Girls when you and your guy are naked together do you ever wonder what he really thinks about your vagina? Guys, well have you?

[Soft4u]

I want to let you know what happened to me a day ago during a regular office visit, I'm not violating Doctor-Patient Privilege, all I will tell you is the patient was a 24 year old girl. A sweet girl who told me it was okay to talk about this to other girls, she felt it was something a lot of girls go through but are too embarrassed to mention.
I asked what brought her in today, she said her vagina looks like she's been having sex often and for a long time.
As I examined her I noticed how large and hanging slightly were her outer lips the labia majora the ones covered with pubic hair, also the inner lips labia minora the ones tucked inside were hanging. She became visibly upset started shaking, she said her finance called off the wedding bc she's not being truthful about her past sexual activity, he said a girls vagina only gets that way by having lots of sex. He didn't believe her when she told him he was only her second and was positive he was right lots of sex is the only reason for her vagina to look like it does.
There's more but the only thing I want to emphasize is size will vary from girl to girl, a girls sexual history doesn't have a thing to do with it, how large or small, hanging or not sexual history isn't an indicator and has nothing to do with the size of a girls labia.

I'm not sure if G@G will allow this or remove it, I felt it was important something that needed to be said.
Guys if this is something you thought or were told, there is no truth to it at all.
Thank you for taking time to read this.
Chanel

[PrudentGuy]

Since you're a practising physician, you should write a MyTake on subjects like this one to dispel myths.

And I'm thankful for your informative and concise post.

The only regeet I have after reading this is the ignorance guys still have in this modern age, to call off a marriage because of the looks of her vagina. Shame.

A simple Google search would have told the truth. No. It's not her past, but his lack of sincerity.

Good riddance for the girl. She will find someone better.

[Soft4u]

I have thought of doing MyTakes around stuff like this, there's other things as well. I don't know what G@G would allow tho, that's the reason I haven't so far.

[PrudentGuy]

If I were to rate this question of yours like movies, it's a G. (LOL) Look at the questions I answered. They are R-rated (LOL) And G@G allows X-Rated, as long as we are respectable to each other in our expressions.

[Soft4u]

I'd never disrespect anyone or G@G and it's administrators, maybe I should give it a try what do you think?

[PrudentGuy]

Yes. Write something that dispel myths. We would benefit from your advices.

[Soft4u]

I will then, it won't be obscene in anyway, I hope after investing the time G@G doesn't take it down.

[PrudentGuy]

Treat it as writing a thesis less the jargon. Good luck 😆

[Soft4u]

Thanks so much!

[andreasderjuengere]

Thanks, Chanel. :)

[Soft4u]

My pleasure!

[Hannajenky]

I used to be more insecure but I have grown to love the way I look. Maybe slightly nervous with a new boyfriend but that is normal

[Soft4u]

I get nervous the first couple dates, you're right it is normal.

[PrincessGrail]

I have never wondered that, but I'm sure plenty of girls have. Thanks for posting this.

[Soft4u]

Same, it really made me think tho how something so far from the truth could call off a wedding. Thank you as usual!

[PrincessGrail]

Thank you too!

[LesterJester]

Well I grew up as a teenager watching The Sunday Night Sex Show back in Canada... Sue knew her stuff and didn't pull any punches. I've also seen many sexual education programs and documentaries over the years.

I get how, guy or girl, can get upset over their genitals not always meeting their personal expectations. Expectations developed over years of conditioning from society telling us how our bodies should look and what is considered as attractive.

Like women with their vaginas, many men are also self conscious towards the size of their penis, if there's an odour, their foreskin being longer than "normal", or not having foreskin due to circumcision for medical or religious reasons, their testicles... Both genders can go on and on over their own flaws. Unfortunately, there is little out there towards educating and supporting both men and women towards the various details of our genitals other than what they do, how they should look... and porn.

At least there doesn't seem to be much out there these days.

Regarding this situation of the guy calling a wedding off because her vagina looked like he was the 42nd in line, that's his stupidity and if he spent 5 mins educating himself online using various sexual education sites available (ah, there you go, never mind. Disregard my earlier comment)... He would have known what he was saying was total BS.

In fact, I'm willing to bet that he did know, but he has in his head the "type" of vagina he wants to have available after marriage and hers wasn't it and unappealing to him.

So rather than stating the truth and coming off as the ass hat that he is, he decides to throw it all on her to make her feel like crap and put all the blame on her using a baseless claim that she had a lot of sex before meeting him. That way he doesn't have to feel like the bad guy if anyone asks why they broke it off. It's her fault because she lied. He maybe even thought that truthfully, but after blowing up and making an idiot out of himself, he probably looked online and saw how wrong he was, but will stick to his guns rather than apologise and look like an even bigger idiot (in his mind)

But she didn't have a bunch of partners, that's just how she is, but it was such a personal hit that he hopes it would shut her up from countering his baseless claim.

Either way, he's an ass and she's actually better off for dodging that bullet. He did her a favour in a way. She shouldn't be stuck in a marriage with an idiot like that. I mean come on... If the deal breaker was over the appearance of one's vagina or penis, then the relationship didn't really have much going for it to begin with.

Now if only she got this message or something similar and realised that yes, there are more experienced and more mature guys out there who know Wtf is going on and that genitals come in all shapes and sizes and they all pretty much function the same way... Maybe she can gain some confidence back and move on from this dolt.

