Well not kissing seems like a big enough clue to me, especially considering that some friend with benefits do kiss, I don't think that you should go as far as tell him that you are okay with him fucking other girls. Also a lot of guys don't care much about romantic/emotional stuff anyway. :)
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Should I still act kinda jealous or is that pointless?
What you mean by act? pretend to be jealous or you really feel jealous about him?
Pretend to be!
To make him feel that you care about him? I don't think that there is an real need for that.
Lol true
Also it can backfire, some guys don't like jealous girls, even if they jealous themselves.
Right. I'm getting what I want and that's what matters. Hmm what can I text him? Should I tell him that I don't think humans are monogamous--because I don't!
Look just because he is not emotional, not means that he is not territorial, and you aware that men tend to be more territorial than women, so he might not like you saying that.
You're right. I can't think of what to say!
He is didn't already know that you are "only" friend with benefits and not an official couple? and if he already know that your relationship is based only around sex and not around romance then why do you need to explain to him anything? he likely don' care much about romantic stuff anyway, he is a man after all, it's an common belief that men are doing romantic stuff only to appease women, and not because they really want it/need it, so as long as he having sex he likely don't care, he might be even glad that he don't need to waste time on romantic stuff. Why you want to have a talk with him about monogamy or lack of? are you fucking with other men? or you think that he fuck with other women?
He fucks other women and tells me about it because he knows it won't make me run away. We have a very honest friendship :) I don't fuck other men at all. We just eat and fuck and talk... almost better than a real relationship.
I'm like a guy friend LOL because he can tell me how he fucked a girl til 4am, and I'm like a whore because I fuck him however he wants... but he doesn't have to pay me
You let him fuck you however he wants to be more precise, you like a whore? well maybe because you let him fuck you without demanding from him to be in a serious relationship with you first, on the other hand you not like a whore in a sense that you are not fucking with other men, while you are with him. So you let him fuck you however he wants and still he have enough energy left to fuck other women? seems like he have a very high libido. Anyway if he fuck other women and tells you about it, he is clearly don't care about monogamy, so why you even need to talk to him about it? well at least he didn't care about monogamy from a man's side, he might still didn't like if you was letting other men to fuck you.
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I agree. The thing is; he goes-- "Idk what you want in life, but I'm only good for food and a good fuck" ... and something about if I want relationship I won't find one with him!!!
Why would he think I wanted more? So weird. Yeah he's polyamorus! He even wants me to find him more girls because he's a "pussy collector"! I'm his pimp LOLOLOL jk.
Food and a good fuck? is he is the one who is cooking in the house? well he is quite clear about not being good for a serious relationship, even though theoretically an open relationship is also a thing. But it's quite clear that he is not good for a serious relationship not only because of his works but also because of his actions. He is polyamorous? it looks more like a promiscuous to me, polyamorous guys usually have some limits, but he keep looks for more and more girls to fuck, plus it's likely that not all of them are his friends with benefits. Well girls usually want more, girls tend to be more emotional than guys, so that's why he had thought that you might wanted more, even if you don't admit it. So are you going as far as finding more girls for him yourself? he is really having a high demands from you.
No, we just get takeout! We usually split the bill or I'll pay or he'll pay. Lol yeah he's my dirty man-whore lol. Well right now--IF HE PLAYED HIS CARDS RIGHT--he's polyamorus. He's got this cute, more average bodied girl AND me. They fucked last week. IF she wants him again--he'll be able to fuck her. If not--well it's back to fucking around. I'm still his main bitch either way ;) ! He might brag about the other chicks, but he luckily knows that I won't leave him if he sees other girls. It's exciting hearing about his sexual adventures. I don't get out much. I'm also bisexual... so maybe we can have a threesome eventually!! We live far apart. I'm a delicacy. I don't care what he does though. He always feels trapped in real relationships and so do I. The fact that he doesn't want to settle down is nice because I know in like 5 years; if we lose touch and I'm still single... he'll totally be down to bang XD !! I don't want a serious relationship either though because the thought of getting engaged scares the crap out of me. I'm more interested in the BDSM and sex that he has to offer. We're finally getting more intense!
I'm not FORCED to find other girls for him... I think it's moreso a joke because he claims he really puts himself out there XD! He's not "boyfriend material" lol or so he says.
