My boyfriend has a small one and the sex sucks! How do I make the relationship better?

[Anonymous]

I started dating my boyfriend 2 months ago. He's such a sweet and awesome guy and we have a lot in common. He understands me and we get along great in this relationship. The only problem is the sex is not going great at all. At first I thought it would start to get better but it's been over a month since we started having sex and it's really not great.
The problem is his c0ck is not the biggest (about 5 inches) and I think the issue is my ex (broke up that shit 4 months ago) was way bigger and after having taken 9 inches every night for 4 years straight, I can really tell the difference.
What's worse is my boyfriend doesn't last long enough. I've had sex with him several times over the month and he's only made me cum twice, which is frustrating since I'm multi 0rgasmic and my ex would make me cum at least 5 or 6 times every night.
Is there any way I can build his stamina so that he can last at least 40 minutes? How else can I make the sex better. He's an awesome guy and I don't want this relationship screwed over by this one thing.
Thanks.

[Aysen]

It really makes me happy knowing that you're trying what you can to solve this problem instead of bailing out because of his "size"! It's going to take a lot of communication and practice for this to work but it's certainly not impossible if you both work on it!

You mentioned how he doesn't last long in bed; he needs to build up his stamina both in the amount of energy he has and controlling the tension being built up in his penis. Some ideas he could try for controlling tension are desensitizing sprays/cream to numb himself to last longer, putting on a condom to reduce the pleasure (unless you prefer bare then completely ignore this) and/or he'll need to practice ejaculating prior to sex long enough to last longer naturally! Follow his lead and see how far he goes before he starts to wear down. For his stamina levels, he'll need to work out with cardio exercises during the week and eat healthier to product more blood flow and oxygen through his body to have more energy naturally and even a better sexual experience for him!

I really do hope this works out for the both of you because you two sound like a wonderful couple! I can understand though how bad sex can lead to bitter moments in the relationship neither of you want. I don't think what you're asking for is unreasonable; a great sex session with your boyfriend where you and him both can receive the pleasure you both want! Be sure to talk to him about this beforehand so you two can set up a plan together! Hope this helps with what you're looking for.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot for understanding. How long does it take for men to get hard after ejaculating? So if he nuts first, will he last longer later? Not sure how it works. When I cum once, I usually cum sooner the second time. Do all guys last longer after they nut the first time?

[Aysen]

From what I've researched and been told by other men, every guy will last longer the second time around because it takes time for their body to readjust. For your boyfriend depending on his sex drive, there should be at least a 15 minute - 3 hour break in between for him to recharge (do be careful of leftover sperm in his penis unless you're on birth control). In comparison to myself from which I suffer from premature ejaculation, I last about 15 minutes longer because I don't have to worry about sensitivity getting in the way from having sex with my girlfriend as much, so long as I change positions here and there! I always wondered how female orgasms worked! I've been told they can have multiple orgasms in a session in which the intensity of it can increase or decrease depending on their stamina.

[Asker]

That's interesting. With me the first orgasm takes about 40-50 minutes to get. But after that I can get lots of small ones at 5-10 minutes intervals. Penises are so fun to understand lol

[Aysen]

I honestly didn't think orgasms can take that long to build up! It sounds like once you get it the first time, it'll be significantly easier afterwards when your body feels relaxed and horny enough to embrace more! I just wish penises weren't so quick to giving into pleasure so sex can last a lot longer for most guys :(

[lightbulb27]

yes work with him, def use condom.. should last longer. do not tell him about the past. see if you can entice him to pleasure you thoroughly first, then himself. he needs to learn. set fun goals.
I don't know if there is anything that can grow his part... rsch.
Kegel exercises?
I know someone else dealt with this, I think she got it worked out better, not sure it's ever the same. good Q for women.
good _uck, select your alphabet character.

[lightbulb27]

there is a huge mental component to sex. that is if he can get you seduced better, thinking he's bigger, that helps. that is him though, you can't teach him and you shouldn't know about this... shhh!! top secrete info. he should study seduction...

