Why it should be weird?Why guys that are fine with it should be looked down on?If they are happy with it, and the relationship works, where's the problem?I'd be more than fine with a sexless relationship. As I said in another question, I give sex the importance my current partner gives it - if they want lots of sex then I want lots of sex; if they don't want sex, then I lose my mood for it.
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Unusual but it doesn't seem all that weird some people just don't have much sex drive. In a case like this I'd say neither partner does.
I find it normal, relationships doesn't depend mainly on sex.if your relationship is based on love between you both, then it'd be fine having sexless relationship...
I don’t find it weird. I actually prefer that kind of guy.
are u gay?
If I was gay i wouldn’t even be entertaining the thought of dating a man, sexless relationship or not.
if you want sexless relationship either you religious and waiting marriage etc or you don't have sexual desires. Which one?
pff i see you either alien or lieer
why would you prefer sexless relationship. Tell me baby
I’m not religious at all. Not a lesbian. I am into both women and men. I have sexual desire just like most people on earth.I was not abused or anything like that. My past sexual experiences have been fine. I am just not a person who chooses to prioritize sex.It’s very simple. Doesn’t need that much of an explanation.
Priority is okay but you prefer completly sexless. Whatever everybody has own thing i guess
Have an opinion?
If you are in a relationship and you BOTH don't care about having sex then have at it. Problem is most times it's just one partner that is not wanting sex and that is and can be a HUGE ISSUE. Nobody should be fine with a one sided sexless relationship! People deserve everything that comes with a good relationship and part of that is... YES... SEX.
Not weird at all. Why does always everything have to include sex in life?People can be perfectly happy without it and possibly even live a healthier life because importance is placed on things that people are not judged on by their performance.I'd rather have a sexless life than one where sex is the predominant factor of the relation.
@SueShe there should be more girls like you
@scooogy thanks but I think we would be beaten up by those that think we want to start a new trend...
@SueShe may I message you?
@scooogy what is it about?
@SueShe the trend thing that you mean, to avoid stress here.
@scooogy you can talk freely here. I don't like to dm with people I don't know
@SueShe Okay :) I just think that sexless times in a relationship are totally okay.
@scooogy Agree, sex is not an imperative requirement
@SueShe yet, I'd mostly be a giver
@scooogy a giver of?
@scooogy that is still considered as sex in 2019.
@SueShe yeah sure, but I'd never ask her for a bj
@scooogy so basically, it is not a sexless relationship since you are ok with oral sex. Sexless means no oral, no vaginal, no hand job, no physical contact involving genitals or the pleasure of either male or female genitals/sexual organs including breasts.
@SueShe I consider it sexless as in she has no pressure with being asked to do anything actively regarding sex. It'd be all up to her.
@scooogy you say that you would be "... mostly a giver" means that you would also be a receiver otherwise you would say "... only a giver".To me that statement means that you are expecting something in return in the form of some sexual handling on a part of your body, right?
@SueShe I just had girls reject me hypothetically for denying oral in return. If necessary, she may give me oral in return. But I'll never ask for it.
@scooogy but you could not see yourself living in a relation with a person that denies you any type of sexual satisfaction
@SueShe as long as I could worship her in any other way, it could be sexless for me.
@scooogy the problem with worshiping is that not all women like that. It gives them a feeling of a man lacking character or self-confidence.Also, I am not sure that you could/would live 50+ years with her on a purely platonic, sexless relation AND being faithful to her your life long.
@SueShe why not?
@scooogy Unless you are asexual or can suppress your sexual needs, it would be a pretty miserable life of yours
@SueShe I could still masturbate
@scooogy of course but would you be happy. That's the question
@SueShe all I'd need would be her being happy 😊
@scooogy That is not how life in a couple works. Happiness must never be unilateral
What makes it a "relationship" instead of a friendship?