So you are bisexual? well I didn't known that, but it's likely big part of the reason for why you are okay with sharing him with other girls, and you excited to hear about how he fucks other girl not only because you like to hear about him but also because you like hear about other girls, because you are attracted to other girls, and you also hope that he would have a FFM threesome with you. Well the good news is that many guys find girl on girl hot, and he would likely be okay with a threesome, as long as it's with other girl. Well technically he is a womanizer, but you can also call him a dirty man-whore is you want, if you think that a man can be a whore, and not only a woman can be a whore. You said that he is a "pussy collector", but if he is "only" fuck you and one other girl then he is not exactly a "pussy collector". So the more average bodied girl also knows about him fucking with other girl? and is okay with it? and are you making sure that you are his main bitch or it's not matter much to you? ya he brag about the other chicks because it you excited to hear about it instead of getting jealous because of that. I can see how he feels trapped in real relationship but why you feel trapped in a real relationship, you are fucking only with one guy anyway, so how it's limiting you? because you want to fuck with other girls? ya if you still single he'll totally be down to bang, why he would not, guys tend to be eager, and especially if a girl have a better an average looking body and is letting the guy to fuck her however he wants. Why the thought of getting engaged scares the crap out of you? didn't you like being the main bitch of a guy? so why becoming an official main bitch scares you so much? how far apart you are living? and ya no shit that you mostly interested in the BDSM and sex that he has to offer, it's not like he always paying for the takeout anyway, so he really doesn't have to pay to fuck you, so you see yourself as his BDSM sex slave? :)
Yes, that could possibly be why I’m okay with it! It is exciting. Then I get happy for him that I did not have to be there that night (if it’s a weekend I am too busy to fuck!). I work until around 8; which turns into 9 and he’s usually too tired from partying…BUT on Sundays I work until 3 only, so we usually bang and watch movies and eat ! Here is the kicker; he is bi-curious and wants an MMF too! What’s your definition of a womanizer? Is he worse than a player? How would you describe a player vs womanizer? I think a man can be a whore if he isn’t careful about who he IS fucking. If he’s having sex with ugly girls or girls who have STDs at bars—yeah it can make him less desirable. If he’s fucking inexperienced girls/near virgins—maybe he’s more. He’s an aspiring pussy collector. He’s more promiscuous in the summer, but in the Winter he doesn’t like going out as much or the girls are talking about him and know not to talk to him. He’s not too smart going to the SAME club every weekend? LOL I have no idea if she knows about me, and I don’t care if she does or not. What matters is that he is still fucking me lol. If he finds someone he likes more or has more interesting kinks and wants to give her the time of day for awhile—that’s cool.
Well that was even a bigger twist, a girls who are bisexual or bi-curious are quite common nowadays, but a guy who is bi-curious? so maybe he is not only an aspiring pussy collector, but also an aspiring cock collector, you sure that he was only fucking with girls so far and not with guys as well? also as a BDSM lover, it is not make his look less dominant to you, if he curious about sucking an cock? well a womanizer and a player is an similar type of guy, maybe a player imply that a guy might be less honest about it with the girls he fuck, but not all womanizers are honest about it as well. So if a guy having sex with ugly girls when he is a whore? a guy should keep his reputation by not fucking an girls who are not below average in terms of body quality? and ya STDs is always less desirable, but when a person fuck with a lot of different there is an higher risk for STDs, you think that girls at bars are more likely to have STDs because they are more slutty? anyway ya, if both the guy and the girl are promiscuous the risk is doubled, If he’s fucking inexperienced girls/near virgins maybe he is more what? more desirable? because it's a bigger achievement for a guy to get an inexperienced girl than to get a slutty girl who had already let many guys to fuck her, and because there is much less chance that she has STDs? you think that the average bodied girl that he fucked last week is inexperienced? so you don’t care if he finds a girl that he likes more or a girl who has more interesting kinks than you as long as he still have a time to fuck you? you don't care if other girl would become his main bitch? so even though you say that you let him fuck you however he wants, you still don't have a time to fuck with him because you tend to work a lot, so you happy that there is additional girl who helps to keep him satisfied? you think that you would had not been able to keep him satisfied on your own? also is the cute, more average bodied girl is living closer to him?
Yes to everything you said.
