Is it normal to be this aroused?

[Anonymous]

I feel turned on almost every day, sometimes it's difficult to concentrate at school without thinking about boys and when I'm trying to study on my computer I end up being distracted by dirty pictures and videos.. am I normal?

[Theft]

Compltly! Your fine kid! I would just recommend learning soms good ways to releve the stress! Like doing keagles and going for a run... obviussly fingering yourself always makes that tension better but if you can learn to help it subside you will do much better in school!

[Asker]

Yeah I don't think touching myself really helps much because even when I do it for a bit I still feel horny :/

[Theft]

Exactly! I mean it may a little if you give yourself an orgasume... but that would make a day at school very difficult...

[Theft]

You really should look in to sexual exercise!

[Asker]

I'm not sure if I ever gave myself an orgasm before. What exactly is sexual exercise?

[Theft]

You should definitely work on getting an orgasume! It is so good for you! Haha! And as for exercising this chick is weird but she can give you a basic knowledge.

[Theft]

https://m.youtube.com/user/gddiaz88/videos

[Theft]

Also I don’t believe a lot of the crap these people talk about... but a lot of it is good! Use your head and decide for yourself!!

Here is another one! And this girl I think is much more stable and enriching to learn from!
m.youtube.com/channel/UCvp8lW9B8gQH7YTvgiiim2g

[Asker]

Ah.. I don't know how helpful that video will be, in this frame if mind looking at a pretty girl in a skimpy leotard will not help me be less aroused...

[Theft]

Lol! I didn’t say it would... I said she gives good advice and if you take the information she gives in the skimpy leotard you can learn how to treat yourself to the same pleasures!

[Theft]

To help being less horny I gave the other link...

[Asker]

Ohhh haha.. the first link is like.. masturbating advice?

[Theft]

No! Lol! You got to go watch some of the videos. I just gave you links to their pages...

[Asker]

So.. I need to put a yoni egg inside myself? o_o

[MlleCake]

You don't need that nonsense.

[lightbulb27]

something not right. tell us more about your childhood... who imposed upon you, what yo've been watching?

[Asker]

What exactly do you want to know?

[lightbulb27]

sex drive turning on is normal, yours sounds high and distracting you. guys have this problem around this time, a little earlier. I didn't think girls had it so bad, maybe I'm wrong there. But... it is impact your ability to focus, so make changes. here's rules to be aware of: * Whatever you do and repeat, that will grow. * Whatever is inside your emotional sub sconsicous is in control. * your hormones... can't stop that... So, what are you doing on a daily basis that reinforces sex drive... back that off? Watching porn, fantaciszing... it sounds like you are addicted to the images. I'd stop looking at that stuff, it's a dopamine hit and trigger. replace that with real social interaction if you can. In your childhood, what early exposures did you have to sex, movies, anyone impose upon you that you remember? Those would be early triggers. I'm not saying anything is wrong... I subtract that. what is wrong is it is distracting you, so you have to try and adapt to get healthy balance. nothing wrong with attraction, you were designed for that... supposed to make around 12 kids... lol... that cost you about 20 million though, so don't do that!

[Asker]

I typed a long reply and it got deleted for being too long so I'll quickly make a shorter one: *I watch porn sometimes, once or twice a day *I idly masturbate while doing it, but I don't masturbate properly (idly rubbing through panties, no orgasm) *I'm terrible at real social interaction *Early exposures was from hearing my older brother talk about it and seeing porn on his computer *older cousin taught me to masturbate at 11 years old when she would have sleepovers with me *Other things I'm not comfortable talking about

[lightbulb27]

sorry to hear that, I have frustration with this editor box as well. can edit in another editor and past in sections. I've lost a lot... lessons learned. We are onto why this is happening, hope you see that. If you want to message offline and makes you more comfy.. I'd keep private... that's fine by me. ok if you don't as well. follow me and I'll follow back if so. but you are sub 18, so I'm cautious. I know its a notch weird, I get that... but you asked a question, so I have an answer:) I'm typing more while making dinner, I'll post it here as I don't really need a lot of detail unless you want to share.

[Asker]

Okay I sent you a follow, I'll wait until you're finished before I reply more?

[lightbulb27]

can I ask how old you are? not clear in profile.

[Asker]

I'm 16, 17 soon

[lightbulb27]

Think about this while you are typing, any idea of what you want in life? want to be married? Are you attracted to guys, just shy? attracted to girls? writing reply now...