Maybe the emotional bond?I don't think that sex it's indispensable for some people
@Jean-Marie_Céline If the "no sex" is a mutual desire, I agree. If a couple is together and something happens where one can no longer have sex, I agree. For most couples wanting to find a partner, sex is an important part of a relationship and they would not settle for a partner with whom there will be no sex. (I. e, sex in a relationship, for most people, is a necessary but not sufficient condition.)
You are completely right on this, I get your point.
Oh I have a friend who's wife was paralyzed from the neck down. And I didn't ask cause I didn't wanna know. Now I know what a sexless relationship is. Yes they are still together but they attend church. God bless.
I would say that SEX is an integral and strengthening part of a relationship where sex is permitted. But, if you enjoy the company of some people whom you find loving, caring and interesting - but don't have the desire to involve sex in int - it is your choice. I was in love with my wife for more than 5 years and we had no sex till we get married. So, it is possible and depends on personal respect. But once married - I could not think that without sex such marital relationship would be stable.
If we’re not married, then being sexless is ok. But once we’re married, there's no excuse unless someone is sick (flu/stomach ache) or in pain (period/back pain)
what if he just isn't into sex?
@Just_a_human i have a low sex drive until i finally have sex. Then its no stopping. So yea he and i wouldn't work
It is unusual, but possible. For some people, sex is not the primary element in life or relationship. So, if there is enough love, respect, understanding and support, such people would be fine with a sexless relationship.
To each their own. It would drive me crazy if my lady has a low sex drive because mine is high. A sex less relationship isn't for me and it would've discussed it with her before getting together. Which is why I would prefer to have sex early on in the relationship to see where we stand. Sex isn't everything but it is an important part in a relationship to me
if he's my boyfriend i would think it’s weird, just unusual. if he's someone else i could care less what he does in the bedroom
I mean I guess everyone is different and it doesn’t necessarily make them weird but personally I wouldn’t date a guy if he wanted a sexless relationship. I have my needs and sex is an important part of a relationship to me.
If they tell everyone that they don't have sex but call it a relationship... yes, very likely unless they are an old couple where sex drive disappeared because of age.
I would think he's mentally or physically damaged in some way. Or emotionally. That's all.
@Just_a_human Because it's unnatural. Sex is literally our biological purpose. To avoid it, the only reason I think exists is some kind of damage or defect. Even more, we're not just animals. Well, we are, but we're also a bit more. And that bit more enjoys the pleasure of sex. Having sex recreationally, just because it feels good. And it really fucking feels good, does it not? If he still doesn't want to have sex, even just recreationally, I can only assume he has a mental disorder of some type, a physical defect, or emotional trauma or something.
I have no idea what sex feels like, but I was just curious about why you thought that.
I don't see anything wrong with not having sex recreationally though.
@Just_a_human Oh. You should try it sometime. ^-^ I'm sure you know it probably won't be the most fun the first few times, for you, as a female. But chicks wouldn't have as much sex as they do if it wasn't worth it.I mean, I can't understand it. But I would be concerned and wonder if he should see a doctor or something. And I would want to know about his past and experiences and stuff to know if this just happened out of nowhere or if he'd always been like that. Definitely not natural, to me.
I'm not interested in trying it out.
@Just_a_human Really? That's unfortunate for you. But, to each their own.
What's unfortunate about it?
@Just_a_human Aside from losing a great deal of intimacy, connection, and astounding levels of physical pleasure?
@Just_a_human Losing a great deal of intimacy, connection, and astounding levels of physical pleasure. o_o
Oh, well it's not like I date or anything so there's no intimacy or connection that I would be missing out on.
@Just_a_human Why don't you date?
I don't see a reason to.
@Just_a_human I didn't either, for a good while. Thought it was ultimately more trouble than it was worth. But, lately, I've been thinking I was just scared to get hurt again. And I didn't believe I had enough value for anyone to be interested in me. I still don't, really, even though chicks approach me IRL, I'm shredded, and I've got one hell of a drive, now. But even so, on the inside, I'm like "they just don't know the real me. All they see is my jacked body and toughness. They don't see the darkness in my soul. If they did, they would never be interested." Oversharing, haha. But, it helps paint my portrait. I'm starting to think that dating really can enhance my life.Do you have no cravings for intimacy or sex or even just companionship?
