1 mo

Guys: why did my boyfriend ask if he can verbally degrade me in bed?

We have been together for 6 years, I guess sex can get pretty routine sometimes. He asked me if it was ok to degrade me during sex. Last time I agreed, he said things such as “you’re my dirty little whore/slut” and other things like that. I didn’t like it very much because it made me feel like he fantasizes about hooking up with hookers or sluts.

I told him it’s ok to slap me around a little bit, but I don’t like hearing him verbally say those things. He doesn’t like to hit me though.. so I said no and that was the end of conversation.

So so please tell me.. I consider myself with a lot of self respect, why does he want to say these things to me? Is it normal? Should I just agree to satisfy his fantasy? Help!!
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1 mo
I guess I don’t mind the slapping around because it just makes it rough sex so I don’t see it has him degrading me as a person. As opposed to calling me a whore or slut makes me feel devalued and that he doesn’t enjoy having sex with ME, but with a whore instead.
Guys: why did my boyfriend ask if he can verbally degrade me in bed?
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