I’ve never orgasmed before and my boyfriend says he knows how to make me, but he hasn’t?

[Anonymous]

I lost my virginity to my boyfriend over a month ago now. It’s great and I enjoy sex, a lot, but I’ve never orgasmed. I really want to know what that feels like. I talked to my boyfriend briefly about it and he laughed and said “Oh honey, I know how to make you orgasm” so I was like “So why haven’t you” and there was silence. Then he just kind of mumbled “Umm I don’t know” and changed the subject. What? If he really knows how to then why doesn’t he try? He’s never gone down on me before, only because I wasn’t comfortable with that but he really wants to so I think I’ll let him soon. But what do you think? Does he not know how to? Or maybe he does and in the moment he’s only worried about his satisfaction?

[PrudentGuy]

Oh... that deafening silence...

I'm sorry but as a guy experienced with sex, I think you boyfriend still think that women's orgasm is like men's.

No, it's not. Men is easy, pkke in, thrust, then ejaculate. This is our orgasm.

You girls are complicated. Sucking your tit may give you an orgasm, if you are horny or feel loved, yet maybe not LOL!

Or giving you a nice bath then a sensual massage where you feel so relax and secure may, yet may not. (Funny isn't it LOL)

Or perhaps a clit massage, or eating it, or use a toy there, still, there is no assuring answer. (But it seems that using the mouth there has a higher chance of success).

My conclusion is, it's not merely about physical acts. There is no magic button on girls body. (Guys have, his penis).

So it's about feelings, loved, sexy, secured, trusting, ... then the physical acts works.

What do you think? PM if you want to keep it private.

[zozo7880]

Communicate with him, tell him what you want and what feels good so he can continue doing it. You are the only one that knows what does and does not feel good.

[Asker]

I have. I never masturbated before so I didn’t know at first, but I told him some positions I like that hit the g spot etc.

[zozo7880]

You'll figure it out , maybe you should try masturbating to find out what you like, then have him do it.

[Raybert]

You should masturbate alone and learn what feels good. It might take 10-30 min of working your girl parts but you’ll eventually feel something building up. Then look out. If you squirt when you cum, that’s normal too but may not happen even if you have a pillow-biting orgasm.

[purplepoppy]

Every guy says the same thing. They all know where the buttons are but not all can push them

[JohnAlaska43]

Seriously dont over think it.
Try forplay and dont rush it.
You need to enjoy the moment.

[MannMitAntworten]

It is likely that neither of you know what you are doing yet.

[Valnac]

I suggest you have him start down at your ankles. Slowly have him start licking the insides of your legs, alternating side to side. Move up past the knees, and continue side to side up your thighs. Continue until he finally meets at your clit. You better be holding on to something.
Have fun!

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

He is far to young he as a very lot to learn

[Anonymous]

Unless he means that he can make you orgasm through oral, and you just have to get to the point where you let him? Either that or he is just acting egotistical. LOL

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn't actually know

[Anonymous]

Rub your clitoris while you're in the missionary position.