. Sometimes I need a break from him lol. We’re both really expressive and get mad on occasion too. He’s tricky personality-wise and has a mild temper. He doesn’t want to get married—that being said, and he’ll always kinda be around. He’s not wasting time. I feel trapped in a relationship because I feel like I can’t have guy friends (platonic) or recognize another man’s beauty. Yes, and he’d let me fuck other girls, but they’re all very flakey and afraid to meet up (with me) because they might think I’m a guy. I’m 5’4, 115lbs, nice tits, nice ass, thin/muscular, yet curvy lady parts! My pussy is 4 inches inside LOL. It scares me because I don’t really know if I want to get married. Sometimes meeting family members isn’t worth it either if you don’t marry the person. I’ve seen so many marriages fail, I would rather just have a boyfriend and girlfriend at the same time. My girlfriend would always be my best friend and my Dad will NEVER know ! We are about 45min to 1hr apart. In the summer and spring it’s okay, but not in the Winter! Yeah, I really enjoy it. I still see myself as his submissive…but I hope to be his slave eventually! ;) I still don’t know if he’d be okay with at least being around for awhile, even if it stays how it is! HOW do I ASK him if he wants to be my Dom for awhile (AS IT IS NOW)? I don’t want a relationship…but I don’t just want this to end for no fucking
I hear she likes it "softer" so... and LOL she's getting a divorce to some nice guy LOL... but so glad he's only fking us 2 now... and not really fucking around as hardcore
Well it's an fairly detailed description, more than the description that you gave about the more average bodied girl, was is to for the sake of keeping the guy's reputation by showing that he is not fucking an girls who are below average in terms of body quality? well 5’4 is a nice height for a girl, and nice tits, nice ass and curves is good, but how did you know that your pussy is 4 inches inside, is harder to measure a pussy than a cock, also you are muscular? even though you are submissive girl? interesting. You both really expressive and get mad on occasion? and when only with a softer sex with a cute girl could help him to relax and not a rough sex with a sexy girl? he isn't already your Dom? a friend with benefit could also be a Dom no? and you already see yourself as submissive to him. You want him to promise you that he would keep fucking you even if the cute girl would keep fucking with him? so he okay with her liking it softer? because he still gets to be rougher with you? is he prefer to be with girl who like to get fucked in different ways? you also want him to promise you that he would only fuck you and the cute girl, and not additional girls, you want to tell him that you okay with one extra girl but not more? because you worried about STDs, also do you want to have a threesome with the cute girl or with other girl? you want to have a boyfriend and girlfriend at the same time? you not satisfied being only with guy or a girl, you want both? because you can do different stuff with a guy and a girl? when you was in a serious relationship the guy was always very jealous and he didn't let you have male friends, even if your friendship with them was totally platonic? and didn't allowed you to even look at other guys? your Dad is against you having a girlfriend, but if you also have a boyfriend then it would be easier to fool him and tell him that she is just your best friend? so the guy let you fuck other girls but you are not able to find another girl?
Lol yeah, I'm originally just thin, but worked out to get a good ass among other things. Hmm he showed me a picture of her. Pink hair, likes goth/raver look, she likes to smoke weed, brown eyes, nice body... but she's in the process of getting a divorce! I will probably draw them together ;) lol and not show him! I want him to fuck both of us and maybe if he can't find either of us THEN do a one night stand (but less often to avoid issues). I will definitely have him use condoms too!! I know he's my Dom, but I don't know if I'm actually his friend. Though he told the Uber driver I was his friend! :) I think he's used to girls who like it slower. I just like it rough because that's main reason why I'm with him sexually.
Yeah, I'd have a threesome with her! She's not bad looking! I would love to dominate her. I need to find out if she's bisexual. Big problem is that she's lol using my Dom to cheat on her husband (but she IS going through a divorce)!
Yes even though she looks like a cute girl and likes it doing it softer, she is still an pretty nasty girl for cheating on her husband, even though she claims that they are going through a divorce, they are still technically married, and it's one more reason for you to don't have much faith in marriage didn't it? well it would be good if she is an bisexual or at least bi-curious because than you would be able to have threesome with her. So you are dominant with guys and submissive with girls? because it's easier to dominate girls? is it also one of the reasons that you like the idea of having a boyfriend and girlfriend at the same time? what you like to do with a girl when you dominate her? why you want to draw them together, you like thinking about them together? and what kind of picture it would be, platonic or sexual? anyway it nice that he had shared a picture of her with you. So you want him to fuck only you and the cute/goth looking girl as long as one of you is available to take care of his needs, but in case that non of you is available you than you okay with him fucking other girl, but only if it's a one-night stand and not an additional friends with benefits type of relationship, you would will definitely have him use condoms in the one-night stands or with you? and was you always letting him to fuck you bare? and did he tell you if he is also fucking the cute/goth looking girl bare? you don't know if you are actually his friend? and you don’t know if he okay with at least being around for awhile even if it stays how it is, you never talked to him about the status of your relationship? well if you tell him that you would like keep fucking with him, even though he is also fucking with the cute/goth looking girl I don't see why he would have problem with it, and he is already like to talk you with you about her anyway.
