Well, first, let me just say "Thanks for looking out for the creepy guys; they need lovin' too?" when I was younger Late teens, early 20s), it would have alarmed and frightened me. So yeah, if that's just one red flag of many, I'd have probably shied away. On the other hand, I dated a Happy Goth Kitteh
in high school; she only had a few, and they looked more like ritual scarification. That was okay.
Self harm itself itself isn’t exactly a turn on, let alone a permanent visual reminder of it...
Why do you purposely harm yourself in the first place?
It's kind of an easy way out for a surplus of emotions (that's why currently), but the bulk of my scars are from the last two years, when I did hurt myself because of self hate, relief, to make bad areas worse and to make it more "aesthetic" in a tormented way.
Well, I hope you can find a better way.
Thanks for MHO. By the way, although they would take some time getting used to seeing, self harm marks wouldn’t mean instant rejection unless she kept doing it after we got together or there were just way too many to begin with. If they were mild and no longer made, I would be willing to date regardless.
Self harm scars are not a turn off for most decent guys, as long as you have stopped. Far worse than scars is the fact that you are sleeping with older guys. THAT is what will put most guys off!
It won’t put older guys off. 😂
@Red_Arrow Just about every older guy IS decent! :-)
No, I was referring to the last part. Sleeping with older guys will not put older guys off.
Some guys get off on starting new scars.
Try not to concern yourself with others sexual preferences <3
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Scars show that you’ve survived. I’d be more concerned if they were fresh.
I don't mind them as long as you're not hurting yourself now.
It would be a cause of concern for dating as it’s a red flag for emotional instability.
It's a turn off but not as much as the fact that you are having sex with creeps. :)
Yeah. Who wants to be with a wacko that cuts herself?
For real?
yep, for reals
I think she should stick to the creepy, rapey guys. They need love, to.
@ChetAtkins prolly
They’re not a turn off for me, but they could be for some guys
i don't mind, just a reminder of your past, just shows me what type of person you are and i'll know how to treat you.
since i'm still kinda depressed myself, i'm just too much of a bitch to harm myself.
I doubt I'd notice, and no. I used to self harm as well.
They aren't turn off for me
I’ll still hold her
Never been bothered by them, I've seen them on plenty of girls I've dated/slept with
No, I have them too.
I'd kiss them and hug them.
Especially if she wears a fluffy sweater <3
They aren't turn off
Yes.
Not a turn off
They could be a turn off for some guys, but everybody has a past. Everybody makes mistakes.
I wouldn't say they are a turn on but they aren't a turn off. My arms are covered and im 22 i have to make something up when people ask me about them. But id say its one of those things that makes me wanna know why. Like who was it that made you feel so wrong that you felt hurting yourself was the right thing to do not in a judgmental way but in a seriously care and wanna know kinda way. I dont like saying to people i know but noone knows me here. My ex had them all over and always hid them the first time i saw i kinda cried a little cause i couldnt beleive such a genuinely kind friendly person did that to themselves just to relieve the inner pressure of her inner feelings. But at the same time it personally made me feel like i wasn't alone as much as i thought. I saw a different kind of beauty in her she was so quick to punish herself but would catch an annoying fly in her house and bring it outside cause she didn't wanna swat it and kill it. I don't know i guess what im saying in my opinion they aren't something to be glorified but they aren't something to be ashamed of either they are like a birthmark its just something thats there on your body it can be appreciated in the thought of it happened and why it happened but it doesn't have to affect you or your future negatively if you dont let it.
As an old creep I’d be worried if you were still doing it; otherwise I’d probably just feel more protective.
I’d have felt the same 20 years ago.
When I mean old creep, I'm not saying that your a creep above a certain age limit, it's more the behavior, lol. But yea most of the guys I've done were in your age range
Nothing I'd like
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