No, I do not.
What people dont know they can't frown on,. But I'm right there on the lacking there of some of times its fine but a lot of time it's a let down cause there is the intamacy missing
Sexless relations is usually the writing on the wall for then end of an intimate relationship. If you dont have sex you are just friends perhaps best friends but still just friends. Consummate the relations by meshing gross privates.
What do you mean by sexless relationship? Do you mean no premarital sex in general? Then it's not weird. It makes me respect him more because sex is supposed to be in a marriage. Now if you're talking about a sexless marriage oh, now you're in real serious trouble. The point is is that if you both are not sexually active in this relationship, then you both should have thought about asking these questions before jumping into it exclusively. Because you do not want to be involved with a person who does not share your values or standards. I always make my standards clear from the very beginning. So if a guy is expecting me to have sex before marriage he is in the wrong relationship and he needs to move on. If he wants me that badly he needs to put a ring on it, or find somebody to be a hoe with. That's all.
Not really. There are asexual people and people with a low sex drive.
He's gay, a porn addict, or extremely low T. In any case, you'll become completely bored to tears with a non-MAN.
Not necessarily though.
@Jean-Marie_Céline - Why would a normal red-blooded American male be satisfied with a sexless relationship? This isn't a normal man-woman romantic relationship - more like roommates, or buddies. It's a fail. Why do YOU think he's okay with it? I say it's cuz his dick doesn't work. Like the quip, "How do you keep a hard-on? Don't fuck with it!"
@Browneye57 it could also be because for some people sex isn't really important or there more important things to do.For example, I give sex the importance my current partner gives it - if they want lots of sex then I want lots of sex; if they don't want sex, then I lose my mood for it.It's something more for their benefit than mine.
@Jean-Marie_Céline - I think you're missing the point. In a normal relationship there's push and pull, a flexible dynamic based on her cycle, moods, stress, etc. That is all normal. This question is about someone that has a problem with being sexual - one party or the other, they didn't specify. I say 'yes, it's weird' if a guy wants to have a woman around but doesn't want to have sex with her. I'm good for about 30 minutes, so no, it would be beyond weird. Normal women love their their man craves them, loves them, fucks their brains out. The number one complaint from normal sexually active women is that their man is too mild, too weak, not aggressive enough. I tell the guys to fuck their woman good and hard, they'll keep coming back for more. If you don't they get bored and can start to look elsewhere. Women are easily bored - they like to be sexed, entertained, and desired.
@Brownweye57 that's absolutely right, but the thing should be reciprocal.I mean, if the woman doesn't give it importance, why the man should?I personally give it importance and effort if I see she does the same, otherwise it's nothing.
@Jean-Marie_Céline - of course. If he wants it and she doesn't, you get starfish sex, or duty sex. Does neither any favors. If she wants it and he doesn't, she is open to attention from another guy. Guaranteed. It's called hypergamy.Reminds me of the quip, "Oh, she likes sex alright, just not with YOU!"
@Browneye57 Of course. If it's not reciprocal surely there's a problem on one of the two sides.
My fiancee and I have not had sex and will not have sex until our wedding night. We are doing just fine.
It's weird in the sense that it's not too common. But as long as he's with a partner who's fine with it, there's nothing wrong with it.
If the guy wants to wait for marriage it makes perfect s sense. If he's with a girl who wants to wait that long it also makes sense. Otherwise it's weird.
Thats weird but there's guys that would just respect the other for a limited amount of time only. I think anyways.
