Girls, I think im suffering from ED from porn! im having a hard time with my girlfriend in bed! Advice and suggestions welcome WARNING MAY BE EXTREME?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so i never watched porn a lot til i was about 14 when i got a new tablet I stumbled across it some
how and I have watched on pornhub quite a bit maybe 2-3 times a day max sometimes not sometimes not at all but majority at least once im 19 now and had no idea about the consequences of my sex life while watching! If i knew the consequences i never would have! I thought its just videos no harm no foul! Now when i orgasm my ejaculation is less depending how many times i watch a day and sometimes doesn't come out if i have done it a lot it gets stuck in my penis even when i reach orgasm! But i have tried to quit multiple times and masturbation included im still trying but I relapse cause i get horny asf and can't handle it i don't think its so much the videos but the horniess is unbearable and i have a girlfriend who i love dearly and would move mountains for in a heartbeat. It breaks my heart and makes me feel guilty i can't please her because thats all i want to do. Im sure its just a matter a time before she leaves im trying my best to make an effort because i love her more than anything in this world and I would give up porn for her any day forever! It really does bring tears to my eyes knowing how disappointing I am to her. She didn't ask for it and she deserves much better than me. She probably will resent her love completely or will start falling out of love with me. i'm embarrassed ashamed as a man that I can't please her cause a man is suppose to make his woman happy and i can't do that do i even deserve her at all? Is my sex life messed up forever and i can never be fixed and im broken? and no im not doing viagra cause i have heard that it still don't help men with porn induced erectile dysfunction but i mean I don't know at the same time if i should? Im scared to death about my relationship and my girl!

[erandal]

The more you masturbate, the less cum you will have as your body can only produce so much in a day. You need to first force yourself to watch less porn but allow yourself a certain time of day, maybe first thing in the day. Also, maybe only watch porn of girls masturbating who have a similar body to your girlfriend, this should help you like her body more. You do have to reduce the frequency though, and only you can do that.

[Asker]

Am i still normal and able to get fully back to functioning like a normal human being or am i screwed?

[erandal]

You will be fine, the body can recover. I was also addicted to porn for a while and had to force myself to watch less, and only very tame content. It wasn't easy for me and it probably won't be for you.

[Asker]

do you still watch porn at all? and at least you don't have something in between your legs like guys do that you have to raise and get hard enough for to even start sex and also once it goes soft for me i have trouble getting it back

[erandal]

Yes I do still watch porn but I am careful to avoid anything that I can't get myself in the bedroom. And yes, us girls have something between our legs too! It surprises some men that when we get turned on our clit gets larger (size varies per person) and from a certain perspective we often have the same issue and the same reaction as you do!

[hellgirlpeep]

If I was you I’d see a doctor, they might be able to really help you. Porn addiction is kind of normal and it sounds you may just have a REALLY high sex drive. Hope this helps, I’m not a guy so I’m not an expert but I’d just see a doctor

[Asker]

but i have a hard time getting turned with my girlfriend i think im screwed forever il never function for normal sex i don't think i think i ruined my reward system :(

[hellgirlpeep]

Well for example, maybe find certain things that turn you on in porn so for example spanking. Then talk with your partner if she consents to doing the said thing that turns you on and maybe that will help you.

[Asker]

yeah but for sex you shouldn't have unreal expectation fantasies from porn

[hellgirlpeep]

It’s true but if you can’t get hard please see a doctor they’ve seen all sorts before

[Asker]

yeah they will just give me viagra and say "there problem fixed." but it ain't i think porn rewires our brains and reward systems and increase dopamine and arousal level