[lightbulb27]

I read below you like guys, ok there.

[lightbulb27]

here's my public reply w what I know then can go offline... can't wait for others to flame me... lol! I'm one of few of concern. Problem? Something is a problem if you aren't in control of it and it is conjuring negative feelings. Lets use eastern concept of yin/yang... balance! Sex is good, wonderful, normal, beautiful, so is love. Hormones get turned on at 13 or so and they keep going long time... that's why there's 8 billion humans! By your age, you are almost fully formed... a few more years and baked. Majority start masterbating around 13-15 age, so normal there. Most everyone does if that is their outlet, normal. But sounds like it started early, gone too far, too fast as it does with many... we call that normal now! I've seen room full of men with porn addiction, women signing up now as well. If you don't have control of it... it's an addiction. I don't hear how love is distracting you, where is the love being built? Ideally you get paired up around your age and married and have real sex... that's old society, not current one. Your behavior may not be building social skills nor building Oxytocin, see mytake on that. I don't see distress/depress in your pic, but could see that happening if you become socially isolated over time and unfulfilled. Not made to be masterbating in the woods by yourself you're whole life. Govt sure likes that, not good for you! Those are the issues with where you are at. Bottom line, need some balance so it doesn't control you. Would that help you?

[lightbulb27]

Why happen? - you were imposed upon at young ages, sexually, and exposed to things that activated the sex part of your brain. Reinforcement has caused growth there... children are impressionable.. sex part of your brain is strong, too strong. Take brain scan, see that part large! Your profile matches another gals, I'll send in private, she expressed a problem you may end up having. Bottom line, your brain is hyperactive on sex, needs calmed down. What you do, esp. porn and such, is reinforcing all this with dopamine hits. You are the dog in the old salivation experiment, like a lot of us. Solution: I'm open to hearing the details as I like to confirm my understanding of people. But I don't need a lot of detail, I didn't even need what you wrote to suspect what lead to this. You were sexually activated at a young age, imposed upon, when your mind wasn't ready for it. Now, it's on fire. Some fires are ok, house on fire is not ideal.

[lightbulb27]

People are going to tell you that you are normal, there's shades of grey. It is a question of living life without life controlling you. Being in control of who you date and what you do, not controlled by an out of control organ. And having your needs met and productive life. Ideally, you'd go to a sex therapist... sounds extreme hugh? Culturally acceptable and possible? I'm not saying you are broken, you are bent a little and could use some direction. If that's not first option, a school counselor (free). If that's not an option, then have to do the work on your own to calm that beast. Drop the porn is easy. Socialize, practice meditation and gratittude, volunteer to exercise giving and love, etc.. Get some balance, dial it back. Might ahve to go cold turkey 3 days to start... There may be some therapy needed to cleanup some of the past stuff if it is more imposing than you say... e. g. violated. That's another matter.

[lightbulb27]

Most people won't do any of this. If I feel good eating chocolate cake, and I cannot focus in school cause I gotta go get some out of the cafeteria and Im fine when I get it, then it isn't a problem per se... until it's a problem! This is a matter of "course correction" of your emotional mind, to get you to a better place sooner. Choosing not to, leaves you on the course you are on, true for many people out here. Where it leads, can only guess. Addictions seem to never go in a good direction. So course correct now.

[Asker]

I'll respond in private messages

[latinabutterfly96]

@Asker Don’t talk to him. @lightbulb27 What makes you think it’s okay to speak privately to a 16 year old girl about her sexuality? Get the fuck out of here old ass creep

[lightbulb27]

@latinabutterfly96 I love how firey latinas are, must be 'cause so hot down south. Stop eating so many hot peppers, move to Canada and cool down! I understand your reaction, I may say the same in your shoes. But some things she couldn't say in public, so I gave her that chance. As I said somewhere or meant to, I don't need all the detail, the detail was to confirm my gut understanding of how she got there, I sensed something was amis (and I'm right). I'm cautious as she is < 18 reportedly and I'll say no more as it was private discussion. What she shares and does is up to her. But I was spot on... I usually am. A lot of people are just not as... intuitive, empathic? She'll be fine, I think she'll affirm that and I may be the only one that helped, but I hope not. I think she needs guidance from other women at this point. Now are you projecting a fear onto me that I have to deal with? That's standard girl reaction (fear, security, secure the group from the bad wolf!), but did someone older hurt you? I've hurt noone... read my posts!