[Soft4u]

Well written thanks for doing that.

[Claireluvskaren]

Any boy is getting to see a vagina that isn't on a screen or in a picture, but in the flesh, doesn't care about what it looks like, it's a real life vagina, all they can think about is they hope to see it again soon.

[SarahsSummer]

Yes, one cannot determine a woman's sexual history by looking at her vulva. That's nonsense, but In what capacity are you a 24 yo girl examining other women's vagina's?

[Apple1996]

I've never had this problem

[i1T2daty]

Thank you.

[markscott]

What kind of idiot guy comes to the conclusion that a girl's vagina can tell him how many times she has had sex? As difficult as it was, she's probably better off finding a guy with more common sense, and who doesn't make life changing decisions based on his ignorant opinion alone.

[markscott]

And re what does a guy think of a vagina when he sees his girl's? He loves it and wants in. The particular type doesn't matter, unless he's a fool.

[Elliegirl]

I haven’t wondered. I’ve never had any complaints.

[R_Cakes91]

We had sex so I don’t think he’s worried about my susie. I don’t think men are very picky about that sort of thing.

[PrudentGuy]

Indeed to speak for myself, I don't. There are too many good stuffs in you that I would even notice of any "defects".

[originall]

you are so beautiful

[R_Cakes91]

Thanks

[Paige90]

You are 24 or 25 and you are an OB/GYN?

[TadCurious]

Girls need to learn about how normal and common it is to have inner labia that are longer and are visible through the outer labia. Depending on the survey at least half and possibly more than half of girls have labia like that. There's nothing at all wrong about it. Guys who are ignorant about normal female anatomy need to educate themselves and quit spreading myths about sex causing a girl's vulva to look a certain way. The negative body image so many girls have about their vulvas is like an epidemic and it shouldn't be that way.

[MecheD]

Ty for the info

[Dargil]

I'm not sure if G@G will allow this or remove it, I felt it was important something that needed to be said.
*They WANT this kind of post here. Guys and girls need to read this.
(S) he said her vagina looks like she's been having sex often and for a long time.
*Sexual relations have no effect on the condition of a vulva. I was always going to be that way. It is what The Creator gave her.
I examined her I noticed how large and hanging slightly were her outer lips the labia majora the ones covered with pubic hair, also the inner lips labia minora the ones tucked inside were hanging.
*Happens all the time.
(H) er finance called off the wedding bc she's not being truthful about her past sexual activity, he said a girls vagina only gets that way by having lots of sex.
*Lucky her. He's not only misinformed but emotionally disturbed. She is better without him.
(S) ize will vary from girl to girl, a girls sexual history doesn't have a thing to do with it, how large or small, hanging or not sexual history isn't an indicator and has nothing to do with the size of a girls labia.
*Exactly. This sweet little girl is an Asian porn star that I like a lot.

There are plenty of closeups, both still and AV. Her vulva looks like one would think a virgin looks, but she's quite busy with some outsize men.
Many young guys are shockingly ignorant. Your most should help a little.

[Dargil]

by the way. She's over 30.

[Soft4u]

Thank you for saying what you did, I thought maybe G@G would think it's too personal to post.

[Dargil]

I do some very graphic "how to's" here. At first, the mods were gigging me for them, but then they realized I do it in a mature respectful way and they let them stay. That's what your post is. Both are the essence of this forum.

[Soft4u]

Thank you for saying that, I'm still not sure about the rules on G@G, I don't do anything to cause problems at least I don't think I do.

[Dargil]

You learn them when you run afoul of them. I still do once in a while.

[reptocarl]

I’ve never thought something like that. I’d like just five minutes with that ignorant ass

[Soft4u]

It bothered you like it did me, what an asshole!

[0112358]

I don’t even get how people think that would work. It’s so dumb

[BrookieCookie0422]

I’ve never felt insecure about what a guy thinks about me. If he’s willing to have sex with me he’s probably fine with the way I look.

[Mickey9999]

Simple but very true (and very wise!)

[BrookieCookie0422]

@Mickey9999 thanks 😁

[Massageman]

"really think"? seems to be over-think

[Giggletr0n]

This "insecure girl" is you isn't it?

[Soft4u]

No it isn't me it was as I said a patient. If I was talking about myself I would have said that, I don't have any reason to be dishonest or hide behind anonymous like so many here on G@G do. In 16 months being with G@G not once have I used anonymous, in fact I haven't considered using anonymous.

[Thatsamazing]

I like my current girl's pussy so it's not a problem. If I didn't, yeah I'd be thinking about it, sure.

[Browser101]

I’ve never found a vagina to be anything other than beautiful! This guy is a terrible person! Vaginas come in all shapes and sizes just like a penis and they do not stretch or have long labias due to lots of sex. Porn stars would all be sporting long lips if this were the case. Besides that, this man should never be engaged to anyone with those kinds of trust issues.

[TisTheTruth]

Though I don't do this (judge a woman by her vagina... I only admire it), I think a lot of men need to be educated on the physicality of vaginas and that porn isn't all information about vaginas!

[Soft4u]

I agree with you, some guys get told something like that growing up and it sticks with them, really sad. Thanks!

[TisTheTruth]

I'm glad you brought this up. I hope people read this and learn something new. I've even seen women ask this question- if men are put off by a large labia... Who are we to judge?

[Soft4u]

Perfect logic, thank you!