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Guys, if your girl didn't allow you to cum in her mouth would it be a dealbreaker?

I've been with my boyfriend about three months now and I really like him but I'm afraid I'm going to lose him over something kind of silly.

When I give him blowjobs he nearly begs me to let him cum inside my mouth. I'm just not able to bring myself to do it. I had a high school boyfriend who did it to me a few times without asking and it really put a bad taste and experience in my mouth. Literally lol.

I literally do everything sexual he wants to do including facials, deep throating every inch of him, except for cumming in my mouth, yet he seems disappointed by it. He's kind of been giving me the cold shoulder the last few days and I think that's why.

Would you actually break up with a girl if you weren't satisfied in that way? I try to bring myself to do it because I know he really likes it, but I'm just not ready yet.
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Thank you all for the comments, I think what makes it less appealing is he has reminded me a few times that his ex girlfriend did it for him and he even tried explaining her technique. That's really the last thing I want to hear when I'm trying to give my man a blowjob.
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Sorry I meant to ask this in my original question. Would you be more satisfied , given the circumstance, if you were wearing a condom and could finish in her mouth that way? I considered picking up some flavored condoms. I know it's not the same thing but it would still be better than no mouth at all.
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  • I remember the first time I gave a blowjob to my ex. I had swallowed it down but I think the face I made implied that I really didn't like it.. After that he told me on his own that I didn't need to swallow it and nothing was gonna change whether I did or didn't. Obviously I made it a point to swallow him anyway but if your boyfriend has to keep telling you about it and then if he's upset about it that's different. Some men can be assholes about it because they think every woman has to swallow because that's how it is in porn. But some men are actually understanding and can tell the difference. They also know that everyone's different and not everyone is gonna be up for something like that. Someone may not like the taste or smell, but you have to respect them for that. It should never be a deal breaker. But he shouldn't keep mentioning that his ex did it and how she did it. That would have pissed me off. I don't know how you're handling it but I'm sorry to say this he seems like a dick. If he does break up with you for something so petty, good riddance. You deserve better.

  • This is really interesting to me. I have several friends who would never allow a facial but have no problem swallowing. It is a lot cleaner. But if a guy is going to break up over something so petty, is he really worth it. He’s still getting his bj. .

    • Very well said

    • re: your update. If you can handle the taste if condom, I think that’s a great compromise.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It is only three months so he should be patient. But he might not know you will do it soon so he thinks it might never happen. You do need to get past this bad past and replace it with a pleasurable experience with your new boyfriend. He shouldn't leave you for this, but he might. I will say coming in a girls mouth is one of THE most pleasurable things a guy can experience. But he can't disregard your negative experience. Perhaps he can pull out and just put the tip of his penis against your lips and come that way the experience isn't so dramatic and over time he can put a little bit more of himself in your mouth until you realize how much pleasure it brings him and how happy you feel giving him that pleasure and then you want him to come in your mouth.

    Slow but positive steps towards that goal will give him hope that he will eventually have that wonderful experience with you.

    And he better dam well go down on you good enough to make you beg him to fuck you already.

    • After reading your update... PM me and I'll teach you a technique I had to teach all my girlfriend that helps me finish faster orally that he and his don't know about. And if you think I'm just trying to chat you up in PM... like some tool suggested I was up to before... that is fine just ignore this.

    • Can he have intercourse with you without the condom? That would be the best alternative. Again he should be happy with all that you are willing to do.

  • I don't know. You are just 3 months in, I guess it depends on how much I liked you and how much of a future I saw. The earlier in the dating process you are the less of an investment you have and you can be more likely to not settle for any type of incompatibilities. I mean if you are madly in love and you've been together 10 months vs. 3 and thinking/feeling... I like this person but I'm not yet sure where I see this going it can change how willing you are to make a nuclear decision about things. At 3 months that can go either way, some couples can really be attached at 3 months other might still just be trying each other out and seeing what they think.

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  • It shouldn't be a deal breaker because the relationship isn't all about one little thing in sex. Your problem is not even sex. It's just a tiny little part of it. So no, he should respect the relationship as a whole and be thankful for everything else he's getting. Not everything will always be perfect but that's what love is all about.
    Also, don't ever do anything you're not comfortable with and don't let anyone make u feel guilty about it.

  • Shouldn't be a deal breaker. Maybe explain it to him, not in detail of course, just tell him that you had a bad experience. Maybe work together towards building up to doing it. For example when you think you're ready, prepare a day in advance, there are things you can eat or drink as a guy to alter the taste of cum (like avoid red meats or alcohol, instead fruits and veggies ~ pineapple is said to work very well) - of course I've never tasted cum, nor do I ever plan to, so I'm not sure exactly how effective it is.

    • Most likely not. Just my opinion but I wouldn't have a girl blow me with a condom on

  • It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me unless I knew she did it for someone in the past. Then it'd be a problem. Otherwise, if you let him go so far as giving you facials I don't know what would be the big deal.

  • Not to me

    • I will not wear a condom

  • Not really if I can convince her to let me cum down her throat. You ain't really gonna taste it if the dick is all the way in your mouth.

    • Well I have considered that but that's how I got the bad experience in high school. My boyfriend then was all the way down my throat when he did it without my permission. When he started cumming it hit me in the wrong spot and I thought I was going to choke to death. Then for the next 3or 4 days, every time I coughed, I could taste his cum

    • Ewwwww lol. That sucks. You dont have to go all the way down the throat or whatever. Just the back of the mouth to the tonsils work.

  • I would really love it if she did, but I wouldn't lose a good woman over that.

  • Okay, so do this. Ask him to cum in your hand. Then, ask him to taste it with you. Tell him if he doesn't enjoy the taste and feel of his cum in his own mouth, then he shouldn't be unhappy that you agree with him.

    If he accepts, then you can just hold it in your mouth until he's done, and then snowball it back to him. :)

  • I've swallowed cum before a few times (I'm bi), it's really easy. If you can't do such a simple thing for him, well, I'd be annoyed too.

    Wouldn't break up with you, but oral would be much less appealing from you. As long as I could bust inside of your pussy I'd be okay though.

  • Don't force yourself to do something you hate wtf...

  • I wouldn't. Guy probably just needs to chill and respect your wishes. If he does break up for that reason, he isn't worth your time.

  • personally I would just be happy with the blowjob, anything else is just extra. does he know that your former boy friend did it, if yes than that could be a contributing factor

    • I think it would be worse with a condom

    • Well I would still give him a blowjob without it, just right before he finishes slide it on.

    • I think that would ruin the moment a little.

  • Mine won't let me. It's fine as she finishes me off on her boobs instead but I do wish just once she would swallow my cum, I feel like there's a closeness we haven't shared together yet

  • not a deal breaker at all

  • Indeed it would

  • There are other spots to cum.

  • No id at least want to cum in her vagina

  • Just another guy who's mind has been damage by the porn industry. It seems like you're competing with a porn star.

  • no not a deal breaker. but the only decision tat matters is yours and his:) I cannot believe how difficult relationships are now... people are over the top selfish, narcissistic. beside myself.

    • i say no to your followup.

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