How do I stop my use of sex forums?

[Anonymous]

Okay. I may or may not be underaged.

i engaged in an online relationship a long while ago. It was stupid and similar to many. The whole ‘I love you’ thing that didn’t really mean it. The guy turned out to be controlling, suicidal and was going through things of his own. 2 years later, I’ve broken up with him but still talk on messenger with him. It isn’t healthy at all, but whenever I try to break things off he claims he’ll commit suicide, and message my family about what’s been going on (my family has no idea).

We also engaged in sexting, I took nudes, went on cam for him etc. Prior to this, I had no clue on what sex was, and it was like something was unlocked.

Following our breakup, I got into websites where you could chat to strangers, and eventually sex forums. I go on most days and post nudes/role plays etc.

My family life is pretty good, I have lots of friends and I’m working my way through school. I have this pressing anxiety that someone’s going to find out and all hell will break loose. The idea of having to keep this to myself for the rest of my life scares me and I know what I’m doing is wrong but I don’t know how to stop it.

Advice?

[simonqq]

You can't let him continue controlling you, majority of the time these are empty threats and if he is from the same country and you know where he lives just call the police and tell them he is threatening to take his life and they will likely call him or go to him and talk with him. Honestly I'd just block him but that's me.

About posting nudes and sexting you should try your best to avoid this if you are underage. If you have trouble controlling yourself at least follow these rules:

1. Never ever show your face to anyone even if you talk with them for months. Don't ever do it. (this can be problematic because guys want verification that you are not catfishing but you need to keep this rule at all cost)

2. Don't ever tell them your name.

3. Don't ever tell any information that can be linked to you in some way for example saying what you study or how big your family or what you do on free time because if someone is in your neighborhood or school or whatever put all these facts together they might realize that it's you.

If you need any more advice I'll happily help and I have experience with this because my ex have material online from a decision she made that wasn't the best.

[Rodgerinho]

Without revealing yourself/profile, keep your privacy, but can you name or hint to the website you use? Maybe there's a way to contact them and confess you feel you have a problem? I don't know, depends on the website but it could be possible, they might have a policy or be able to help you with this. If you know all the websites that would make this easy and you contact all of them asking for the same help, you might be able to help yourself make the break that way.

I'm open to helping you with this, add me and PM if you want, I hate to see someone struggle with something like this, I can tell how much you're struggling with it. There's 2 sides to you, you might feel. There are ways to cope with that, boundaries you can set, as I said I'd be open to helping you as much as possible, feel free to add/PM.

[MlleCake]

Next time he threatens suicide call the police on him.

He's not going to tell your family.

He's in possession of child pornography.

[Toasted_Bread]

If you're able then I'd HIGHLY urge you to either seek mental health services yourself or ask your parents to help you access mental health services.

Remember that everything you tell will be kept confidential and though it may feel like your the only one going through something like this professionals are trained and have likely handled similar cases. A professional WILL NOT judge you.

Remember you're not alone.

[Toasted_Bread]

Canadian crisis line: 1-833-456-4566 American crisis line: 1-800-273-8255

[LoU_Hades]

When you do it for money so look for another source of income.
If you do it for admiration of random anonymous males, visit a psychologist.
This guy you spoke about abuses you emotionally, I don't think he commits really a suicide when you break contact to him.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think in order to get yourself off of these sex forums
is to unsubscribe or delete your account from these forums
if you know what your doing is illegal than you need to take
action and unsubscribe or delete your account from these
sex forums also if you continue to stay in contact with the
guy he is good at manipulating so he will tell you that he
will commit suicide or use your pictures in illegal matter
or even sell them online. What you need to do is break
off all contact with the manipulating people from these
sex forums and from messaging or text messaging cause
as long you stay in contact with him things will continue
to be the way they are and if your in need of help than
reach out to someone whom can help you out don't
be afraid it's better to be safe than sorry cause i tell
you people have ways to find our location and they
can be at your home or where ever you live in a
heart beat. Best Wishes on this matter :)

[Massageman]

Unsubscribe from everything. Seek professional help : you can call 1-800-A-FAMILY for a referral to a local counselor.

[Under_Maps_OF_twigs]

By not going to site sex and not participating in sites with sex forums, even like this site.

[yuviii2012]

Confess it to someone stranger forget it take counselling if u need i can and move on... my girlfriend did it all having me with her in life still i forgived her so u are on right person... confess it anonymously cry and move on

[psychosam]

You're going to get a lot of people arrested

[Glen68]

You sound awesome!

[Anonymous]

Then stop for a bit, the entire issue like actual issue is that you're underage and it's hard to not judge someone depending on what you're posting, if it's very raunchy then you will be judged if it's not that raunchy or detailed then I would say much less So, sex is a natural part of both society and being human so don't feel ashamed but you should give it a rest, this can kind of mess you up In the sense you won't actually 've secure with yourself an example being you're scared of being judged