What would your reaction be if you found out your close friend or relative (brother, cousin, best friends etc) raped your girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

This question is for the guys mainly. What would you if you found out that someone close to you violated, hurt or assaulted your girlfriend sexually? Would you be angry at her for not telling you about it if it was someone close to like your brother? What would your reaction be if your relative came clean and admitted to raping your girlfriend? Would you be angry at her leave or blame her at all? Seeking opinions

[MrOracle]

They'd have the choice of permanent exile and excommunication, or serious, permanent maiming. Like, say, smashing their foot bones into powder with a ball peen hammer.

Having said that, my friends and relatives are better than that, but also know that they'd be playing with their lives. I might be a fat ass, but I'm also dangerous in many ways - and they know it.

[Asker]

It sounds like you're very protective.

[Rogzi]

There is a lot going on in this kind of question.
Why didn't she tell me? That's unforgivable. I wouldn't want anything to do with her.
So, the close friends/relativen actually admits it to me personally. I'd be forced to stab him.
I wouldn't want anything to do with either of them after

[Asker]

But why her if she was afraid to tell you

[Rogzi]

All the more reason for us to not be on a relationship. Why would she be afraid to tell me anything if we're supposed to be together. Which suggest that she was doing something she probably shouldn't have been. Like flirting or teasing because she thought it was funny or cute. I'd want to know how the hell something like this could even happen. Why were they even together like that and why didn't I know. Why would they be hanging out. Plus, I know my friends. So, what changed them so much that they raped her. All of this is crazy.

[Asker]

Because even though we are together you're blaming me for something I had no control over. And I wasn't flirting or teasing anyone. I was home in my bed not bothering anyone.

[Rogzi]

You had no control over telling me the truth? How exactly does that work? How in the world does my best friend or relative make it your or our home while you're sleeping. That doesn't make any sense.

[Asker]

See what I mean. I was at home in bed. He was out at the bar with his friends. His relative came to my house looking for him and when I told him he was gone he asked to use my phone and came in and raped me

[Rogzi]

And you decided the best course of action was not to immediately tell him?

[Asker]

I was afraid it would cause major conflict with him as his family

[Rogzi]

You don't say. That's such a ridiculous choice to make. You should have told him right away.

[Asker]

I didn't want to be the cause of their family division. Sometimes you just have to suffer in silence if it will stop a lot of others from suffering.

[Rogzi]

Yeah, no. That's not how life works. In fact, that's such an alien and unreasonable decision that is way more likely that you're lying about it. Absolutely nothing good would come from you not telling the truth and holding that guy accountable outside of it exposing that it wasn't actually a rape and you cheated.

[Asker]

Omg... id NEVER EVER cheat on my boyfriend. I actually have proof that he raped me. So I have no reason to lie. And why lie to a bunch of strangers online? What purpose does that serve if someone is genuinely seeking advice. Just because your do closed minded that you can't fathom someone loving to the point of selflessness doesn't mean they are lying.

[Rogzi]

How is it selfless. The amount of damage you're doing is way more far reaching that what you're narrow minded seems to understand. 1: Imagine if he rapes again. You could have stopped it but you did nothing and are there by partly responsible. 2: Imagine how devastating it will be for him and his family to look back on all the time they spent with a rapist. How guilty they will feel because they didn't see it. 3: imagine how destroyed he will be knowing every day you're sitting there with this big secret and pain that he's completely oblivious too. 4: consider how much greater that pain will become we he thinks of all the kindnesses he showed that guy and the whole time he is the reason you're damaged. 5: you're probably different. And he knows it but can't seem to figure it why. He probably tries to fix it every single day. Not knowing that you're hiding it from him. Nothing about what you're doing is selfless. Is foolish (if true) in only empowers a horrible person to hurt more people. You're being a coward. You have all the "proof" to stop a vicious criminal and you're too afraid to do it.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well the same exact thing that any one else would get. Justice is justice, it doesn't waver or change because of who did wrong, all that its concerned with is what is right. That is my view and that is how I will respond.

[JohnAlaska43]

I wouldn't blame the woman. If it was a realitive id probally do time in jail. There is no way id let it slide. Its not cool nor would I wamt my woman to suffer over it.