Yeah, I stopped caring about marriage. I don't know, lol at least my Dom isn't "cheating on me" lol, like I've known about her for weeks. She on the other hand... hmm lol. Sub with guys, Dom with girls! Yes, we can both fuck him... and on occasion he can fuck whoever else as long as we all wear condoms! We fucked bare at some point, but stopped because I guess he's being smart since he's fucking the goth girl too! I don't know if we're friends as in he "likes me as a person"! I want to make sure he doesn't mind me hanging out because sometimes he can be really mean. :( But yeah, he tells me about her because he wants to be honest ya know. :) I appreciate his honesty. I just hope he likes her as a person too! He could be "using us" but we're using him too... BUT I hope he actually likes us/hanging out. She's a partier and I'm a homebody :) ... so he has his choice between a nice girl and a bad girl :3
So even though you don't want a romantic relationship with him you still hope that he likes you and the goth girl as a person, and that he is not just using you both for sex? are you able to tell if a guy like you as a person in a friends with benefits type of arrangement? you hope that he likes hanging out with you and the goth girl not only because he gets to keep fucking you both? even though you believe that your Dom is an aspiring pussy collector you hope he is not with you and the goth girl only so he can have both of your pussies? you want to make sure he doesn't mind you hanging out? hanging out with who? with the goth girl? you think that he might not be okay with sharing her with you even though he is already fucking you both? but separately, so far. Yes he could be using you both, and while you both might be using him too, it's much harder for an girls to use an guy than the other way around, especially in a sexual way, using a guy for money is an different thing. Usually an purely sexual relationship are benefiting mostly the guy, that's why there are much more guys who are okay with an casual relationship than girls who are okay with an casual relationship, also he gets to fuck two girls, while you still didn't able to have a threesome, so it's clearly benefits him the most, but at least you get excited and not jealous about him fucking the goth girl, and you like the fact that you can have some break from him when he fuck the goth girl instead of you, especially when you busy or get mad at him. There is no much reason to think that you are using him, he gets to fuck an girl with sexy body that don't put almost any limitations on him, and also split the bill with him on takeouts. One of the only cases when a guy might be used sexually by a girl if an ugly girl is fucking with an hot guy, but it's unlikely to happen because guys tend to care about an girls bodies/looks a lot, an hot guy dating an ugly girl is much less likely than the other way around.
Usually a guy needs to be desperate or drunk to fuck an ugly girl, and by default guys fuck, girls get fucked, guys usually have an edge when it comes to sex. That said, the goth girl might be using your Dom, mainly because she is using him to cheat on her husband, even though she didn't lied to your Dom about the fact that she is not officially single, but your Dom might had not told her that he keeps fucking you, even after he had started to fuck with her, ya I am not sure if she is okay with him fucking you as you are okay with him fucking her. By the way your Dom had asked you if you are okay with him start fucking with the goth girl or he told you about her only after he had fucked her? so he was fucking you bare before he start fucking the goth girl as well? and he started to wear condoms with you without you asking him about it? and didn't it felt like a downgrade for you to fuck with him while he wear condom, because you was already used to do it with him bare, didn't you enjoyed fucking with him more whan he was fucking you bare? doing it bare tend to feel much better don't you think so? you think that your Dom trust in you being clean from STDs more than he trust in the goth girl? that's why he start using condoms only after he had started to fuck the goth girl? he trust her less be because she is cheating on her husband? maybe he also suspect that he is not her only 'lover'? so you used to care about marriage in the past? yes your Dom is technically "not cheating on you", because you are not married to him and because you had approve of him fucking the goth girl. Your Dom is not monogamous but he is honest about it, at least with you. You okay with your Dom fucking both you and the goth girl as long as he is not fucking steady with an additional girl. What did you mean by if he would do a one night stand it should be less often to avoid issues? sometimes he can be really mean? why is he mean to you even though you approve of him fucking the goth girl?
