Is foreplay necessary even if you what you want is just sex?

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I had heard there are men who do not enjoy foreplay or do not like to do foreplay to the ladies beacuse what they want is to only fuck and for them foreplay is not necessary. I mean women are totally different than men. For us to get aroused it takes time and so we need the foreplay to be ready for the main event, otherwise it will hurt us and for women sex won't be that satisfactory. But guys think differently (some not all).

IIf a man and a woman are not a couple, they are not gf/bf they are not in a steady relationship, they are more like friends with benefits sort of thing. Is foreplay always needed? Beccause for instance do prostitutes really do forepay with their clients when thy are totally strangerrs and the client what he looks for is just fucking that is all as doing foreplay is like you have some sort of relationship as it involves romantic and passionate touches, something a couples may do, not a prostitute

I ask this because during a work conversationat lunch a coworker of mine who is 45 years old and he still is single heis not dating or have a girlfriend, he jusst enjoys life and have fun., was saying this:

"Why do I need foreplay with the sexy chick I am with if what I just want to do to her is fuck her that is all even if she is my friend but becaue we are not in a serious relationship of any kind why do I need to wait to get to the main event when I just wwant to fuck her when Im pretty sure the lady only wants the same, just to fuck?

What do you think of this?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Foreplay is fun, and I very much enjoy it and I kind of enjoy the tease too - making HER wait for penetration.

Having said that, there are times when she's been thinking about me already, and when I get there, she doesn't want foreplay - just to be fucked RIGHT NOW. So, yeah, that's okay too.

But I don't understand the guys who refuse to do foreplay. It's like going out for a steak dinner, and having NOTHING but the steak itself - no salad, no bread, no potatoes, no veggies, nothing to drink, etc. That would get boring very quickly, and I love me some steak.

ecfresh · Accepted Answer

Why have bad sex? Yes straight up penis to vagina intercourse is a part of making love, but maybe in the circumstances of a quickie is that even on the table. I actually enjoy foreplay as well as the intimacy after sex. Yes men and women are different and just experiencing the intercourse is one option, but for me if I am planning to make love I want to have a pleasurable experience for both people. Even if it's a quickie you can have foreplay via sexting and notes leading up to it to set the mood.

SarahsSummer · Accepted Answer

I think its an incredibly narrow minded and selfish view. Even if this woman only wants to fuck, in order for her pleasure to be maximized, she usually needs to get into it (. ie. wet)
as for your prostitute analogy, first eww, second I would imagine they have their own lubricants they use to keep things working best down there for him and for her.

MlleCake · Accepted Answer

Well, most women do not orgasm from coitus. If they are going to have an orgasm with their partners, it's most likely going to be during that phase, yes.

Guys who don't like foreplay are essentially denying their ladies a right to orgasm. Too many still believe in the myth of the vaginal orgasm.

My policy is I don't fuck those guys.

Puppylover_129 · Answer

If a man doesn't do it, unless we both wanna go to main event, he's a wastes of time. It's selfish in my opinion if there's no consideration for the woman's pleasure, when it's proven that a woman will come more times during foreplay than with thrusting alone.

sockandshoes · Answer

foreplay doesn't have to be romantic. guys get hard and that’s that. you can't go into a woman when she’s dry, she won't enjoy it therefore he won't either. its something that requires effort from both sides if they want the sex to be great. foreplay isn't just kissing, its a lot of different things.

Susan_in_charge · Answer

Foreplay is great! It gives you opportunities to play with all the other parts of the body that you don't use in intercourse.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

foreplay is essential. Once in a while, a Quickie is awesome. But not all the time.

RyanChapman · Answer

I like to make out. I love kissing before and during sex. To me people who don't are just missing out. Fucking without kissing is like popcorn without butter.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

I mean foreplay is usually what turns the girl on so I think it’s necessary

mikereno · Answer

For the most part, foreplay is necessary to get in the mood and warmed up. However, in some cases it’s definitely not needed!

0112358 · Answer

I assume that people who think -no- foreplay is fine have small dicks. Seriously I mean I never thought I was that big growing up, but apparently i'm a bit above average. But unless I've teased the hell out of a girl and she's soaked, sticking my dick in her is going to hurt her. I never understood people who like 'oh wake her up with sex' and stuff like that. But then I realized the average dick was smaller then i'd known, and hell, about half of men are smaller then that.

So you know, maybe they don't really need foreplay.

Now whether you want a lot of foreplay or just enough that's about what you're both into.

And like I said, none might work if you're both … super super turned on.

oliversamuel · Answer

I believe that foreplay is necessary - before having the main course, it's nice to have an appetizer. Foreplay really helps people get to know what makes the other person happy and what they dislike. Foreplay's really just about getting to know the other person's body.

LiamSaw · Answer

Foreplay is very important for a woman as it takes a woman much longer to become aroused then it does a guy. Also, it's important for her to be good and wet before having sex!

CT_CD · Answer

Foreplay is a waste of time and isn't necessary. Skip to the main course

Mikey805 · Answer

I love foreplay I think foreplay really helps get the woman in the mood I will not have sex till the woman cumes first orally , after that the sex is so hot , i was taught this when I was very young by a older woman and it has served me well

Cndnib · Answer

No it's not needed

Jobage123 · Answer

Yes to have great time

Bogner14 · Answer

I live foreplay but I have found some people have no interest in foreplay which was always surprising to me. Often the ones who don't like foreay also are not fans of oral. I like sensuality and foreplay with lots of variety. Some partners are just very vanilla and like it straight up with no messing around or foreay. I guess that is just what works for them. Not my thing. I am very selfless with my partner and have always been this way, but I really enjoy taking our time. That doesn't work for everyone. It's a myth that all women like foreplay and guys do not. For me, it's often been the opposite experience.

Anonymous · Answer

I can have sex without foreplay sometimes. I’ve never experienced a problem with it. Sometimes he likes to push his way in gradually while it’s still tighter down there.