Is Romance a must prior to sexual intimacy?

Girls, how important is romance to you prior to sexual intimacy?

Guys, do you appreciate a girls need for romance prior to sexual intimacy, or do you think it really shouldn't be necessary?

This girls version of romance...

"You catch her off guard and surprise her. Romance involves a certain element of surprise and mystery. Express love and affection to her with intimate gestures. Whisper something to her that makes her feel special and appreciated, like she is the most important person in your life. Draw her emotional and passionate nature out of her at that very moment."

If you do this, here is what you will get in return (PG rated)...



Guy's... it's called "Romance" ... give her your undivided attention prior to having sex. Show her she's important to you and not just there to satisfy your needs... be affectionate... learn her love language, then speak it!

Date her, ignite her flame, take nothing for granted. Imagine what she wants from you today then give it to her softly, slowly and kindly. Say "I LOVE YOU" ... say it often and with real meaning.

You're effort will not be in vain... I PROMISE!

Tell me what "Romance" means to you and whether you think it's important, or not... OK?
Is Romance a must prior to sexual intimacy?
A. YES! You hit the nail on the head! I have to have romance to create the atmosphere and start the passions flowing in me prior to sexual intimacy. I wish every guy I have ever been with understood that! ... and I can be every bit as Romantic as he can when he treats me right!
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Is Romance a must prior to sexual intimacy?
B. Yes, I understand her need for the romantic fire prior to serious intimacy and I know how to fan the flames in her and I do!
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Is Romance a must prior to sexual intimacy?
C. No romance is a little too much for me. I believe when it is time for sex, then let's just get right to it!
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Is Romance a must prior to sexual intimacy?
D. OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the romantic sexual intimacy survey
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Against the opinion of some men here, I personally find that it is important to set the mood to be sexually intimate.

    It seems that there is a gap in how genders perceive the intimate part of a relation.

    It looks like women tend to want more romantic feelings than men. I am not making a general statement here but only based on the comments I can read.

    I am the type of person that is committed to one single partner at a time and to me it is primordial to set up a romantic atmosphere. It is actually one of the most beautiful part of being intimate, just as much as foreplay is.

    If, like many seem to think, being intimate means only to have a few in-and-out movements followed by a few muscular contractions and then to attend to your normal occupations again, then they are missing out a very important part of being intimate.

    I see it like when I was a child and I was so impatient in anticipation to open the wrapper of this gift sitting under the Christmas tree that had my name on it.

    It is by far not the same feeling as if my mum would have just plopped the gift in front of my face and said "open".

    Romance is setting the right mood for an act that is the coronation of a long preparation procedure.

    PS: sorry for this novel (again)

  • Romance is super important! It’s not always completely necessary to have sex though. There are occasions when I’m horny as hell and don’t need romance to get into the mood. Romance is always appreciated, even when it’s not totally necessary. And when I’m not super horny, romance goes a long way to get me there.

    • An eloquently stated soliloquy Ells...

    • sorry that was supposed to be !!!

  • Depends on the person - it doesn't for Tinder hook ups, if that's what you're after, but it does if you're looking for someone to date longer term.

  • in a committed relationship romance is always necessary from both. And sexual intimacy is magnified because of it. So, yes, it is a must.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I used to be much more open to women who required romance, and I enjoyed being romantic.

    TBH, if I were single, I don't think i'd be willing to get in a relationship with someone like that again. I still would enjoy being romantic sometimes, often even, but I would never commit to a partner who also didn't genuinely want to have sex frequently, even when we were busy, tired, run off our feet and have 15 minutes before sleep. I'd like romance as an enhancer, but if I have to get them in the mood every time we have sex and they're never just coming in with their own libido, that's likely to be a huge problem.

  • it can make it more intimate and less like just something to do

    • thanks for the MHO!

    • You're welcome, thank you for a great answer :)

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  • Usually. But once in a while . . . .

  • Romance is a must have ♥️🥰

  • Maybe I'm old fashioned, but yes.
    At least a beautiful day and positive feelings are a must to set the condition for sex.

  • I think it's important to have a connection with a guy/girl before you are close to them

  • I'm not interested in romance or sexual intimacy

  • I do not believe in sex before marriage anyways. I want to get to know her for her. Also I never want to be the father who is not there for his kids. Sex is a bonus, not a central pillar.

  • It seems to be for me. Last summer, my best friend decided she wanted to be my girlfriend and she tried fucking me a few times. I was up for it but, because I wasn't in love with her, nothing happened! We both wanted to but I just didn't feel it the way she did.

  • I must go out with the crude ones because we don't do too much after meeting and prior to sex.

  • no, but it does make it better

  • romance makes things nicer!!!

  • Hmmm... Laurie, Laurie. Learning what turns women, or a specific woman on which you call her "love language", is not what I call romance. Then again, I don't call anything I do for a woman, that stirs her or makes her feel wanted and want me, 'romance'. She might call it that, but I think of it as seduction. And here's one thing I've learned about all women. They want to be seduced in two different ways. One is the non-calculating, it's just who he is and what he does kind of way. The other is the opposite... to feel completely concentrated on, thought out, calculated moves designed to trigger everything he knows to make her crazy. Oddly enough, men aren't much different.

  • I share the need for love and affection. It is much more important than sex itself which without feelings and intimacy is no different than masturbation. And then masturbation would probably be more fulfilling. As a man I am driven to the act of sex but relations with a long term partner have incredible depth, meaning, and satisfaction

  • Not really. I can careless. If I want it now, don't stop me and demand romance. That will kill the mood and I will move on... we should be in that romance stage throughout the entire day! No if ands or buts about that

  • I much prefer the type of woman who has raunchy sex first and develops feelings later.

  • When you are 24, this is true.
    When you are 30 and divorced, not so much.

  • Sure its important

  • If we're just fucking then no

  • Well this depends on how i see her or on what level i love her cuz i think most guys don't need any of that so if they just want to have sex (like the first time they meet you/see you) then they don't care about it but as soon as they start to love her they will want that not cuz they will need it but because that means she loves him back

  • Yesss. Kesinlikle