[Asker]

Do kegels really work? I read about them and I've started bit I'm not sure how long till I notice a difference. I started a week ago. No noticeable change in feeling so far. I'd definitely NEVER tell him about my ex's cock lol

[lightbulb27]

I've heard yes but let women confirm.

[Asker]

Ok then, I'll definitely keep doing kegels so that I can feel him better. Thanks a lot for the advice. Is there a way he can last longer though?

[lightbulb27]

Yes... he should do his part and study up... exercise... also about getting his head right as i noted to pleasure yoi first... which motivates him to adjust as needed. Practice! Id say non porn... some may disagree. he's prob a nice good guy... so he has much to learn bout how to be the man for you. He should be out here. He has to want to be thst for you so lets hope he responds and learns. Challenge is a lot of guys can be selfish and not understand... let us know if he is responsive.

[Asker]

Thanks! Your input is very helpful.

[lightbulb27]

Thanks for the mho. Good luck, hope works out and he knocks you out with orgasms!;)

[Anonymous]

Wow, you people telling her to end things or leave him over his size? You are sad, horrible people. Is that how you treat someone you instantly have a problem with but like everything else about them: leave them? Smdh.

Okay anon, first off that's awesome you're trying to make this work! Talk with him, not about your ex: big no no. But instead tell him you're not feeling fulfilled. Most guys that want to please you will do anything to make sure you're happy too.

Maybe have him try oral on you, or try some other positions that will stimulate you more! And of course toys; adding them in might help too. You just have to be creative about it

[Asker]

Thanks so much for understanding babe. I definitely won't talk to him about the sex with my ex lol. The good news is he can make me cum with oral, but he ends it too soon and wants to get straight to penetration. That wouldn't be a problem if he could make me cum with penetration but he hasn't been able to so far. Not sure how I should get him to stay down there for longer without offending him though. I've also been thinking about anal sex since I'm sure I'll feel him a lot more that way. But I'm super nervous about doing it too soon. Thanks a lot for your advice!

[LingyRolls]

Is he turned on by the idea of sharing you with another guy? You might be surprised how many guys are turned on by this. It might be a good release valve off sexual tension now and then so you wouldn't feel any resentment from sexual frustration. Just a thought.

[Paige90]

You are correct that a lot of guys get turned on by watching their girlfriend have sex with another guy (s). The guy I dated in college LOVED watching me and even found guys for me to do it with.

[Asker]

@Paige90 lol. I'm definitely open to the idea but only if he wants it. I'm not sure how he feels about sharing me though. And it's probably way too early in the relationship to bring that up lol

[Paris13]

Small and All?
Suck that Up or Get Into a Hopeful Better Relationship with Longer One, hun.:((xx

[Paris13]

***Word of Advice: It shrinks when they are Older:((xx

[Asker]

Size is not everything. I think he can make up for it with stamina, technique, etc. The only question is how do I get him to do that?

[Paige90]

It does? I have seen a lot of men in their 40s, 50s and even 60s and their dicks look the same as a guy in his teens or 20s.

[zozo7880]

Some of us have it, some of us don't.
I really don't think penis size is really a factor though.
Kinda a myth. Maybe girth matters a bit.

But you need to talk to him about it, tell him what you want and how you want him to do it. So much better in the long run trust me.

[Asker]

I agree girth is the most important aspect of size. I'm not saying size is the most important thing. But what about better stamina etc? How do I make him improve there?

[zozo7880]

Sad to say, but the more he does you, the older it gets. And the least turned on he will be by you. at that point, his stamina may increase... OR when he's about to cum, tell him to think "dead puppies, dead puppies, dead puppies"

[EmmaMary]

Break up before you destroy him completely.

[Asker]

What do you mean "destroy him completely". He's amazing, I'd never hurt him.

