    And yes that should be a concern for you and you probably would want to try to address it
    If he is bisexual it may not be an issue bit if he is gay it will be

  • Just open the closet door for him

  • Tulsa Keys probably gay