On the first date with my (now) husband, I had sex with someone else. How should we deal with this?
When I started working at the same place my husband works at, he immediately had a crush on me. I didn't find him attractive but he was a really nice guy. I just had a lot of sex with random guys cause I liked sex. I just didn't see him as a possible partner for that, even though I had some casual encounters with other colleagues. He was just too passive for me back then I guess. Eventually, he asked me to go eat something with him and afterwards to drink something at his place. Kind of a date, but it got out of hand real bad. He had a roommate who joined us, completely opposite of him: real player and quite arrogant. We got really drunk and he passed out on the couch. In the meantime I was so horny and his roommate and me started fucking. We were so drunk we just went at it really loud with the door open. My husband woke up and stood by watching while his roommate kept going at me from behind and yelling at him to fuck off and go to sleep. I was too drunk to care I guess. I vaguely remember him standing there weirdly in the door opening for a while and then leaving his buddy to it.
I thought it was funny afterward, but now I feel so bad that that was our first date. I just appreciated my husband much later and we ended up getting married, but i just can't help but wish that situation didn't happen with the guy I ended up marrying. We still see his roommate and we are still "friends" but it's kind of painful. I really like the guy and he's really funny, but I don't know how to react when he makes inappropriate jokes about that day. Also we never talked about it. I know pretty much everyone around us heard the story cause that guy bragged about it and it really went around at work. Everyone just has a laugh with it and the past is the past, but to me, it just seems like a feeling that won't go away, and I don't know how he feels about it.
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