So the goth girl isn't bisexual :( ... I want him to like us both because it's for his own benefit. I care about her even if I don't know her. Being a Womanizer, it's a numbers game so if anything he wants like 3... not one! :) Yes when I'm on my period I like her even more lol "I'm bloody take my place"!! Yeah, it's a great arrangement! We watched VENOM and ate Mexican food! He finally bound my wrists too!!! Yes, he fucked me bare... and he fucks everyone else with condoms. He is paranoid that I might catch something anyway so maybe condoms with me too now. :) If she's eventually not okay with me... she will probably leave. She's gotta deal with her divorce anyway. :P Right, she told him she was only fucking him... at least... hopefully! It's okay though. Yeah he's blunt, honest and hot. He's not really mean, just blunt or when he gets crabby at night. :/ It's okay though. Ohh and he does one night stands on occasion, but he should definitely use condoms for them if anyone lol!!!
He's been showing me pictures of her. He gets all excited and that makes me happier!!! I think he really likes hsr?
*likes her
what do u think?
He told you that the goth girl isn't bisexual? that's unfortunate, so a threesome with between you two is not likely. You care about her even though you barely know her? so how can you be sure if he likes you and the goth girl as a person or he is just likes to fuck you both? you say that you care about her, but you don't care if she approve of him fucking you or not, you don't care if he is honest with her, as long as he is honest with you, so in what way you care about the goth girl exactly? by the way you think that he is kissing with the goth girl or is he only fucking her, like he does with you? being a womanizer is a numbers game so if anything he wants like three not one? you think that he want to add more girl that he would be fucking steady? would you make sure that if he add one more girl that she is an bisexual? your period is stoping you from being able to satisfy your Dom on your own? but isn't you having anal with him and not only PIV? so how is period is such a issue in your case? is it because you getting mad or very messy when you having an period or it's because he like the pussies in his collection too much to be satisfied with only anal? you watched the movie Venom with him? well he was likely watching that movie with the goth girl as well, Venom is an very gothic character after all. So he was fucking all other girls with condoms, and fucking only you bare? was it making you feel more like his main bitch? he is paranoid that you might catch something anyway, even though you are not fucking with other guys? did he not believe that you are not fucking with other guys? the goth girl had told him that she not fucking with other guys? he is blunt and honest? well at least with you, I don't know if he is honest with the goth girl as well. He still does one night stands and why you worry about him using condoms in the one night stands if he is using condoms even when he is fucking you and the goth girl? even though you both don't fuck with other guys.
Well, he's going to probably tell her eventually that he's fucking other girls. I just know b/c he's been fucking me longer! I just need him to be honest with her EVENTUALLY. That's just how it goes. Lol. He knows I'm not seeing other guys.
Shit, dude... we don't JUST have anal! We have vaginal sex too! I don't like period sex, not my thing.
You know only because he had been fucking you for longer? so you didn't know that he fucking with other girls at the same time that he is fucking with you? and didn't he told you that he is going to fuck the goth girl before he had fucked her for the first time? you know that "being honest eventually" is not exactly being honest, if a guy is truly honest with girls then he is honest with them from the very start. You know that the default of an steady relationship is not friend with benefits and/or polyamory, so obviously a guy who is fucking steady multiple girls, without telling them that he is fucking multiple girls is not honest with the girls.
Yes, he told me about her from the jump. It's fine. I'm getting what I want so IDC. Goodbye...
yes he told me about EVERY girl he had sex with!!!
Okay, so how often he fucks other girl beside you and the goth girl?
yep... love and lust are opposites. keep love out of it, helps keep lust going a while I guess, not sure how long.
you have your plans, nature has it's:) The purpose of this stuff isn't really for selfish interests.
