Is he a fuckboy? Only for sex?

[Anonymous]

So I ve just a guy who is very good looking and charming. He seems nice but there are certain things which I noticed that bothered me.

-He greets all girls by hugging and kissing them on the cheeks.
-He's always touching, giving hugs to his female friends. Like he has a habit of giving hugs after they explain or talk about something to him
-He's also inclined to put his arms around their shoulders. He does this ALWAYS. With all his female friends.
- He also gives them enough space to touch his back, thigh, hands etc, smoke from the same cigarette ie taking it from his mouth and smoking
-Sometimes even gives forehead kisses to a few of them
-His friend told me he is like that with all the ladies and even used to call a middle aged lady who is married with kids, as his "wife".
- He also reportedly had casual sex with 1 of his female friends and is rumoured to be with a new girl each week or month.
-Goes out with his female friends or takes them out
- and whenever he goes, its very easy for him to get girls attention as he looks good and is very friendly.

He was unlike this with his ex girlfriend. Only with her, he was very different. No hugs, no kiss, nothing. Very weird and awkward around her. I heard he did something and they broke apart.

So is he a fuckboy? Should I proceed to date him or he's just a casual sex without commitment type of guy?

[Anonymous]

It is possible that this guy was around girls since very young age (probably more than around guys) and he understands their nature and can empathize with them very well. His feminine side could also be more dominant than in regular males and it could also be possible that he is bisexual. He seem to act towards girls more like a loving brother / father and the girls can count on him if they need emotional support. Or if they need casual sex, or both, or whatever. He will be there!
The girl he shared cigarette with, well, there are very high chances they shared cigarettes before, or better said "after", if you know what I mean.
He treated his ex differently, because she was special for him. He didn't see her as a "sister from another mother" like he usually sees girls. She made his heart skip a bit or the sorts 😉

[Asker]

So he loved the girl he was sharing cigarette with?

[Asker]

And why was his ex special? If she didn't talk to him he would go insane, acting crazy with her. If he loved the cigarette sharing girl then Why treating ex differently?

[Asker]

Hellooo?

[Opinion Owner]

This guy probably genuinely loves all women and sees/treats them more like sisters/cousins, whatever. He is friendly, charming and gives girls the feeling of safety and trust, which is just a matter of time until some of the girls would want more from him. And as a good guy that he is, he will spend one or more nights with any of these girls. Oh and be sure he had casual sex with at least some of them. But he is not into any of them. Totally different story with his ex. She is different to him, he sees something in her, that he doesn't ser in regular girls, maybe it is her personality, no idea, I can't possibly know just from what you wrote.

[Asker]

Like he was hesitant and didn't know how to approach her and was tongue tied. Did know how or what to say to her. Always stared continously at his ex. What does it mean?

[Opinion Owner]

It could be that he thought she is out of his league, or he saw in her the woman of his dreams, the mother of his future children and he got anxious. No idea.

[Opinion Owner]

But how do you know exactly how he behaved with his ex? Are you maybe the ex? If you are, then you are lucky. If not, you do have high chances to get to casual sex with him, but more than that probably not. Good luck though!

[Asker]

His friend told me. Like he told me about other exploits. He even mentioned that when he first saw his ex, he couldn't take his eyes off her. And was unlike his flirty self. Couldnt even speak to her.

[Asker]

What do u think on this?

[Opinion Owner]

He couldn't take his eyes off, because she maybe looked like an angel to him. Maybe he was high too, hahaha. But seriously, if you like him, go for it and date him. Why do you care about other girls? Ask him directly if you have some concerns and see how honest he is.

[Asker]

Last question bit what was the difference between his ex and these girls he's having sex with?

[Opinion Owner]

How am I supposed to know? I only know what you wrote here. Ask his friend, maybe he knows more

[Asker]

Yes so based on what I just told u and what I wrote here what do u think?

[Opinion Owner]

Based on what you told me, if I were that guy, I would probably have sex with you and that would be it. Next girl! ... sorry

[Asker]

Are u trolling?

[anupamagrawal]

From the long list of observation and facts that you have gathered about him - he is a man who loves to be surrounded by sexy girls and its the girls and their naked body which is on his mind.

He is a total fuckboy, who would fuck anyone he can get an offer from. So, if you want a 'JUST FUCK ME HARD AND GET OUT' kind of guy, he is perfect for you, but if you are looking for relationship - he does not seem the type.

He is a Casanova, who wants more and more girls to taste, and yours will be only of the flavours he has experienced on bed. So, fuck him till you want, and let him free to find another pussy.

[Asker]

Why not good for relationship? Plus why was he so awkward with his ex?

[anupamagrawal]

You have said that - "- He also reportedly had casual sex with 1 of his female friends and is rumoured to be with a new girl each week or month." Should you asked. Rumoured are not always true but they can never get out of nowhere. there has to be some reasons.