[latinabutterfly96]

Firstly. I’m in Canada. Smarty pants. Secondly there’s nothing normal about a 52 year old weirdo talking to a 16 year old girl about sexual stuff. That’s beyond creepy. And You should know this. Stop trying to justify yourself. Goodbye.

[latinabutterfly96]

P. s. this isn’t projection. I’ve just seen too many old creeps on G@G trying to talk to minors. It’s not appropriate. Period.

[Asker]

He wasn't creepy at all, he was sympathetic, listened to my problems and suggested I get counseling. He didn't say or ask anything bad. He just seems like he wants to help.

[lightbulb27]

@latinabutterfly96 see above. you are projecting weirdo and creep onto me, a fair fear. A creep wants to use someone, plenty of those. I want to take what I know and help people avoid trouble. The challenge being, I don't think about my age.. see the 27:)? In a different time, assume a Knight came upon a situation. This young Princess has befallen some trouble. Knight knows this path can lead to trouble if not taken carefully. He looks around at all others who say..."oh, there is no problem Princess, ignore the quick sand you've stepped in, it is only mud and will end just beyond that trail!" I say "no wait!, adjust your course or it can consume you!" She considers adjustment course and thanks me. Then a maiden comes up and kicks me in the shin!! What is Knight to think of the maiden? The Court would probably be right to punish the well meaning Knight, under it's laws. And the Kings spies certainly lurk about, as they should:) Warning well received. Good deed is done! P. S. have a good friend of in Canada a little older than you I met off GAG years ago. She sent me some wonderful Canadian memorabilia after helping guide her out of the mess she was in. Still wear my Canada hat with pride! Tis the spice of life to me knowing I could touch a heart and improve a life. Bulb out...

[latinabutterfly96]

I’m sorry. I was way out of line. You didn’t deserve it

[lightbulb27]

@latinabutterfly96 np, I don't mind being challengend and female fear doesn't bother me. It's healthy.

[latinabutterfly96]

Female fear? What... lol

[lightbulb27]

@latinabutterfly96 you're reaction I read as "danger, probably next psycho" = fear, without much context of me. thats emotion... females are very security conscious beings... rightfully so. The asker, for whatever reason, less fearful. Read the news paper, watch netflix movies, see tragedy, casts as shadow on males. males then have to overcome that image. This is what some run into when talking to women, wnat to see an interesting video on that lmk.

[latinabutterfly96]

Um... okay. Well, that’s how you interpreted it. But that wasn’t the basis of my reaction. It was more of a “who do you think you are?” feeling.

[lightbulb27]

if its any consolation, Im sure society agrees with you. I couldn't stand up in church and get support. Just not accepted, I atypical.

[latinabutterfly96]

Uh... I don’t see how that would be considered “consolation”. I don’t need it. But okay!

[lightbulb27]

My translation could be wrong. I aim to hone my social and emotional intelligence. I would translate it as you harbor fear, but that may not be fair. that is a flaw with gleaning too much from a few words. In the end, re-read my very first statement to her. I was spot on, that's what I wanted to affirm. achieved my goal.. affirm my senses right, and I think she hers.

[latinabutterfly96]

Lmfao. Ok, dude.

[lightbulb27]

@latinabutterfly96 e. g. if I asked 20 friends, they'd agree with you.

[lightbulb27]

Saw a video on this subject that addresses parts of your questions. wealth of knowledge out there in TED talk land. lmk if want me to post.

[chxrry]

Yes, it's normal. It doesn't help when my crush is sitting right in front of me leaning and stretching onto my desk lol

[Asker]

Omg that sounds like torture lol, my crush never talks to me so I don't have your struggle 😂

[chxrry]

Hahah then you're lucky but at the same time not😂 I'm struggling to concentrate in class because I just get too distracted by him lol

[Theft]

Lol! Wow that must suck!!!

[Asker]

At least it gives you something to think about when you get home lol

[chxrry]

Hahah, true

[Anonymous]

It’s typical teenage hormones. Just don’t be so outspoken about it unless you’re okay with being called a whore

[Opinion Owner]

(Sadly that’s our society)

[MlleCake]

Totally normal. Welcome to puberty.

[Asker]

I hate it ;-;

[MlleCake]

Learn to masturbate without the porn. It's healthy, fun and free. Then finish your school work.

[Asker]

I try not to masturbate at all, I figured that would make it worse

[MlleCake]

No. That's ridiculous. Get your rocks off. It relieves that tension.

[Asker]

I don't really want to risk being a slut though :/

[MlleCake]

Masturbation has nothing to do with that at all. And it's private.