[EmmaMary]

All you have done is gone on about how amazing your ex was. Why don't you simply crawl back to him?

[Asker]

I dont love my ex anymore and sex isn't everything. But it's extremely important. I just want to improve it with my boyfriend. Like I said my ex was a little shit but there was only one good thing about him. Not worth going back to him though!

[EmmaMary]

Then way the hell are you doing any comparisons?

[Asker]

No trying to be a bitch but these differences kinda stand out! I'm not trying to belittle my boyfriend

[Asker]

Not* trying

[EmmaMary]

My advice now would be for you to take some time out, to quietly and calmly work out and decide exactly what you do want both in life, and in a relationship.

[Asker]

I want a relationship that's happy and healthy and we are compatible in every other way. I just want the sex to work out as well but I'd definitely never hurt him or break up with him over it. So why the hate?

[EmmaMary]

There's absolutely no hate at all, I'm just stressing what I would do in this situation. Mind you, good or excellent communication always helps.

[Asker]

How exactly do I tell him to improve though without it hurting him?

[Asker]

Sorry for judging you harshly babe

[Soremain]

There is no way you can make it work. You are not sexually compatible. You need a big dick and he needs a small girl.

[Asker]

If he can make me cum once every night I'm happy. He doesn't need to be huge but I expect him to make up for that with stamina and technique. Why is that so wrong?

[Soremain]

That's the problem. He's in a position where he has to "make up" for what he got. That's why he needs a girl he doesn't have to "make up" for anything. Does he even know about this situation? He should definitely know and see how he feels about this.

[Soremain]

You don't respect / understand how it feels as a guy to be in such a position. I'd never date a girl whose ex got double the size of mine and now I have to "make up" and try to somehow come even little bit close to how he could satisfy you. Not many girls even take 9 inches easily so why the hell try make 5 incher work in such a hole. That's just humiliating for the guy.

[Asker]

Oh come on. Guys are way too insecure about cock size. So just because your girlfriend might have fucked bigger guys you wouldn't date her? If she loves you she will stay with you, so why all the worry? I have strong feelings for my boyfriend and I want this relationship to go on and I'm not about to let a size problem get in the way of it, but I am going to do whatever I can to make the sex better. No guy should feel bad because of his cock size. If you're nice to girls most of us will be fine with it.

[Soremain]

"So just because your girlfriend might have fucked bigger guys you wouldn't date her?" Correct. It's not about fear of her leaving me, I'm the one refusing in the first place. It's about compatibility, that's not insecurity. I want to put my dick in the best place possible. There are girls who can't even take more than 5-6 inches, so of course I want to be with a girl like that and not with a girl who takes 9 inches and then I'm at best okay, but doesn't quite do the same trick. Of course you feel bad about it if you know it's not the ideal for that particular girl. You want to be with a girl it's ideal for. You said yourself your ex's dick was way better. How the hell can't you understand it makes guy feel bad if he can't match her ex? :D But enough about my preferences. Does your boyfriend know about this? Why don't you tell him this same story if you care about him so much? If you want your relationship to work, you should be honest and not talk about this problem on the internet, but with him.

[Soremain]

The girl might be okay with the fact that it's not ideal or as good as her previous, but for me it's not okay :D Imagine you make a singing performance or something, and then you sing horribly, but your friends say "It doesn't matter, we think you are the best and we will still listen you to sing". It doesn't bother them, but it will bother you. It's more about you as a performer, not about is the audience still coming back or do they leave me completely.

[Nivinxus]

I dunno, try foreplay or using toys. Great thing about dildos is that they never go soft... probably.

[Asker]

No dildo can replace the real thing. The most important question is how do I get him to last longer?

[Nivinxus]

Tell him to pace himself. I find out I last longer if Jackhammer away because there is no way I can cum like that. Every guy is different and he needs to figure it out for himself. I think the longest I lasted was almost 3 hours.

[Jenny4455]

You need to talk to him about it

[Asker]

and say what?

