Girls, can you provide some advice for first-time anal sex?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I are both excited about trying anal sex for her first time though she’s more than a little nervous about it. As her partner, I want to make it as comfortable and pleasant for her as possible. We’re both aware that the first time can be challenging, so I thought I’d ask some questions about technique from girls who have tried it before. Of course, we know to use lots of lube, prep, relax, and be patient. But there are a lot of details missing. Please help out by answering these questions based on your own experience. Sorry if some of them seem naive or stupid. Thank you soooo much!

1. Where should we apply the lube? Just to my penis, or should it also be placed on or around or maybe inside her anus?

2. What position should we use?

3. When I first enter her, is that when it hurts most? Should I stop for a while when just the head is in?

4. When it’s okay to push in further, do I apply pressure slowly and steadily until I’m completely inside? Or do I perform increasingly deeper thrusts until I’m all in? In other words, do I pull back during this part?

5. When I’m fully inside her, should I stop in that position for a while or is that too uncomfortable?

6. Should my initial thrusts be slow and long, or short and somewhat faster?

7. Besides the obvious bc and std issues, what are the advantages and disadvantages of using a condom in terms of her comfort?

8. Will she get sore while I’m inside her, or when we’re done? How can I minimize that?

9. Is it likely that she’ll be vocal at first? Is that something we should expect?

10. Is it good or bad to come inside her the first time?

11. Overall, what would you tell her what to expect from the first time?

12. Any other suggestions?

[Anonymous]

Ok you deserve a 👍🏽 for even asking, it shows you care.

1. Apply the lube generously on yourself and around her opening. If you can, use a finger to get some inside her.
2. Use missionary with a folded towel underneath her hips. Have her either fold her knees to her chest, or grab the back of her knees and hold he feet upward.
3. Yes when you first enter her it’s gonna hurt. It’s a strange, stretching, burning sensation. Don’t be surprised if she yells out a little from this. I’d say stay still and wait for her to tell you when to push in further. She will.
4. Then push in s-l-o-w and stready. No, do not pull back when you do this. It will feel like she’s going to poop and may freak her out.
5. Yes stop when you’re all the way in. Let her adjust. Kiss, talk, whatever.
6. Slow and short, then slow and longer. Never fast.
7. I don’t like condoms. I’d say the only advantage is that you won’t come inside her with the condom, which can otherwise be messy afterward.
8. It may burn a while and feel very tight to her. Afterward she’ll be sore for the rest of the day, maybe two.
9. She may yell out a little when you first enter her, and she’ll probably be breathing hard, maybe moaning most of the time. It’s a very different feeling to have something in there.
10. It’s good and bad. It feels really good, but it can also be messy when it comes out. I would plan to do it because it’s part of the experience.
11. It took me several times before I really liked it. It’s a very intimate act and the first time can be a little scary for a girl so keep that in mind.

[purplepoppy]

1. Apply to both then apply some more.
2. Missionary with legs up and pillow under hips or prone bone. Closer her knees are to her chest the easier it is.
3. Getting past the sphincter is the hard part and can sting a bit. Get her to push out like she tryng to fart, it'll open it up.
4 once head goes in the rest will slide up very easily.
5 yes stop for a min so she can make little adjustments
6 slow and steady, make love not fuck.
7 if she's well lubed a condom offers few benefits
8 if not enough lube it can feel hot but she shouldn't feel sore. Some gapping or feeling of looseness afterward is normal but soon goes away.
9. She shouldn't be screaming. Heavy panting is normally.
10. Its best to cum inside.
11. Expect a weird churning but not unpleasant feeling.
12. I did a mytake on this subject