Feeling competitive against white women for white men's attention?
I am mixed, (THE FUCKING IRONY RIGHT? My grandma is white, but the "white people ain't shit, so I married a black dude," kinda white, produced biracial children who produced mixed children,) with beautiful features that attract men of all varieties. It is still uncomfortable to explain to black men who approach me, that I have a preference without a condescending argument about how white men aren't that great, or how I hate myself and all black people suddenly...*rolls eyes*... or the opposite of crushing on a white guy - who doesn't date outside his race.
I do not find "wiggas," attractive in the least; I like kosher, suburban raised, happy with their whiteness - white men lol - who typically date white women, naturally.
Its not wrong to date your own race, its difficult filtering through however. I get stuck in this odd insecurity before attempting to talk to a white dude that I like, that I am 2nd or 3rd or 4th, etc, choice in his mind compared to white women (#1,) and all other similar races.
Similar as in having european like features, same hair, lighter skin, etc.
Black women look different from the other ethnicities from our hair to our build, that maybe its too extreme a difference to feel like a white man would love me like he would other races of women.
I struggle to think the white guys who have approached me, take me seriously or might just have a fetish. Or they have a grill and talk like a drug rapper... which is a huge red flag and turn off.
So I get all dressed up and go out, but shrivel into a ball of fear and insecurity about a real future with a white guy.
Im just not as pretty as the other races of women.
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