Sex before marriage?

Is it better to have sex before marriage? Why?

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  • It's not. And studies have shown how much dysfunction, abuse, sexual negativity, financial problems, relationship issues, ETC have came from premarital sex besides unwanted pregnancy and disease. A lot of people that do this before marriage 9/10 times will not be able to even keep their first marriage. And have poor sex lives if not have already gotten to a sexless marriage. People who thinks that having sex before marriage is the right thing to do or very much wrong. Because sex is not the same with every person you're with if you end up having multiple partners. And at the same time as a woman you will not make enough oxytocin to not only bond with the person you having sex with, but also when you have children. There is a reason why sex is a marriage and marriage is all about having sex. Sex is not about you, it's about the other person and should be an expression of your love for them. That's what keeps marriages together. A lot of times I have seen if not just heard of women thinking that sex is meaningless right after they get married because they've been messing around with so many people oh, and having so much sex they think they are not supposed to have sex with their husbands. The point is once you get married you are no longer of yourself anymore by yourself. Your body belongs to your husband just like his body belongs to you. You not supposed to defraud each other sexually. That's why it's best for you to marry you, and you don't just get married to somebody that you not only distrust, was somebody you cannot find yourself having sex with. If you notice, a lot of people that don't wait before marriage are extremely selfish, and they get worse as they get older. Mind you I said a lot of people not all of them. So please do not believe everything a lot of people are saying just to discredit sex after marriage. When you are a virgin before you are married you start as a clean slate. It is not rocket science to have sex. And at the same time, the person that you get married to and have sex for the first time is not going to care about performance. Dale only going to care about you. A person that had sex with multiple people is only going to care about themselves. And are twice as likely to cheat. Look at people's lives, and don't even bother asking if it's better. Because when you observe them you get to see the truth. Because so many people say that sex before marriage is so much better, and I had to ten times that go behind closed doors and they're crying and upset. Lot of people that have done that are actually very regretful in which they can change their lives around. And then you get the people that are extremely jealous of you because you're saving yourself and having been through all the crap that they went through of their own free will. I know because I have so many people jealous of me just because of who I am not just what I do.

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    • 4d

      You had your point, thanks for answering. For me sex is a really intimate thing to do and I think I would never try to have that experience with someone that is not my husband.

  • This is why I date conservative people - back when my parents were dating - everybody was a virgin before they got married. This pre-marital sex thing was extremely uncommon in Asian countries 30 - 40 years ago.

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    • 5d

      Is it very common now?

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    • 4d

      The last guy I dated was with me for 4 months and we never even kissed or held hands. He wanted to wait until he was engaged to do that.

    • 4d

      Too much conservative

  • Looking back, I think partners can defer intercourse until marriage if they can and want to advance into a satisfying erotic relationship that can include the gamut of hands, mouth and toys. Play all you want but reserve intercourse for when you have become "one". I didn't but I would.

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  • I think its better to keep it for the one you want to live with. The one of your life
    You know a lot about its personal effects so I skip them
    Just wanted to point on public statistics which shows that the different sex experiences have risen the amount of inconstant behaviours between couples. So its a way a better society of people who are completely satisfied with their wife/husband

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  • A girl who have sex before marriage is much more likely to get used by guys.

    en.wiktionary.org/.../why_buy_the_cow_when_you_can_get_the_milk_for_free

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  • No. The statistics are that people who've had sex before marriage have a higher divorce rate than those who've waited until marriage, on average. Those who abide by the Christian principle of no sex before marriage are more likely to abide by the Christian principle of rejecting divorce. Having only one partner makes sex a sanctified special act between you and the one you love, while sex before marriage leads to numerous partners over the years, which cheapens the act. And couples who've waited until marriage are almost always STD free, while STDs are prevalent among those who've had multiple partners.

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    • 4d

      Since you mentioned Christianity I suppose that’s your religion.

      I’m a devout Roman Catholic and the inter day of heard the phase “ waiting till marriage is a sign of respect and that means if your husband waits for you till marriage that means he respects your soul and it’s not just there because of your body” something like that... anyway. Thanks for answering

  • I think it's up to each person to decide for themselves. To some people sex is a sacred thing to be shared between them and their spouse while others view it as a sensual experience to be shared with as many people as possible. I myself have had sex and I am not married, but that was my decision and I would never judge anyone for disagreeing with it.

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  • I think people should have sex before marriage, because if you don't and it turns out that they are bad at it or only think of themselves for sex or they get there way to easy and they don't get the other person there, then that person might look for someone else to get there, sex is important part of life.

    I hope this made sense, if it doesn't let me know and I'll try to word it better.

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  • Sex is life's greatest gift. Don't ruin it because of marriage.

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    • 5d

      Is marriage a bad thing?

    • 5d

      No. But don't make it a requirement to have sex.

  • Well, I don't do marriage, so it would be pointless to save it until after marriage.

    My version of marriage is the BDSM practice called a collaring ceremony. It is as it is called, a submissive is 'officially collared' (obviously this is a really short summary of what it is). Due to this, sex can happen at any time, depending on a few conditions

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    • 4d

      Oh, I’ve read about this.

      Yes, of course. But isn’t the sub devoted to his dom? I’ve heard when a sub is collared he or she can only be commanded by his dom. care to explain?

  • I don't really think it matters.
    It's more about the individual and what they want. There are people here that have listed sex as one of the top 3 most important things in a relationship, and others that don't even have it in the top 5. If you feel you need to have a variety of sexual experiences, then do that. However, you can do that with a partner as well, you just have to be honest and communicate what you want and how you feel. You can both take that journey together and be satisfied. Not every one feels that way, but it is possible.

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  • Yes have sex before marriage. Sex is a key part to a marriage and if you are not sexually compatiable and unable to get what you want sexually then you are just in a friendship

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  • I think you should'nt have sex before your marriage becouse usually its easier to people who have sex before marriage being a cheater. however this is my opinion nothing more.

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  • Sex must always be after marriage, especially for a girl.

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  • As a Christian, I believe you should have sex before tying the knot.

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  • Id say so. What is you find out you dont have anything sexual in common.

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  • sex is need of body, better won't link it with marriage.

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    • 4d

      Is it really? Isn’t sex just a physical act? Why call it a need?

  • Yes , ‘cause u know if ur boyfriend is good or not in the bed and if he give u what u want..

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  • No, save it until marriage.

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  • Yes, you two may not be a good fit for each other

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  • Yes. Because sex

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  • Not allowed in the world of any God's.

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  • Do whatever you want

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  • I am an atheist.

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  • you should save yourself for the marriage, and i will take you, be my wife :*
    :D

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  • Before, you won't buy a house without first viewing it and you wouldn't buy a car without first test driving it. Why should you get a husband or wife without a good testing first?

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    • 4d

      Because being a good husband is not just about how good he’s at sex?

      Anyway... thanks for answering

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