What is considered sexual assault? Someone please answer?

I was at a bar, celebrating my friends birthday. I started dancing on this guy, I told him I was drunk. Then he escalated things quickly we barely spoke words, he french kissed me, on one side. Like he did it from the right, then he did it again on the left. He was super aggressive, to the point I felt weird about it. His arm was around my neck I felt like I couldn’t breath. I also felt his hand somewhere, bc I remember telling my friend he touched me a lot because she asked if I was okay in the car. But I was knocked out on the way back home. But I know, making out isn’t a big deal. It just felt “off” I didn’t say anything bc I honestly felt confused about what was happening, because his aggression. Maybe if he wasn’t so aggressive geez I was uncomfortable, like I couldn’t leave him sort of feeling. It didn’t feel normal. But people makeout all the time at parties. I’m so confused. If y’all could give me advice about guys or something! I guess like where do girls draw the line? I’ve made out with a guy before but I didn’t feel like I couldn’t leave him... it’s so weird
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  • People seem to be ignoring the part where you started dancing on him, which would be seen as sexual contact in the state of New York. Granted I don't know where you're from so it really depends on the laws in your area. I think it could be technically tho. I don't know where you're from but I believe most states don't mention explicitly about sexual progressions. It can be argued that you didn't consent to kissing him but again I don't know if any states actually require that every action must be explicitly consented to. If you had said no, then most definitely it would have been sexual assault if he continued but it's hard to say since you initiated contact

  • he initiated contact and you didn't say no. He was an aggressive jerk possibly but saying you are drunk at a party that he was likely drunk too doesn't make it an assault. This is where a lot of women fail themselves. If you feel uncomfortable or dont want something SAY IT.

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  • i was “assaulted” as well in a similar way you were. i was high and half asleep and i remember a friend of mine climbing in bed and i was lost. i could barely even say anything. let alone hear. perks of being high. and he was touching me all over and stuff. i didn’t know it was assault until later. but there’s no real proof. it would be hard to prosecute. :/

    • You could have gone to the police that day and since you were high you could take a medical examination. Bruh I really hate people like you

    • @Notabadguy Seriously? What is wrong with you? Victims of sexual assault are often scared or nervous about going to the police. You are literally just victim shaming her for no reason

    • @gracec316 where did I shame her? Please enlighten me?

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  • Either this exact story has been asked before or I've seen it within the last month, so... that's weird, huh?

  • You were assaulted, but that would be a very hard case to prosecute.

    • Assaulted? How? She did the first move

    • @Notabadguy that doesn't give permission to make out

    • @mistixs exactly!

  • If there's anything u assaulted him. U started dancing on him. Guys could get petty as girls and label everything as assault if we wanted but u need to know ur the one who gave the green signal here.

  • Did you at any point actually object to what he was doing? Cause if not he had no reason to think you didn't like it considering you were "dancing on him". At the very least if you were uncomfortable you should have distanced yourself from him.

  • Pretty much rape.

    Forcing oneself onto another in a sexual manner when it’s not consentual

    • Not pretty much rape. this description is a far cry from it. She never said no and sex was never an issue. It was unwanted contact and kissing but she never said no and she was dancing with him. If she expressed herself then contact would have stopped or not happend at all.

  • 'I started dancing on this guy' did he give you permission? If not then that's sexual assault

    • Bitch you disliked this lmao

  • If you were dancing on him, what he did shouldn't be unexpected.

  • Did you tell him to stop

  • First off you shouldn't have been drunk