[Jenny4455]

Be honest about you not finding the sex satisfying

[Ripper_E]

I feel like this is trolling

[Giggletr0n]

Invest in sex toys and get him to use them on you

[buttcrackjoe]

Maybe your twat was reamed too wide

[lalit449]

What is your reason with him. If it is lust then leave him, if it is love why you care so much

[TheFlak38]

This is for the women who say size does not matter.

[Rider22]

Yup and then will be bitching on here in Agee days as to why guys keep asking if their dick is small.

[Asker]

Size especially girth definitely matters but by no means is it the most important thing. If she loves you, she'll stay anyway so why all the insecurity over size? I just want the sex to improve but I sure as hell won't dump him over this.

[Rider22]

Well you took the time to bitch about it. Get a big dildo and jam that in ya.

[TheFlak38]

Asker, women know to love only opportunistically. In other words what a woman can take from a man. So yes, size matters a great deal. Otherwise you wouldn't even post this question in the first place. You want a long fat dick that will stimulate the area between your legs and give you an emotional high with your eyes getting popped out. The guy has a little shrimp however and therefore he is about to get dumped so you can search for the longer dick your vagina desperately needs. And no, personally Im not insecure at all. My size is bigger than average and I was once rejected by a virgin who was afraid of it. Im merely pointing out female hypocrisy when it comes to size. Dick size matters for women just as boob size matters for men.

[Asker]

@Rider22 a dildo isn't like the real thing obviously. And I'm not "bitching". Just asking how to improve things.

[Rider22]

Not much you can do, have him give your oral more.

[Asker]

You got rejected by a virgin. Wow I guess that makes you a stallion. Oh please. It's great you have a big cock, but honestly a smaller cock with a nice attitude will make a woman happy. All I'm asking is how he can last longer and how I can tell him to work on technique without it hurting him. That's all.

[Asker]

I dont mean to come off like a bitch though so sorry if I offended.

[TheFlak38]

Asker logic: -The sex sucks because his dick is small -Nah it's not because of the size. It's his technique

[Asker]

Like I said, that can be made up for with technique and stamina

[Rider22]

Find a new boyfriend with a big one.

[Anonymous]

As being an average size 6 and often premature ejaculator and feeling kind of insecure myself, I’ve just focused on wanting to be an awesome lover. I did a lot of research and wanted to focus on her body and her orgasms. And I’m very happy with where I’ve progressed! I have not had complaints at all and I’m currently in a 15 yr relationship with my lady she loves the attention, the spoiling and earth shaking orgasms I give her. I give her awesome full body sensual oil massages. I buy and love using toys on her. I tie her down and blind fold her and torture her body with playful attention and good oral and I take great pride in that. When I get her good and ready and she’s already had an orgasm or more, she’s completely hot and wet and begging for me and it doesn’t matter how big or how long I last and we’re both completely satisfied! I love using quality vibrating cock rings with her too! The point is, communication is the key. If your not satisfied and you’re disappointed you have to talk about sex, and he has to understand and want to work on things! He will get better and gain confidence and the connection will be so much more awesome! But it’s the whole act and build up, not so much expecting someone to be able to pump 40 mins. I know I can’t I’m too sensitive! But Masturbating or getting a good handjob before, can def help though with desensitizing!

[Asker]

That sounds so sweet. I'm sure she loves you it. Not sure how to tell him to do that though!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks! Yeah it works out great and I love to do it without her asking. You have to try communication or leading him. Hopefully he gets it? Sometimes there’s just no hope though especially if he is selfish in bed. I think it comes with age though? Hopefully you find your happiness!

[Anonymous]

Maybe a dick sleeve would work. He may not be 9 inches long and thick as a can (like 99.9% of the male population), but a dick sleeve may help him fulfill the stimulation you look for, although I suspect is not his penis size, he just sucks at sex.

[Anonymous]

Get back with your ex.