If a friends with benefits just kisses you passionately does he actually like you?

Anonymous

I just kinda met him and he kissed me and i felt a strong connectionn towards him. I kissed him for 10 min... i wanted a bit more and being a virgin he asked if i was sure of this and i said yeah. so like doesn't this also seem as though he was not taking advantage of me? like while he put it inn *lol* he wouldn't go all the way in until i told him to. that lasted like 3 min because of the pain and he kept kissing me... then he kissed my breasts...

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why are girls saying no and guys saying yes? lol

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SammyGurl Guru
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I don't think it does. Never done friends with benefits, nor ever wanted to it takes away my need for a connection with him. When my guy who was my best friend before we became romantically involved, when we began the physical part of our relationship it drew us closer together. So I kind of have questions on how friends could share such intimacy like that and not come up with some feelings for each other. At the very least completely confused, which is something I hear a lot about friends with benefits relationships. Maybe I'm just an old gal in a young woman's body, but I wouldn't want to gamble on getting hurt like I see so many friends and acquaintances do after being involved in FWB's.
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- Asker
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  no that was my first time having sex. i felt drawn to him not because of his physical but the things he was saying. like he legit told my friend "sex isn't everything inn life" and he like "you have to love yourself to be happy" and "money is not happiness" ... its funnny because its rare to find a guy like thAT... i think i have feelings for him but that was the only time i actually got to talk to him. he messaged me later saying he felt the connnectionn too
- Asker
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  he was very gentle towards me. he was even like..."its not fare for you to do this since its your first time.. allow me"... and he led everything. he was the one who kissed me.. but i wannted more.
- Asker
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  he evenn asked if i was sure about it and i said yes.. when it was about to happen i said that i was scared and he was all like "We dont have to do this if you dont want to "
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- Asker
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  later he messaged me saying that he felt a connnection annd that he hoped that my first time was what i expected it to be... i haven't talked to him since. tbh he had lost his virginity 2 months before that lol
- SammyGurl
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  I said no because I've seen so many friends caught up with one sided feelings after friends with benefits hookups and they have feelings or feel closer or feel something confusing, while the other person fells little if anything emotionally. Then the one who felt something feels hurt and confused when the other person doesn't. But personally, when my guy and I had sex the first time (for both) we both felt more connected and closer. So I think there lies the issue with friends with benefits relationships, "do I admit I really do feel closer" or "do I just push the feelings aside and say I don't feel any different about my friend". I hear so many friends of ours, both guys and girls who have tried it out only to find it doesn't work as easy for them as it's supposed to. For them it's been one or the other person catching feelings they they didn't expect to catch in the first place! That's got to be hard to work through. We've also had friends who thought their friends with benefits relationship would be just that, only for both of them to feel an emotional connection ending up in a romantic relationship. I'm just saying, I'm glad we never tried anything like that as friends, because it sure looks like it can be confusing at times!
- Asker
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  it is lol!!! this just happened... not planned. even he said " i didn't know this was gonna happen"... lol
- SammyGurl
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  Thank You!!
Anonymous
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No no no no...
I always tell people do not have this 'friends with benefits' bullshit. One of the two people WILL SURELY end up catching feelings.
Sweety if he is not into you like that means he just is horny and is doing whatever it is so you guys can continue to have sex.
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OjosOscuros3 Xper 6
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No ma’am it does not. You need to be keep your legs closed if you want to keep him around.
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- OjosOscuros3
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  If he’s a friend with benefits he has no respect for you. Doesn’t matter how pretty you are, how smart you think you are, etc. None of that matters. He literally only wants to use you.
- Asker
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  i wanted it. he just began to kiss me. and i initiated the rest. he was the one saying that if i was sure i wanted to.. and i said yes... i said at one point that i was scared and he was like..."we donnt have to" and i said "do it" lol
- OjosOscuros3
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  Of course you’re going to want it, we have sexual desires too. But what you need is security in knowing that he won’t play with your heart. That’s what makes sex in a committed relationship much better. Especially if it’s going to be your first time. Don’t give in to temptation so easily for men that don’t deserve it.
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- Asker
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  oh yeah of course... lol... i dont usually fall for guys like that... i felt a connectionn with him... not even having to do with his looks lol
- OjosOscuros3
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  Don’t worry, there will be more connections. And some of them will feel it too but don’t be fooled. You’re always at the mercy of when a man wants to commit. It’s never really us who choose and there is nothing you can do to change their minds. Do your thing and make yourself be the best catch you can be in the meantime. Don’t ever sell yourself short or you’ll regret it.
- Asker
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  right!!! thank you for this!!
- OjosOscuros3
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  You’re very welcome!

Most Helpful Guys

lightbulb27 Master
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no, he's just enjoying the sex. he may like you, but that means nothing beyond the day.
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ImpressiveUsername Yoda
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Perhaps, or he could have just been really into the moment.
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- Asker
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  i mean he admitted on feeling a connection lol
- ImpressiveUsername
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  Then why ask? If you trust what he was saying you already had your answer.
- Asker
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  he has not talked to me in a month lol... that is why i ask. he goes to another college now.
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- ImpressiveUsername
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  That's a shame.
- Asker
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  yeah perhaps maybe thats why...

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tonicandgin Yoda
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No it does not
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morimeme1 Explorer
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Maybe or maybe he is just very considerate.
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shimmeryns Yoda
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Not necessarily
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ninja9898 Xper 6
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yes kissing passionatly is more intamint then sex
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- Asker
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  i thought so... thank you.. i haven't talked to him lol
- Asker
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  but thannks!!!
- ninja9898
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  you haven't talked to him b/c you think he likes you?
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- Asker
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  it's complicated lol... no lol its not like that... he's bad at communicating lol
Golden-Thread Xper 6
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No, temporary renting a lips.
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- Asker
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  how are you 113 years old lmao
- Asker
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  also... i have like no lips so like? what was he really renting hahaha
- Golden-Thread
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  Once I knew a bunch of guys who give rent of their body for 2 years. So kissing someone for money is not something new in this true world.