I had several sex partners before I met my current boyfriend. I was never able to orgasm with the other guys. On my own I always could. Or during oral and/or fingering from a guy. However during sex it was never possible. Now with my current boyfriend I have amazing orgasms. It didn't happen right away. We had sex for several months before it started to happen and it was amazing. Its different for each person I think. Learning what your partner likes and being completely comfortable with each other helps.
Is it because you started to use new penetration strategies that brought you to orgasm?
. i just became more comfortable with my partner and with the idea of having sex. I felt very "inexperienced" before and maybe was too worried about my lack of experience. I also really need clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm. The way that my boyfriend and I have sex now does provide some of that which leads to orgasm. But sex actually used to be painful for me with my previous partner. now I don't experience the pain only pleasure.
Some women cannot orgasm from sex. That is just reality. I am one of them. I can spend fucking hours doing sex and I will not be able to orgasm and it has nothing to do with me not being relaxed or uneducated on what works for me or my partner. It is how it is and I am completely fine with it. I can orgasm from other things my partner does and I am 100% satisfied and happy with that. Sex to be is anyway about bonding and the emotional aspects of it.
By "sex" I'm including those other things
I'm confused how can you orgasm if not from sex what does he actually do?
Most women need some sort of clit stimulation to orgasm. Penetration alone orgasms is very rare. So to answer your question, he just rubs and touches my clit and I can orgasm very easily.
How many of those women who don't orgasm are on hormonal birth control? That adversely affects a womans sex drive which could affect her ability to orgasm. Also how much of it is a refusal to communicate with her partner? So many women don't talk about what they like or don't like and just sit back and expect a man to simply know what she wants (which is idiotic, how the hell would he know? He doesn't have the same equipment)? Why is it always him being a failure and her having no part in it?
I agree with you on the second part. Too few women are speaking up about what they want. If he’s there in bed with you, he wants to please you. Tell him what you want. Trust me, he’ll listen.
@MzAsh Yeah, that's what gets a guy off, her being pleasured hence the whole faking an orgasm being idiotic because your screwing both yourself and him over. Never understood that about women.
I don't because I take responsibility for my own orgasms. Women should do the same. Unfortunately many women still believe the man should be responsible for everyone's orgasms.
"many women still believe the man should be responsible for everyone's orgasms." That's biology
Nope, that's outdated traditional thinking, and actually somewhat sexist. Most women cannot orgasm from penetration, so clitoral stimulation is required. Women can rub their clits just as easily as a man can rub or lick it... easier in fact. But most women either don't think they should have to or are embarrassed to do it. That's what needs to change. The man is already putting in most of the physical effort during intercourse. Why not have the women put in a little effort too. My wife is always rubbing herself during sex and she always has 1 - 4 orgasms during sex. It's better for everyone. So no, it's not biology. It's just a bad mindset.
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For me, it really depends how horny I am. I honestly see having an orgasm as a bonus most of the time during sex. Sometimes I am able to be satisfied without one, sometimes I do need it. So when I do need one, I will tell my partner to help me finish off and he will. But sometimes my body just isn't able to have an orgasm no matter what I do so I just give up. But sex is still enjoyable and very pleasurable without an orgasm if the sex lasted quite awhile. I've had 2 hours session that I didn't cum once and still enjoyed it a lot cause the pleasure was focused a lot on me because of how much foreplay we did. But that's just how I am.
I rarely "settle" for anything to be honest. I don't think I can remember a single time where I didn't have an orgasm and felt bad about it, because usually there's a good reason why I didn't have one. And not once has it been because my partner is bad in bed, lol.
I think sex can be just as enjoyable even when I don't orgasm. And usually if I don't orgasm, it's because I'm stressed, my mind is wandering elsewhere, or I'm just having an off day where my body doesn't agree with me and we could go for hours with no luck. So at that point I take what I can get, which is still enjoyable sex, and I'm happy with that.
BUT, if the reason why I'm not having any orgasms is because my partner doesn't care about pleasing me and sex was just all about him and his needs, I would definitely NOT settle. Thankfully I have never been in a situation like that, but if I somehow ended up being in one, I'd have a stern talk about it with my partner. If he did nothing to change his behavior, I'd dump him. I think being selfish in bed rarely is just that, usually it's an indicator of a bigger problem. If he's not going to be giving and loving with me in bed, how long would it take for me to see these traits outside of the bedroom? Probably not very long.
Some women can cum *anytime* they want to but might play games & bitc* if the guy doesn’t last X minutes. Other women fried their vag with heavy construction strength vibrators & wonder why a human has a hard time stimulating them.
Eh
I think a lot of women fake it so not to hurt his feelings. I always admitted when I didn’t and my partner would feel insecure.
I usually always orgasm but the rare times i dont I'm still satisfied
Tired of explaining what I like. I prefer gentle deep strokes at an odd angle. Men seem to bore of it. Give me some head so I get mine and I hope he finishes poking. Quickly
Not always getting an orgasm is a kink of mine
I would never accept not orgasming during sex, but giving the woman an orgasm is not the partners responsibility, it´s her own responsibility to make sure she gets one.
I can't get off unless i make her have an orgasm
Any sexual event EXCEPT when I initiate oral to finish her that way is a waste of time and motion if I don't cum.
This is really a girl question.
I have read an often repeated statistic that fewer than 25% of women cum from intercourse alone. My understanding also is that women can enjoy a good ride (decent sized weapon and good technique) without having an orgasm.
Women have potential in orgasms. But not all of them truelly know how.
Fore play is a big thing for women. If they dont get the stimulation from their partner or their partner doesn't want to help the woman just won't.
You can't force these things either or over think them. Because constantly thinking of your performance you fail to orgasm.
I agree you should take responsibility for your orgasm but that doesn’t mean if you get off first the session is over but the session isn't. I make sure my women always gets off unless she is too into her head and just won’t happen. Either way I won’t stop until she is good.
Um... I don´t. And I could not imagine doing so. Not for myself OR for my partner... (it´s a two way streak). so if it was ever a problem, well, then we would figure it out and solve it :)
But no. I dont like to settle.
I believe this comes down to the guy. Personally I enjoy sex more when my partner orgasms the more the better. Once I know they are satisfied it makes it easier for me to achieve orgasm.
If she is enthusiastic about getting off I will do it until she says no more. But I have had some gfs that just want my load in them and that is it. They are all different.
Some girls don't really have a choice. It's either you find a new boyfriend who can last or your just guna have to put up with it I'm afraid.
I have I had my fair share.. and no matter what... A women needs to orgasm..
(Virgin) Maybe just sticking with intense romance instead of lust is more relaxing.
Here my look at it. Only YOU can find a way to orgasm. Whether it be masturbating, or tell your partner what you like, communicating, role playing. Only YOU know what will get YOU off. It's not my responsibility to get my SO off, she needs to know how to take control of her pleasure
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