OVER A YEAR... but trust me we were attached at SOME point... but it never really became "love" so it's just "lust" now!
my experience with this, monitoring this site over years... the guys get love bit!:) When you tell him you have another friends with benefits is when you find out. I am surprised.. I thought it was the girls who would usually fall. This part I don't get... when the bond occurs. At least you are having great sex, that's more than a lot of us. Lust is powerful..1 year... wow... surprised goes that long. I don't understand how you can de-tach emotionally...
what do u mean "love bit"? Neither of us fell for each other. In the beginning we went too fast and he kissed me too much and kinda didn't explain anything, but we took a little break and that helped a lot!
love bit as in they fall for the girl emotionally. possession takes hold. Not saying happens every time, but a common theme I've seen. guys do have hearts, they can get hurt... we'll see, don't let me mess it up... just sayin... prob a good idea to keep kissing down, then I wonder how it ll works, kissing essential to me.
oh he's possessive alright... I only fuck guys if he APPROVES of them LOL
this is trending polymorph possibly. I don't know, not my know zone:) Keep on trucking as they say... Baby shows up, then what... curiuos if you thought about that? p. s. why am I not buying you are not emotionally attached to him. Like I know girls and so often they say the opposite of something because the opposite is actually happening and they want to test him first. Like I guess I don't buy the premise:) Tell me I'm wrong:) know what mean?
I don't think he's "good enough" to be boyfriend material. I know that's insulting; but he's NOT my usual type. He thinks he's trash. The way he views women is kinda disgusting; but funny too.
I'm NOT saying I don't love him "as a person" AT ALL. I love him as much as my other platonic friends. I just don't see him as a boyfriend or anything of the sort.
ok. so is the typical thing I hear around this age like... girls go for the F-boy, bad boy type for sex, then later, want to settle down with the stable "beta" male? is that how you feel right now? Is he just filling a void til later? Here's the delimma I'm trying to sort out. When you have someone, they fill a space in your life. If didn't have them, then there is room for someone else... maybe a more full relationship. I guess it comes down to what you want and what value is being gained now? I've learned that there is a deeper value to relationships in terms of growing in love. but that isn't happening here apparently, this is all lust... basically a shot of drugs... which is a preservative. So is it preserving... what? get where I'm coming from? Not judging, trying to understand... I totally get gobs of amazing sex, no argument here...:)
I already dated the "perfect" guy for me, and I was going to marry him and everything. He was beta! I just got SO bored of him and he changed as a person too. I was young and wanted to see who else was out there. BUT--I can't go back in time and go back with THAT guy b/c sexually it was just so bad. I just want good sex now and spend time with someone I know well. I don't have guy friends so he kinda fills 2 voids; a male companion, male point of view, someone to vent to a bit/vice versa, and REALLY amazing sex! I'm into BDSM and he's Dom and I'm sub. This is what I wanted since I was 18. Why end something that's kinda my 18yro self's dream? I don't really want marriage anymore. I actually think humans are polyamourus and that's why they cheat. I don't think it's ethical to be with one person for life.
Fascinating to read, adds so much more depth to what is going on, I appreciate you sharing!:) I could keep going on this, and probably sit down for coffee/tea and talk for 5 hours... lol... that's a lot of coffee... be wired:) cause I wonder what is under all that. But suffice to say, I'm so frustrated by what I hear from people, not just you, the difficulty between love and lust. This has got to be fixable and I think the guys are big part of the problem. The girl want's deep pleasure! Why they not get that? Why is it guys fall in love and can't perform or lust the woman? Turn it on and turn it off back to love. grrr!!! I'm motivated and frustrated... I wanna smack some guys around... lol!!! BDSM... see like... what ties back to that... a trauma, watching porn? Is it just the beta was plain jane? Note that testosterone levels of men as been dropping since 1980's I hear, 1% a year. So maybe some guys have it and some don't? See that "perfect guy" probably felt like love... like ties to childhood love feelings, but you have these lust feelings and they conflict. It's all screwed up childhood stuff imho... In one fell swoop, whatever it was... just terminated all your offspring right? e. g. you don't want kids, just endless pleasure. is that right? copying a few who might gleen something out of this discussion @jesslin412 - see a common theme in this thread? @SeanshterMonster - food for thought and understanding girls needs...
I've been into BDSM for years... since before I could do it (17)! My beta second boyfriend was from when I was 20-22! Lol. I tried getting him to be more sexual but it didn't work!
But now I found my fantasy!!!
so lucky! bummed couldn't get the guy going, those beta males need work, I get it, I used to be very lame. Society produces them... and the others get the girls. it's nature. enjoy!
Lol thanks! But what should I tell him?
lost me, tell who what?
