Is a sexless relationship bad? HELP, what should I do?

[Candycannes]

I've been with my boyfriend now for 5 months and we still haven't had sex. He's a virgin and I'm not. We attempted to have sex a few months ago but he got nervous and kept losing his erection, but since then we haven't spoken about sex or tried.

maybe a month or two ago we were getting a little frisky, and I asked him if he wanted to have sex but he said he wanted to wait, and I'm not sure what to do now. Do I ask him how he feels about sex? or is this going to kill our relationship?

Just a bit of background information, apart from the non-sex the relationship is really great, we were actually best friends before going out, but we had only been best friends for about 4 months before I made the first move and told him I liked him.

[Anonymous]

Seems like this is frustrating for you both. At this point, it will be hard for him to bring it up due to being unsuccessful. Learn to communicate, and love each other deeper first.
Encourage him that he is amazing and would love to have some fun when the time is right.
I had that with an ex., he is much older then you guys... after he became successful, he was really good. But our relationship didn't work out due to other issues.

[VIVANT]

If it bothers you do other sexual things. If it doesn’t bother you it's not a problem 😊

[Taylor_C]

The guy is a total loser. I wouldn´t waste my time on him.

[Kkaos]

My guess is after having failed the first time, its dented his confidence and now he's too nervous to try again. Have a talk to him. I'm sure he doesn't want to remain a virgin the rest of his life. Let him know that you don't expect anything and you're not going to think badly of him if he can't keep it up.

This is quite common for first timers, it just takes a while and once you do it, it will be easy after that.

[Candycannes]

thank you so much I'll definitely talk to him about it

[Marcuslrh]

It's fine I was not sure my first time I did not tell my partner add never had sex before though just get on the bed start kissing more and more get excited then ask just whisper to him to sleep with you it worked on me is worth a try

[Marcuslrh]

Just get him really excited and his nerves should go away if not he needs to relax and stop over thinking it or he is just gonna be a Virgin forever

[Candycannes]

Haha definitely, I’ll definitely try it, thank you

[Marcuslrh]

Sure no problem me and my partner was the same ages as use when I lost mine as well

[Marcuslrh]

Oh no I was not sorry thought you was younger for some reason I was 19

[Candycannes]

We are, age isn’t right on here, he’s 18 and I’m 19

[Marcuslrh]

Are right okay ye I was 19 my girlfriend was 20 at the time

[djmzes]

Simple

[djmzes]

Have you ever sit down and ask him what he want really?

[Candycannes]

i really like those pics, i've never spoken to him about it which i really should. He was at mine today but i didn't have the guts to ask him i got shy and just didn't ask

[djmzes]

The answer is simple. The answer is US, not you and not him.

[abc3643]

Give him a BJ until he comes. When he does, he will begin to think differently.

[Candycannes]

my friend said something similar, I've never given one before so I am a bit scared

[abc3643]

Then maybe give him a hand job... Anyway... A big reason that the male orgasm happens (best) from head is when there is a very steady rhythm stimulating the tip. "Deep throating" is not such a big deal because all that does is simulate the experience of being in the warm wet snug vagina. During intercourse, it is the tip being touched and stimulated that causes excitement and orgasm. Keep in mind, all the best BJs are also a bit of a hand job as well so don't be afraid to give your mouth a break. And don't forget the balls! They get lonely and are STARVING for female attention. So, sometimes use your fingers or hand such as cupping or teasing testicles or the penis. Google "Fellucia Blow" and STUDY those videos. Those women are experts at fellatio and genuinely love it. The sensuous BJ really is best both for the guy and for the woman. Watch and notice how easily they do it yet aren't choking or getting sick. And watch how they switch between mouth and fingers. Also, look into videos for: A) lingam massage (tantric massage for the male genitalia) B) yoni massage (tantric massage for the female genitalia - he should return the favor). That said, consider studying good hand-job videos. All you then have to do is imagine doing what the woman is doing with her hands and fingers, but instead replace with lips, tongue, and mouth. I'd upload a video, but it is not safe for G@G. PM if you want the links to two such videos.

[Candycannes]

Thanks for that, I'll definitely give it a try. Hahah and I'll try not to forget the lonely balls

[the_bruh]

I'm in a complicated relationship, TBH it's been 5 years and I've never even properly touched her. For some guys it's okay.

[Candycannes]

thanks, that makes me feel a lot better :)

[the_bruh]

No problem.

[Daniel3035]

Well either he mans up or just leave he’s the definition of a fuckboy.

[Candycannes]

haha doesn't a fuck boy have to fuck in order to be labelled a fuckboy?

[Daniel3035]

No opposite. A fuck boy doesn't have to balls to do it all talk no game.

[Candycannes]

Fair I’d never heard of that before

[Daniel3035]

It's a British term lol. If he says hell do it or that and come to it nothing happens then yh he's a fuckboy.

[Twalli]

Unless you need sex for a successful relationship it should not matter. My girlfriend and I didn't have sex for 6 months after we started dating.

[Candycannes]

That makes me feel better that some people have sex later than others. I was getting to a point where i was worried that we were taking too long to have sex? if that kinda makes sense

[Twalli]

I think 2 or so years should be the limit if you want to ever have sex with him. If he still won't do it after 2 years there's a problem. My girlfriend and I decided to be open and say when we were ready. Tell your boyfriend that you are ready to have sex, but you are willing to wait until he is also ready.

[Candycannes]

yeah i agree after 2 years that is too long to wait. I'm gonna try and tell him that tomorrow. Thank you!!

[Adogdog]

That's a though one. I would just sit down and talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. Care to view my profile and answer mine?

[Candycannes]

thanks i think i'll try and talk to him tomorrow, yeah of course i'll look now

[MoneyBeets]

Are you married?

[Candycannes]

nope, just have a boyfriend

[MoneyBeets]

No point in having sex outside of a marriage. If you don’t like him dump his sorry ass.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's good.

[Anonymous]

He wants to wait for a girl who is virgin. Well , when a guy is virgin for a long time , he wants to have a relationship , sex with a girl , that why he was with you , he likes you , but struggling inside him... about craving a virgin girl 😕 ...