Is my boyfriend not attracted to me?
He has problems getting hard. When we met, we were kissing a lot in the park where no one could see and he got hard. The first time we had sex he got hard and was ready to go. When we stayed at a hotel he was really turned on before anything even happened.
But ever since I've known him he's hardly ever been ready to go. He used to watch a lot of porn and he smokes and sometimes smokes marijuana before bed. He also has a very tiring job.
But I know that he can get an erection, as he does when he masturbates and he does in the morning. But he'll also get them at random times, like when I just had my bare legs resting on his lap. When we're in bed, his heart beats faster when he touches me, and he loves doing foreplay for hours, but doesn't get hard. He keeps his t-shirt and pants on, so I can't even tell most times.
He isn't confident in his body as he is very slim and he doesn't seem to like eye contact. I can only get him hard with foreplay & when I do he whispers my name and things, and seems to be enjoying it. Even when he is going down on me, which he says he loves more than I love receiving, he isn't hard most of the time. We have to get him hard to have sex.
Last time in bed he said we have so much respect for each other, I could just grab you. And I said i wouldn't mind. I wish he would grab me and show passion!
He also only likes doggy and is awkward when he's on top of me. But he compliments my body all the time, uses massage oils and cuddles me all night. Still I feel i am not attractive to him and i told him last time and he said it's not me, but i don't believe him anymore. My confidence has gone and I am frustrated that he only wants sex one way, except spoon sex in the morning. When we have sex he finishes fast, so he makes sure I finish during foreplay. He is in his early 30s.
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