My Boyfriend thinks he is infertile, Should he be worried?

Question

I am not trying to oversell this, but I have been with my Boyfriend for more than two years now and we have been deep into the relationship. But of late, he has not been quite into sex. He is into it, but not as much as he used to like.

I had asked him about it and he has been feeling insecure over himself. About him feeling he has lost his sex drive, and also when we had a small fellatio session, I did find that the quantity of his produce was not as sufficient as before.

I am just want to know if He should be worried about it , if he really is losing his man mojo, or If I am being paranoid only after he told me his insecurities. Should I ask him to consult a shirnk?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Fertility has nothing to do with the volume of semen - it has to do with the health of the sperm, and the two are unrelated.

As far as his drive and semen volume are concerned, these are the questions he should be starting with:

- Is he getting enough high-quality sleep/rest?
- Is he eating healthy? A decent number of fresh fruits & veggies?
- Is he staying hydrated?
- Is he getting some exercise?
- Is he suffering from stress (work, financial, family, etc?)
- Is he taking any medications (depression meds in particular)?

The vast majority of male performance-related issues are tied to those issues. Stress is a huge libido killer, as is a lack of quality REM sleep. And a poor diet and dehydration will affect semen production.

Address any applicable issues for a while (a month or two) and see if things don't resolve themselves - they probably will. If not, THEN you can look to medical and/or mental health services.

Aguysopinion4799 · Accepted Answer

Depends on if he wants children or not, either way I would suggest going to a GP and have a professional tell him his current situation.

I don't think he should be insecure about it whether he is or isn't, being infertile is not something you should be insecure about, a sex drive isn't everything a relationship needs and yeah, hope he feels better soon :)

Fitness-Fanatic · Accepted Answer

Encourage him to keep talking about his thoughts and feelings. Being infertile could cause depression,
because he'll have lots of different thoughts running through his head. It could make him emotionally unsafe with you , because he may think you'll eventually leave him because of it. If he desperately wants kids himself, it will have a detrimental effect on his psychological state . If he has been told he's definitely infertile by a professional, he should get extra support from a therapist

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You might not like this but the only way to know if this is a physical thing or a psychological thing is by you giving him viagra without him knowing, you need sexy lingerie. Once he is on, things will be on and the cum quantity who know it might vary. Now if he just doesn’t respond, then he might need a doctor more than a shrink.

nightdrot · Answer

Well, honestly, there is no way anyone can answer this question. Indeed, the question seems - I intend no offense - convoluted. If I read it right, his sex drive has dropped because he thinks he is infertile?

If that is the right interpretation of the question, the obvious answer is for your boyfriend to go to the doctor and have his sperm count checked. You are not wrong that a man's sex drive may decline - resulting in impotence in extreme cases - when he believes he is infertile (or as he gets older, because he actually is infertile.) That's evolutionary biology at work.

However, that is - paradoxically - the easiest diagnosis to confirm. As to why his sex drive is in decline, that could be related to any number of factors. For men, stress is often relieved by sex but it can just as easily cause a lower sex drive.

Other factors can relate to other health problems, his feelings of attraction to you, perhaps a lack of communication in your sex life and so on. As I say, it is simply not possible to run through every contingency - especially without knowing either of you.

However, start with the easiest answer and work your way through them. A test of your bfd's sperm count is a logical starting point, and then go from there.

Also, inventory his life. Has work been more stressful than usual? Is he maybe afraid of getting you pregnant - though that might be counterituitive if he is afraid of a low sperm count. Think of all the things in his life and between you that might be a source of the problem and talk to each other. Good communication is vital.

Finally, last resort, seek therapy. There is no disgrace in that. No more than there is a disgrace in going to the doctor when you have the flu. There is a problem, find out if it is fixable and fix it.

Best of luck. Knowing how important sex is to my girlfriend and myself and how much it adds to our life - I need my girlfriend and need to share my body with her - I hope that you are able to clear this up.

djmzes · Answer

Simple First doctor and then decide

SarahsSummer · Answer

What IS a sufficient quantity of produce from fellatio?

Ankitasingh466 · Answer

Test tube baby. Don't worry.

DJB72 · Answer

Check his sperm count and his testosterone levels. Sex drive is more about testosterone but then low testosterone levels results in lower sperm count and motility.