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Boyfriend and his work colleagues share nudes of their girlfriends, is this normal and should I just accept this is how guys behave about their woman?

My boyfriend just told me his work mate show ed them all his new girl friends personal picture of her boobs to the boys (hes in mid 20's), I know that in the pass my boyfriend has shown the guys a private pic I sent him in my underwear, with out my consent (my boyfriend in mid 40s).. this annoyed me when he shared this with me, I see his work collegues as contractors at my work often.
We argued when he shared that his mate showed them his girlfriend pix of her boobs, and then told me to "f^#:n deal with it, guys check out others guys girlfriend's nude photos and they watch lots of porn this is society"...
Im older, I didn't grow up with this behavior where people shared photos, we didn't have phones or digital cameras, and I also have suffered more than one sexual abuse experience in the past and dont particularly like hearing or seeing woman be treated as objects. He told me I'm turning into a prude, we have been dating for a couple of years i just feel this is crossing the line sharing picture'sof each other girlfriend's, am I the only one that thinks this way am i way off the reality of how men do this and only see us sexually.
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What do i do, how do i react calmly to ensure we can communicate about this? He basically has said this is what we do, we do worse stuff in regard to woman with nudes and porno viewing and i have to stop being a prude and get with the times, deal with it.. How do i deal with it, please if you have good advice and tools share as I'm so fucked off about it.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Absolutely NOT. Do I know guys who’ve done this? Yes. Do I know men who genuinely care and love and respect their girlfriends do this type of stuff? NO. That’s so disgusting and wrong. I wouldn’t trust this guy if I were you. It has nothing to do with “guys being guys” or “all guys do this get use to it”, because no, not all guys do this because it is beyond disrespectful and just flat out wrong. He is violating your privacy. You trusted HIM with those pictures, not anybody else.

    • Seems like they think woman are just for their sexual pleasure and viewing, when at work i feel thats the vibe and behavior they display with each other. This is mainly men dominated job he is working in.

    • Also he is manipulating you when he says that this is what guys do nowadays and to deal with it, because I promise you, NOT all guys do that.

  • This is why I don't take nudes. And that's what I'd advise you to do. Don't share digital pictures of you being naked.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It's getting pretty mainstream to do this, I would never do that shit though and plenty of guys would not dream of it. Ironically, these are the ones most women don't wanna fuck, because women love being abused.

    • Its good to know there are good guys out there, like you said its it's becoming more the norm. I say stay being good, things will hopefully swing around and us woman will wake up and not make this okay or help encourage this. I can tell you i would love to know that good guy's who respect woman still exist.

    • when i say plenty, I mean maybe 30%, and they are shamed for it

    • Shamed in what way?

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  • I dunno, sometimes guys wanna brag and show off.

    I'm sure some guys will keep that private.

    But my rule is never take a picture of yourself you're not okay with absolutely everyone seeing.

    • Yep, I'm not sending anymore which i feel is a bit shit as its quite nice to spice things up every now and again... but this won't be one of the options.

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  • Your private moments and private pictures are your own rights, no one (means no one) has any right to show them to others without your consent to make you ashamed or uncomfortable. Next time he will make a video of you having sex together and show them to his friends then!!!

    First, thing that you have done wrong is sending him nudes. Such private things are to be kept in memory not in electronic devices. You are a grown up woman, so its hard to understand how you let it happened knowing that every minute the private videos of couples are made available on the internet or messengers.

    Boys (not real Men) likes to brag about her girls and tell the things that has never happened like anal or cum-swallowing to boost their manly image, so its a cruel reality that such persons have no respect for their partners - they are things or proud possession that they like to show to gain applaud in their circles.

    If some of his friend would get that picture from his phone, its not uncommon, your nudes would be posted almost everywhere on internet. Tell him directly or break off. He may be 40 but still an idiot brainless boy.

  • Wtf no this is absolutely not normal or acceptable

    • Thabks this makes me think I'm not over reacting, starting to wonder am i just not up with the times.

    • Honestly no matter what the others say, he violated your trust by sharing that with his friends. Even if it would be normal these days, as long as you don't want it your partner should respect you enough to keep it privat. And what kind of men would want their friends to see their girlsfriend naked?

    • I agree, makes me wonder if they are that seeious about their specific woman to share. What do you do knowing this is their work culture, i feel im fucked they will continue this behavior my partner is in his 40s. Its a lost cause.

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  • There is an expression that applies to your boyfriend: "If it wasn't for low class, you wouldn't have no class!"

    You have a low class boyfriend and this is how low class guys behave. You can't change him but you could find a better boyfriend.

  • NO! That is not acceptable. Print a bunch of nudes of him and put them on cars where he works. by the way, don't show them to your girl friends. He'll probably like it if you do. Now if you have any gay friends, by all means show his nudes to them.

  • No and no

  • Absolutely not! Never have and never would! No loyalty to their partners at all.

    • What should i do, or say to him? I feel like i am getting more up against the wall, this disrespect towards woman and sex keeps arising.

    • That invasion of your privacy and his bullshit excuse is immature and represents a complete lack of respect for you. Leave the bum

  • Honestly I think u need to break up with him because if he can't be a man and acknowledge that fact that he is hurting you and completely violating ur trust and privacy, this should be case closed as soon as u told him that u did not want him doing this this is extremely inappropriate, a form of sexual assault and against the law. Im not trying to be harsh, but u deserve the world not someone who seems that he doesn't even care that he's immensely hurting u. If u dont want to give up on him just yet and give him one last chance give him an ultimatum, say, "until i can trust u again, i want all my pics back abd im not sending anymore and if u can't accept that then I'm sorry but i can't keep putting myself through this" take his phone and delete all the nudes and sexy pics of u and do not take anymore until he proves to u that he's earned back ur trust. U deserve better than what he's giving or not giving u. he's not respecting u. I wish u the best

  • Does it really look like normal?

  • Just tell him you shared a picture of his dick to your friends and they should you theirs boyfriends cock.

    See how he feels you looking at other men’s cocks.

    • I tried that line and he said go for it, the thing is he knows we dont do this shit. So he's not bothered as he knows its me talking shit but no threat.

  • His biggest mistake was owning up. 🤷‍♂️ Not that I agree with nudes, a very stupid idea

    • I asked how he was going with his new girlfriend, then he told me he showed them photos of her boobs. I dont hink he thought i would flip, but i did also cause it triggered memories of when he told me he showed the boys a photo he had of me, i just then realised this is what they donwith their girlfriends... i already knew and heard they share pixs and porno videos but they're randoms, not that its okay but its different and I'm not comfortable they share their girlfriends stuff.

    • It's very classless. It's debaseing you

    • Agree with your comments, thats how it feels.

  • From a guy's perspective, that is immature and wrong.
    They shouldn't he sharing those pics like that.

    • I thought so too, the mid 20s maybe still growing up... but my man is in his mid 40s 😞

    • That's worse actually. You should tell him what he did was wrong.

    • I tried to tell him that he shouldn't be checking out and encouraging this behavior from the young guys, and also sharing a pix of mine in the past was uncool. He told me I'm turning into a prude, to get with the times the guys share pixs, watch porn this is what guys do. Then walked off and left me in the room.

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  • Yes that's how it happens then they jerk off together and will try to get you to be shared with his work friend who he is giving head to

  • I wouldn't call it "normal" but I'm sure it happens a lot. When you take nudes, you need to keep your face out of it.

  • Women love being treated as objects. That's why you take nude pictures to begin with.

    • OK, you're a future sex offender.

    • @wagsingle and you're so stupid that you're not just a white knight but you also reply to an opinion of nine months ago.

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