No, you'll find plenty of messed up guys who aren't ready, can't and don't know why. you'll find some that can, and are not mature. this is mating/ reproduction and love. We want it... but the deep feeling is getting in the way... so we have to go slow, grow or just friend zone it. What is that deep emotion in the way is the question you are wrestling with. Your body is saying "time to fertilize and reproduce". His body is there, emotions are not.People minimize what this is... this is a 20+yr commitment when kid shows up. A lot ofus now have pain associated with this... divorces, arguinng... that will mess with ones head.there is the off chance of not compatible at some deep level, like genetically. you'd figure that out just smelling each other. if smell good, ok.
Yeah that's weird. What kind of guy would settle for a sexless relationship? sure does raise a lot of eyebrows... If I were you... I'd take him to the doctors to get his testosterone checked or his stress and serotonin levels. The only exceptions to these are... 1. If they are an athlete prepping for an event and need to transmutate that sexual energy in to raw power... or... 2. If they are some kind of monk and need to abstain from sex and worldly pleasure to reach greater mental acuity. But these are extreme examples and will not be applicable to 99.99% of men.
I would think it would be weird for anyone (male or female) to be fine with a sexless relationship
y'all are so insulting. Ever heard of asexuals, or people that don't use their partners for sex instead of actual love?
The question is are. you fine being with a guy that doesn't want sex? If. my partner was sexless i would be. seeking it elsewhere
It is weird. But honestly nobody cares what you and this guy do in your relationship
That is weird. If both partners are young and healthy. 🖤
Depends on his belief. I know someone who really wanted to do it but is considering premarital sex is wrong so he won't do it.
My guy is like this. he's happy without sex, it's so annoying. I beg everyday for it
Yes it is. Very weird. Unless he's really old and even then... something's up.
doesn't sex drive decrease with age? so if he's old it should be expected right?
@Just_a_human if it does then there is something wrong with me.
I have been in onenever again,to each their own.
Like he never made you orgasm?
@scooogy that and he had no drive or stamina.
If you're in a relationship just for sex, you're in it for the wrong reason. You should be happy there are still men that think with their brains instead of with their penis.
He is not a man. I mean come on if i don't want that kind of relationship with women why would i want any relationship. I have lots of friends.
Well if both parties are happy with that then nah it isn't weird, I couldn't do it BC am horny bastard
Extreme weird. People are made to be sexual and enjoy sex.
he's either asexual, has a very low drive or is super desparate. i think most people tend to assume the latter.
It's weird in my opinion because I like sex. But I wouldn't judge someone because they have a low libido. To each their own.
I was sexless for most of my relationship with the girl I’m with now. We got really close and the feelings 😭 it end up happening.
I enjoy sex but it's not the centre of the universe. I like doing other things...
I think it's odd and I can't relate, but I don't look down on them.
Not at all. If they are asexual It's their business alone
Hmmm it's not full relationship! No sex its not a relationship then!
I guess if your both are Asexual and just love the idea of living together.
He should be looking down and asking why isn't this thing hooked up right...
Well Iam in same position please tell him how you feel it is terrible
Definitely weird. If he's being honest, he's certainly a one in a million kind of guy.
Yes that is weird. I dont even view him as a man.
And that's toxic
So? he's still not a man.
And you still toxic
Yes I don't really like sex either
Yes, that is strange.
If he was fine with that id leave him yesterday!.
Guy sexless... does not compute... error... error.
he's 100% gay for sure
So if a woman is fine with a sexless relationship she is a lesbian then?
@kitty71 No, that just makes her a prude
so why for a guy is different?
@kitty71 Men are normally sex crazed horny beasts when in the presence of a sexy woman
Yes it is, but there are men who wants it.
I wouldn't be in one.. sorry just can't do it..
Yes They're gay
@Just_a_human why else would a guy refuse sex with a woman? Or maybe the woman is too ugly.
He probably has a low sex drive.
@Just_a_human Performance anxiety could be a problem too.
Where is that guy :d?
why u asking?
Everyone has a sex drive, his is just low.
No SEX!!! HIYA!!!
Totally bizarre. Absolutely abnormal.
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