[Marethyu]

Sounds pretty normal to me.. Especially considering your age.
Puberty.. Hormones.. Don't worry about it ^^
If you're concerned by something specific though, feel free to ask.

[Asker]

I'm concerned about a lot of things haha

[Marethyu]

Haha, sounds like these things are also well beyond your initial question but hey.. I've got some time on my hands so if you like, then ask away :P

[Asker]

Well people seem to think I should be masturbating but I don't know how to do with without feeling guilty lol

[Marethyu]

I didn't get notificated, I'm sorry. Well.. Masturbation certainly is a way to handle your arousal. I don't see why you'd feel guilty about it, since it is one of the most common things in this world. Though I guess, it's probably connected to belief, isn't it? I'm not all too familiar with that. You know.. What you end up doing, is your decision. Masturbating is supposed to make you feel good and bring relief.. If you felt guilty, doing it then that would sort of defeat its purpose.

[mrbobz]

Sounds pretty normal teenager thing to me

[G_james]

It's perfectly normal for you to be that horny I was there not too long ago and I saw the replies below aswell and I have time on my hands too so any other questions?

[sbnalenon]

Yeah, It's normal to have the desire at your age.

[GingerGuy]

Welcome to a guy's world! lol. Yeah it's normal. Some people don't, but lots do.

[Dargil]

The impulse is normal but you can't let it distract you from what's important... school. There's plenty of time later on.

[Asker]

I know I shouldn't let it distract me but it's very difficult

[Dargil]

Even worse for a guy. It's like an addiction at 16.

[Asker]

It's an addiction for me too 😓

[Dargil]

Just don't let it consume you. You have a lot to do in the near future. Reserve your treasure and your desire for a worthy guy.

[Asker]

I'm not going to have sex until I'm in love I'm only worried about masturbating too much

[Dargil]

Masturbation is harmless and it saps off sexual tension. Do it without guilt. It can keep you pure. Just don't let it become an obsession.

[Asker]

I already do it a bit, I'll try my best not to become obsessed :D

[aa180]

That's absolutely completely normal at your age, don't worry.

[yeeeeeeeet]

You're fine but some people are gonna try and make you conform to tradtional female values if you tell them that.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[yeeeeeeeet]

Conservative people don't take well to women enjoying sexual things

[Asker]

Oh.. but that doesn't seem fair, why not?

[yeeeeeeeet]

Well religion plays a big part, but it's also just tradition that men are supposed to be the ones pursuing sex and women are supposed to make them work for it and eventually "give it up." It seems ridiculous to me but it is what it is I guess

[Asker]

Well that just sounds mean to me, girls can like sexual things too, I do

[ThatInsaneChick]

Yes, especially at your age.

[DreamChaser541]

This is definitely normal, this is puberty. Day to day you'll learn to stay focused and find ways to distract yourself. Don't get yourself caught up messing boys, stay on track, and explore yourself at home.

[Asker]

Well, yes I know to only do it at home 😳

[DreamChaser541]

Well there ya go. Don't be embarrassed about exploring you gotta learn your body and what you like and don't like

[Asker]

Okay um.. I'll explore my body a bit more then

[DreamChaser541]

There ya go. It's a process.

[Asker]

Okay thank you >_<

[DreamChaser541]

Do it as much as you need, there's no limit. No guilt at all

[DreamChaser541]

You're welcome 😊

[Asker]

Well I don't want to do it as much as I need or I'll be doing it every day lol

[DreamChaser541]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. My ex girlfriend did it several times a day. There's lots of benefits to doing it regularly.

[DreamChaser541]

Add me and if you need advice just message me

[Asker]

Okay, I sent you a follow 😊

[outside_Toronto]

You're normal

[Engineer__]

I think you shouldn't learn to masturbate, cause it gets like an addiction after u do it.
So better not to do it. You should focus on studying... You can message me if u want

[jjj101010]

Yeah perfectly normal.

[jjj101010]

Who have u followed?

[Asker]

I follow a few people why

[jjj101010]

No worries. Just wondered

[jjj101010]

Wasn’t sure who it was directed at

[Asker]

? 😂

[Asker]

Who what was directed at?

[jjj101010]

Lol nm. Think I got confused

[Asker]

Lol it's okay 😂

[jjj101010]

Anyway. Don’t worry about being turned on so much. It happens to most people. I am the same

[Anonymous]

Sounds normal to me and something I can relate to