I have been in a similar situation as you when it came to having sex and not feeling horny at all. For me it all boiled down to not having enough of mutual trust and emotional connection with my partner. I still had sex with them but I didn't really enjoy it. At least I got enjoyment from the fact that I made someone I liked feel good. Even with my current boyfriend, who I love to bits nowadays, I had the same problem for almost 6 months into being sexually active with him.
I also used to use sex as kind of a bargaining chip. I would get love and attention and my partner would get sex. It really isn't a good way to make yourself happy though. You should find someone who doesn't ask sex for attention and love, but just wants to be loved back. With a person like that you will most likely eventually get turned on while having sex with them. But knowing you don't really seeem to have the best past experiences it might take quite a while for that to happen.1 0 0 0thank you very much this what so lowkey usefull didn't really expect anyone to understand a bit
Many times. I'll never say no to my fiance (Unless I'm doing something important)
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Well I get in the mood when happening. My marriage is sexless now but for years before that it was nearly sexless. And what sex there was, was entirely on her schedule. So pretty much no connection between me being horny and sex. If she was ever up for sex that was the time whether I’d been at all horny or not, because I wasn’t going to waste the chance.
0 0 0 0oh god sorry
Well as for you, have you had any sex with guys who loved you?
yeah once, but he hasn´t got much experience so it was very badly performed
Married. So I experienced both side of the scale.
From very horny hence kept initiating sex... to not horny at all but just fuck to satisfy her.1 0 0 0you are quite young to be starting to have 50yo married problems
LOL... you'll be surprise how much work-stress can kill a guy's libido. And not much was said here in G@G, that if a wife suddenly becomes a nympho, the husband many times wish he did not perform that charm... LOL!
that is nice of you at least... maybe relax a little more have a vacation or something no?
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2 14I recall not being in the mood a few times, but once she convinced me it was in my best interest, I was aroused.
0 0 0 0I’ve done that before. She wanted it. I’m tired. No biggie. What’s the worst that’s gonna happen? I’ll have an orgasm? In those situations though I ain’t doing the work. She can ride me or whatever. I won’t put in a lot of effort in those situations... which albeit are rare, but I’d never turn my girl down.
1 0 0 0If I was with a beautiful and sexy woman, I would be horny for sure!
0 0 0 0Ya I had to perform and it was so boring she was a fat girlfriend and so the lust wore off and I had realised what I had done to my self. CRYS WHY GOD WHY did I do a fat chick nooooo!
0 0 0 0ew you
Well since I can pretty much be horny whenever, I gues the answer would be no.
0 0 0 0Nope. It's hard to fuck when you are not horny. Not having a raging erection and all. For me, this is never an issue.
0 0 0 0For the record: I never even go out with people who would like to use sex to attract me. I find them shallow and worthless of my time. And I feel a huge amount of pity towards them. Which kinda impedes sex. I would have a few suggestions to you, though.
tell me, its fine for me i am trying to learn stuff
Send me a PM please. This will be a long one.
That's kind of difficult for a male.
0 0 0 0YES, When wife was in the mood and I wasn't, they just don't take no for an answer,,, not saying I didn't enjoy it in the end …..
0 0 0 0Sometimes. If my significant other is in the mood and want some attention, I will certainly do it…. It would be a rare occurrence if I didn’t get in the mood even after getting going though.
0 0 0 0Noway
0 0 0 0It's possible for women, for men it's completely different, without being horny it's difficult to achieve erection which is necessary for penetrating, but however we are always horny anyway so it's not a problem for us 😜
1 0 0 0Simple just have sex and get paid lol
0 0 0 0that turns u on? prostitution?
Oh ya. Best industry ever my ex girlfriend used to work for one.
Yes haha and sometimes it's funny
0 0 0 0Sometimes. There are times I'm not in the mood, but my hubs is, and I want to be available for him
1 0 0 0that you?
0 0 0 0no, its claudia welsh
stop using other peoples pictures, its weird af
No, but my ex-wife could do it.
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