The actual answer to my question lol
oh... haha! got side tracked. Hey friends with benefits, I enjoy the "F32ing", but there is no emotion here and I dont' want it. Direct communication for guys! Indirect communication to women. lucky for you, guys are simple!:)
Could someone still like a person "romantically" but not be emotionally attached to them?
I don't want him to think I don't like him at all
that's a good question that has been elusive for me. I've had the opposite, so I assume it is possible for some people... others out here... especially women testify they have the one side but not emotion. I don't get how that works... maybe women can compartmenatalize well? My question or thoguht is that behind the scenes... those chemicals and micribiome are doing their magic... whether someone conscious of it or not! You are getting a drug hit of the greatest concoction nature/God made to connect us... how does a person ignore a drug hit? You can simply say that I like you in this way! I'd be careful as what you are really saying is rejection in a sense... e. g. I wouldn't want you for any more than XYZ... it's kinda an insult depending upon how he takes it, or it is what he wants. I would be put off by it honestly, but I'm wired differently... if my heart isn't in it, it doesn't work... if you get me.
I actually feel like he likes me ROMANTICALLY, but sex is the only way he knows how to show it? He calls this "seeing each other" which has sensual undertones to it.
In a sense I DO like him romantically, but not to a high level. The emotions are all sexual. I won't prance around my room going "I love him!" It's more like, "His face, his body... so sexy... I want him inside me."
how old are you? I just wonder if you" left your heart in san francisco"... as the song goes... or rather with the other guy. so it isn't here to give, you won't release it. Or is it just the passion part here is so strong. I've been thinking a lot a bout attraction and have ideas how it works. It is a combination of X thousand years of females saying what is a good mate + what you experienced in life. It is both love and lust. That old programming is strong for females young, when hormones turned on. the hormones activate emotional circuitry that says "this feels good and right". A powerful male, emotionally strong, non apologetic, drive, presence, "alpha male"... all says desire! The love seems crafted much deeper in our core and in our childhood. Guys do express their love via sex, that's how we are designed... see glimpse of that in my valentines mytake.
He likes sex with me a lot... I can see the passion in his eyes... I love him as a person and love the sex... It's a weird ass combination because I'm not IN LOVE with him!!
I'm 24
conv to msging here? I'd like to track a little, but I have more Q's. e. g. why you think you don't love him or dont' want to? how did you meet him, what was the draw at the time? do you think you are functioning out of a wound? I can explain that more if don't understand? if the guy who loved you gave you the BDSM or whatever you wanted, he'd still be in the game, right?
C sounds good. Is this who I think it is?
Yes Ma'am! PM me lol ;) and I'll see if you're right!
how do u know who this is? she sounds amazing :D
@manmeat she was right too
haha who are you dm me we prob chat already but woudl be nice to know bit more :D
@manmeat actually we don't!
in that case do u fancy a chat some time?
@manmeat anyway, things are good now
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If you already know that "He doesn't want a romantic relationship either" then why do you need to explain anything?
it's tricky because the quickest way to get a guy romantically attached is good sex. It sounds like you have great sex.
Just tell him that it's a purely physical thing with him and you're not ready for anything serious. Kissing is "serious" to you.
you just need to tell him straight out what you think including all three points you gave as options. sooner you confront any attatchment issues sooner you can get back to good hard no strings fucking
Have him read this. It says everything. I think he would know afterwords. But I think it is better if you just tell him. But if you can't, you still have him read this. Either way will work
Unless your both sociopaths your just a blue super gaint
Just show him your second paragraph.
To convey tell him option B. You both will feel relieved knowing that.
But like how do I even say it?
The best moment will be when both are engaged, saying different things to please, just say it. Later ask him him if he listened to that and that you really mean it without any doubt. But make sure you really mean it.
why do u need to tell him surly he knows its friends with benefits and feels same way
had to laugh at this line We get Mexican takeout as well as Chinese takeout! is this like some code that you do threesomes with Mexicans and Chinese lol
Actually it's not! We get actual food!!
oh little boring but guess u need to keep energy up :D hehe x
He has another girl too but she's my opposite... but I'm more romantic and like to stay in
have u ever met her? would you have threesome with her?
just saw pics of her ;) ... but she's straight
would u do threesome with her if had chance? even if she straight u both could attack him at once :D
Sexy. Yes it would be fun
dm me?
Why do you need to say anything at all? Sounds like you're both already on the same page.
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