[Asker]

Yeah but how was unable to even talk or know what to say to his ex? She was the one who did most of the approaching and he was very different with her

[Asker]

What do u say on this?

[anupamagrawal]

There are times when you get some possessive partner who just let you feel awkward with or being absolutely shy to approach. But, as you have seen when the phase has over, he has written to his playful way. So, if you can tame the man, go for him, but if you can't - don't think about making a relation.

[Asker]

No she was not possessive. He was just strange around her. Hesitant to approach her and shy I guess. But how did a player like him become shy?

[anupamagrawal]

The Lion hunts all the animals but the LIONESS tames him, he must have found a lioness that he is not comfortable around. Do you want to get into relationship where he feels awkward. If he feels the same way - he would be different. and if you will let him enjoy the comfort - he would find comfort in other holes too.

[Asker]

No I mean he was shy, acting like it was first time with a girl , not knowing how to say it act with her.

[Asker]

Hello?

[anupamagrawal]

Sorry, I slept. In my country it was 2:00 late night. When a guy is surrounded with girls and openly kissing and hugging them and going on date, how can he be shy. He can only be in such situation when he is afraid of loosing someone. So, perhaps in this case, he was so much into her that his behaviour changed on the verge of being awkward. But do you really think so. Now, as he is back on the track - do you suppose or felt him heartbroken. Believe me, he was awkward because there was something not right in their relationship. Though it feels like you are eager to justify that he is a good person to be in a relation. Are you into him?

[Asker]

Nothing was wrong. As they were strangers when he was doing all this so how can there be wrong? He was being shy and nervous I guess when he was trying to woo her.

[Asker]

I'm not saying he's good for relation. Of course he's not. But wasn't there something different ehen it come to 1 girl he had a different attitude?

[anupamagrawal]

Certainly, no matter how good you are around girls, as I said a little earlier that there is someone in the life who makes you feel attached. But, if he has returned to his earlier self, he is just a playboy who shed his true self for someone special. But, not that has ended he is back on track. And, if he would have really into her, he would have tried to change his way permanently, not just when she was around. Have you seen his sad or crying over loosing her. If yes, then he was too much attracted to her (but, I don't call it love, love leaves you heartbroken for a long long time). If not, he is just someone who 'I PREFER TO LIVE IN PRESENT' kind of person, with no emotional string attached.

[Asker]

Well he fucked up with her. And refused to listen to her as he knew he was wrong. He was in a bad good for a few days and then he just cut her off, accusing her of ignoring him.

[Asker]

He was very persistent with her though until he got extremely childish and blamed her for things and just cut her out from his life. His friend told me he knew he was at fault but his giant was ego wasn't willing to admit it in front of his ex

[HomoFuge]

I think it's very weird that he greets girls with kisses on their cheek/forehead. I know that in some countries in the world, this is a standard greeting but I am guessing you both are in a country where kisses on the cheek isn't a common greeting.

What I am gathering from this is that he is incapable of understanding friendship boundaries. Friends do not touch each other so much, especially body parts like thighs. His female 'friends' clearly want more than friendship from him and he doesn't tell them to back off because he likes the attention.

I don't think there's any harm in going on a first date to get to know him better. But I would be very cautious and not get too attached to him.

[Asker]

Yeah one of them he was always touching. Around her neck like keeping his arms around her neck, and she once took the cigarette from his mouth to smoke and touched his thigh too. I guess they weren't dating or werent serious at all since they didn't live together, and she would go away as soon as the term was over

[Asker]

Kisses on cheek are common here though. But i just find it strange that he's so open with women yet his ex girlfriend was the one he was totally different with

[Daniela1982]

That is your decision but to me it sends up red flags, like someone grooming girls for sex. And when he doesn't see the possibility of sex with them, like his ex, he doesn't bother with the friendly love hugs and kisses. He sure seems to have a lot of girls fooled.

[Asker]

No with his ex, he was very different from the start. Like he didn't do flirty things. He was unlike himself. Always waiting for her to make moves and even then a bit cautious

[AustinMan]

I'd suggest you go out for just a cup of coffee and ask him his intentions.

[Asker]

As if he will tell me he's a fuckboy. Why dont u say it

[AustinMan]

He may well be and I'm guessing that if you ask him what he has in mind for the two of you, he'll surprise you with the truth. If you don't believe what he says, challenge him with some ot the observations you've made but don't jealous,

[JC103]

Are you ok with him doing that when y’all date?

[Asker]

No never

[JC103]

Sounds like he’s just flirty but above all else, doesn’t seem like that man for you

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

Fuck that dirty fuckboy

[Tigarian]

Fuckboy totally

[Aybar77]

not fuckbody

[Strongballs2804]

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