Why doesn't he want to have sex with me? mixed signals? is he a fuckboy?

[Anonymous]

so I've been seeing this guy for like a little more than 2 months. he's 22 college senior, i'm 18 college freshman. all my friends were like be careful he's older prolly just wants sex but i kept seeing him, at first i was upset he never asked me out, just always kept it casual like chilling at my dorm or his frat house but whatever i just went w the flow.

weve done sexual stuff a bunch of times now and i thought that we were finally going to go all the way last night but after he went down on me he asked me if I've ever had sex before and i shook my head no and then he just went down on me again and fingered me and rubbed his dick on my pussy so i was waiting for him to put it in lol but then he was like suck my cock... i was shook. whatever i didn't act it i just gave him a bj n then he slept over n cuddled w me.

he was rlly cuddly w me like more than he usually is like kissing me a lot in the morning everywhere on my face n back n squeezing me n stroking my hair. n then he kissed me goodbye 1st time he did that usually just gives me side hugs. my friends were like thats weird bc thats a boyfriend thing.

did he not want to have sex with me because im a virgin? why does he care if im not his girlfriend? should i ask him?

[Anonymous]

Well it sounds like he wanted to wait till you were ready. Till he was ready for that.

a lot of guys like to work up to sex like he did. Though I highly suggest getting a real date out of him.

With this talk to him about it. Maybe he was a virgin also.

[Asker]

i just assumed he wasn't a virgin bc he's 22 had an ex girlfriend and my guy friends told me he fucks around a lot i dont wanna sound dumb lol. would it be weird if i tell him next time that i dont care about losing it? or that i want to have sex

[Opinion Owner]

Next time you two are being sexual whisper in his ear that you want it and want to give it to him. If need be jump him and slip it in.

[jimyee]

If he doesn't want to have sex with you how is he a fuck boy?

[Asker]

like he's just acting boyfriend like bc he thinks thats what i want so he can just get sexual stuff out of me

[jimyee]

... then he woukd have fucked you. Are you brain dead?

[Asker]

I don't know he gets bjs... my friends told me that fuckboys will do even more just to get whatever

[jimyee]

Everyone will do more, that doesn't make them a fuck boy.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I don't know...
I was a virgin and waited four months before feeling ready to have sex with my girlfriend, didn't know this made me a fuckboy...

[Ephemera1]

"is he a fuckboy?"
"weve done sexual stuff a bunch of times now"

That question should be asked BEFORE you do shit like that. There's a high possibility that he will feel guilty taking your virginity. But at the same time you've already done so much shit so why care about that bs.

[Goodguy_97]

In my opinion, he’s being a gentleman. He wants you to feel safe and comfortable. Also, losing your virginity as a girl is a big deal, so he probably wants it to be special

[Saurav11]

Lol. How stupid he was. I wish u here than am gonna fuck ya all day.

[jimyee]

And that's why you're a virgin.

[thebigc]

He's being gentle because you're a virgin. He might think you are dating as it sounds like that. If you were just a hook up I doubt he'd care about you being a virgin.

[ChiPaPa]

How is he a fuck boy or whatever if he doesn't want to have sex with you?

[hereforthefunofit]

He respects you and wants you to know that.

[Anonymous]

Where the hell do you people come from I'v never heard of such things in all my days.

[Asker]

LOL what do u mean?

[Beta_Wolf]

Ikr, i must be living in the wrong country too

[Opinion Owner]

@Beta_Wolf agreed