[Asker]

You seem like a nice guy

[JohnAlaska43]

Well im told I am just trying to be positive to others. Feel free to message me. I know guys blame women a lot when they get raped. Sadly it happens a lot.

[Asker]

So true

[Asker]

Why is that you think?

[JohnAlaska43]

Have no idea why guys think its always the womans fault. Sometimes women mouth off. Not trying to condone any of it. Rape is not cool. My wife raped me never reported it.

[Asker]

Seriously? Why didn't you?

[hindril]

I would be angry and beat the living shit out of him. It actually wouldn't matter if it was my girlfriend or not. If he raped someone, he should have his d ripped off.

Are you asking out of curiosity?

[Asker]

I'm asking because I need to tell my boyfriend and really don't know how

[hindril]

I was wondering. There is no easy way to tell him other than sit down together and tell him. I am sorry this happened to you.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm gonna try. Thanks

[hindril]

It will be alright. You will be alright. It is a terrible thing, but with his help you can get past it.

[Riddler1412]

I would get it if she chose not to tell me. The only reason I'd get mad at her is if she said that one of them raped her and it turned out to not be true. But if someone of them did, let's just say I wouldn't wanna be in their shoes. I would put them through all nine circles of hell.

[ForteExe]

Something vital would short circuit in my brain and they'd have to unload a few clips into me to take me down.

[Asker]

Lol 😂🤣

[ROCKS128]

Never gonna happen.
Dont want to imagine such unnecessary negative things.

[Asker]

Yeah but things like this do happen

[ROCKS128]

If something has happened like that to you, seek help from person whome u can trust. If something has happened to someone around you, try helping them all you can. I make no sure im away from such people, i dont get close to anyone that easily until i have seen all their faces. If something like that shall happen, i can't say what i will do. Its too much to think of.

[Prakbio]

If it is rape than i will support her i dont care about other relationship.. I'll ask her to file a rape case on him

[TohhhruAi]

It would be to mean to type here

[Cowboy6666]

I would punch on the balls of that guy. Won't leave my girlfriend if she was raped/ without her consent

[Asker]

I need a boyfriend like you 😂🤣

[Cowboy6666]

Sure lemme tell u I'm single n searching

[Asker]

Awwww... thats so sweet. Trust me, I may look nice on the outside but I'm a broken mess on the inside. Save yourself the trouble.

[Cowboy6666]

That's ok, I may chat with u if u want. Would love to heal your broken heart

[Cowboy6666]

Just drop a message if u wanna

[Asker]

Aww... you a sweetheart 4real! 😚

[Cowboy6666]

Alright follow my profile now ;)

[Guanfei]

They'd better pray they're not near me at the time, and as a rational mind, I'd tell her to run to the police station to turn themselve in. Before I unleash hell upon them.

[LazyMan]

I'd get them jailed. No questions asked.

[Anonymous]

Me and my cousin would be taking a trip the hospital... he may have “fallen down some stairs”

[Asker]

Lol... i like you

[Opinion Owner]

I’m glad lol. I could never forgive a rapist

[Asker]

IKR... its hard. But thankfully you see things the right way. Wish more guys were like you.

[Opinion Owner]

There’s never a reason for rape; there’s no excuse, no way to justify it. It makes me sick, and I’ve had to deal with it before.

[Asker]

O I'm so sorry. Are you ok?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I wasn’t raped. A close friend was, and I caught it happening. I can’t imagine how anyone can blame the victim. It is an attack, and should be seen as such.

[Asker]

You actually walked in on someone raping a friend of yours? Omg! What was he doing to her? What did you do?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, she had her underwear in her mouth to stop her from screaming. I could see how much pain she was in. I... snapped... blacked out, I don’t remember what happened... the police told me I attacked him in a violent rage. And next time I saw him, he was in a wheelchair..

[Asker]

Omg... im in love. Will you marry me? 😂🤣

[Opinion Owner]

Sure thing! 😂

[Asker]

No but seriously I'm so sorry that you and her had to go through that. I hope she is ok now?

[Opinion Owner]

She is, she’s moved away and is loving her life as happily as possible, thankfully.

[Asker]

How is it that you guys didn't end up together? I would have held you and NEVER let you go.

