He almost never used to cum with me, but recently he does. What could this mean? Its long, please read all of it if you want to help?

[Anonymous]

My man is 20 and I'm 19. We got together when I was 16 and he was 17. When we first started doing things sexually, he told me that it was hard to make him cum. I said okay and didn't think much of it until a couple months after we started dating, we had sex for the first time. Months before he took my virginity, we messed around and stuff. He would never cum from my blowjobs and he would always have to finish himself. It made me slightly insecure because I was a virgin and thought I was doing bad. He had been with several other girls before me.. but it didn't bother me enough to ask. But the night he took my virginity, I was at a loss for words. He fucked me for a long time and he still had to pull out and finish himself. It made me think that my pussy wasn't even good and it had never even been used before. He assured me that I was fine and that he liked the sex and that he had that problem with the other girls he had been with too. We continued having sex and sometimes I would make him cum and sometimes I wouldn't. It really hurt my self esteem. I told him about this a year later and he told me that it was because he masturbated too much. But this didn't make me feel better because I didn't think that masturbation made a guy not able to cum during sex. He told me he would stop masturnating so much and we stopped using condoms. This seemed to help quite a bit and now he cums everytime. He cums really fast now too. Did he have problems cumming back then because he had to get used to my vagina? Maybe it was because he was used to getting better pussy from girls before me and so it took him awhile to get used to mine? We still kinda talk about it and he just says that when he was younger he used to masturbate 4 or 5 times in one day and that he had this problem with everyone. I'm not so sure. He comes everytime now and he's able to cum in like 2 or 3 minutes now. Maybe he was used to having better sex so it took him a long time to get used to my sex? It took a year or 2

[Anonymous]

he was telling the truth that is a legit thing with guys who masturbate too much. stopping using condoms and not masturbating so much will make sex much more enjoyable for any guy. you're fine and so is your vag and your guy too cus he told you the truth and your problem isn't even a problem anymore because you were able to communicate and solve it. so this is a win.

[Asker]

It's not that he had to get used to me or that other girls were better?

[Asker]

And he was always able to finish with his hand. So he was always able to cum.. my vagina just didn't give him enough stimulation..

[Opinion Owner]

no not you at all. this is totally normal. nothing wrong with you because as you see he's cumming fine now. this is a normal thing that happens when a guy is too used to masturbating

[Asker]

Okay. Thank you.

[yougurt]

As he told you, it was because he used to masturbate too much

[Asker]

Also when he wasn't able to cum, he used to make jokes about how I was loose. I would get offended and he would apologize and say it wasn't true and that he was just kidding. He also told me that other girls he had been with in the past had better pussy and that my vaginal tone wasn't strong.. these comments stopped around the time he finally started cumming during sex and now he tells me that I have the best pussy he's ever had.. I don't know what to believe. Did he actually mean those hurtful things or was it because he might've been insecure that he couldn't cum at the time? I appreciate your help..

[Asker]

Just to clear this up, he would never say those mean things after sex or during sex. He would mention it in conversations outside of the bedroom. He meant these things since he said them, right?

[yougurt]

Weird, those comments are "locker room talk" that guys sometimes tell to tease each other. It's weird that he would say those jokes to his girlfriend, but it's also weird if he wasn't joking and he was actually blamming you. It wasn't your fault. Either way, let it go now and enjoy the fact that he cums now.

[BillyBalls]

He probably masturbates too often.

If he doesn't ejaculate for a few days a good blow job will make him cum in no time.

[Anonymous]

He was too used to the feeling of his own hand. The condom also probably was a factor.

[Asker]

So it had nothing to do with me or that the other girls he had seen in the past were better?

[Opinion Owner]

Most likely

[Asker]

Also when he wasn't able to cum, he used to make jokes about how I was loose. I would get offended and he would apologize and say it wasn't true and that he was just kidding. He also told me that other girls he had been with in the past had better pussy and that my vaginal tone wasn't strong.. these comments stopped around the time he finally started cumming during sex and now he tells me that I have the best pussy he's ever had.. I don't know what to believe. Did he actually mean those hurtful things or was it because he might've been insecure that he couldn't cum at the time? I appreciate your help..

[Asker]

Just to clear this up, he would never say those mean things after sex or during sex. He would mention it in conversations outside of the bedroom. He meant these things since he said them, right?