[Opinion Owner]

I think I’m a reminder of what happened to her, and nobody wants to be reminded of something like that. But I’m glad you would have, haha.

[Opinion Owner]

But for me and her, that ship sailed years ago. She’s happy with her boyfriend

[Opinion Owner]

We haven’t spoken since then..

[Asker]

You know what. Thats true. Everytime she looks at you she probably sees that monster on top of her hurting her. I'm sorry. Sucks being the hero sometimes.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah.. and the more I look, the more people like that I see. I’m not sure I’m a hero, just a broken man who saved his friend

[Asker]

Why are you broken?

[Opinion Owner]

It’s been a long and lonely road since then, I’m afraid.

[Opinion Owner]

I have a lot of issues.

[Asker]

I'm sorry. Did she him hurt her cause you to have issues too?

[Asker]

*seeing

[Opinion Owner]

It did, because I knew him too. And life just kept going in that direction, for me.

[Asker]

What? He was your friend as well?

[Opinion Owner]

No, but we all went to the same school. And all knew each other.

[Asker]

O ok. Well thank goodness for that.

[Asker]

I'm sorry that you're unhappy. You seem so sweet. I hope you find happiness and love.

[Opinion Owner]

But, I don’t see myself as a hero in this... it was just pure luck that I happened to find them. And, everyone is happy now, except me.. so all’s well that ends well.

[Opinion Owner]

So do you, but I believe they are things I am incapable of finding these days.

[Asker]

O wow, so finding him doing that to her was an accident? And how is he happy? He didn't go to jail?

[Opinion Owner]

Complete accident, yeah. And no, he got away with it. I was “too close” personally with her, so they counted my statement as biased and he didn’t get any punishment at all.

[Asker]

And I believe you will. Some things just take time. Trust me, they're women out there now that need an understanding loving guy like you. Plus you're protective, that's a turn on.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, they’ll just go for the hotter ones lol. I’m nothing special

[Asker]

The hotter ones end up being the rapist. Trust me, I know from experience.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m so sorry, I didn’t mean to bring anything up

[Asker]

O no you didn't. I was just saying. You're good.

[Asker]

It happens as you know. No biggie

[Opinion Owner]

I’m so sorry you ever had to experience that.. the world makes me sick.

[Asker]

O it's ok. The worst part comes afterward when you have to try to convince the world that you're not to blame. And have to try and keep yourself safe because the guy still bothers you and you have no one to protect you from him. I've learned that be raped is the easy part. Trying not to be raped over and over and get the people that claim they love you to believe you is hard part.

[Opinion Owner]

If I was there, I’d do everything I could to help you feel safe. You are not to blame ; for any of this.

[Asker]

Thanks, your so nice.

[Opinion Owner]

Not at all; a kindhearted girl like yourself should be protected from the evil in the world

[Asker]

Aww you're sweet. And I'm ok. Things happen. Can't let it tear you down.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you, I try to be. I’m glad you’re okay, you’re very strong. I was going to say message me if you ever need to talk but.. we’re both on anon..

[Asker]

O yeah right. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

I’ll be honest, I didn’t even mean to be anon lol

[Asker]

What's your user name?

[Opinion Owner]

It’s Volb3at, I’ll post an opinion somewhere so you can find me easier.

[Opinion Owner]

There, a question “what will help me sleep better”

[Asker]

For some reason I'm having a hard time finding that question. I just posted a question in the Sexual Behavior topic that says "How can I get my boyfriend to understand that I HATE oral sex? Reply to that question if you can find it and then I'll follow you so you can message me

[Opinion Owner]

Will do.

[Asker]

Ok. 😊

[Anonymous]

I'd be angry at her if she didn't tell me

[Asker]

Why?

[Opinion Owner]

We supposed to be honest to each other, if she told me right away I'd forgive her, she is the victim anyway

[Asker]

But what if she is afraid to tell You?

[Asker]

Because the person that raped her is close to you

[Opinion Owner]

She shouldn't, I'd believe her, support her, and aim my anger at him, honesty is the most important aspect in relationship, even if it wasn't rape, ie. with her consent, if she came and told she cheated on me and she regret it, I might forgive her, unlike hiding the truth which would make the situation worse