Are there ways to tell if someone has a high sex drive?

Any telltale or is it just random? I have an extremely high sex drive and the past two girls I dated were either asexual or didn’t like sex. I feel like I might be doing something to attract these types of girls. Preferably I want someone like me or at least with a reasonable leveled sex drive.
Are there ways to tell if someone has a high sex drive?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • You are asking men but I'm not sure all women with high sex drives would have similar personalities.
    Maybe women who are extroverts might be easier to gauge or women with more partners.
    But women who are introverted or faith based women it is harder. This is from listening to other women talk.

    I'd say see if they can dance well. Not that they have all the trained step skills but if you are standing in a club with the music going are they fluid, flexible with their movements like with their hips. (this only applies when women are off their period). Women who are able to move well are like men who dance well they tend to have high hormones thus higher sex drive.

    You can't necessarily go by the number of partners a woman has had because introverts tend to have less partners but more intense relationships. Or they might have been in long term relationships or abstained for periods of time to find the right partners either because of a personal or religious belief system. Some of those women are white knuckling it through with personal devices so the drive is there but not the partner.

    I think if you are around a woman who has high sex drive but it might not be obvious if she is introverted or religious but she'll out herself on occasion. I had a man in a non dating interest group situation ask me had I seen a certain Korean movie and I said yes but I couldn't find the subs for it. It wasn't porn but it had some soft porn parts mixed in with the regular story line. If a woman is a slow and wants to get to know you she might engage in extended foreplay activities right up to oral sex or intercourse until she feels comfortable to take the plunge.

    A woman who isn't embarrassed to talk about sexual facts is probably not going to have a low sex drive. I don't mean sex jokes but open frank discussions It isn't uncommon for people my age to complain they can't find partners who want sex. Someone who doesn't shy away from those conversations or who doesn't go ewe why would you want to is more likely the one who is more likely to have a higher sex drive. Probably, also, women who don't have a complete disdain for men might be a possible indicator.

    • You haven't a clue. You're Dancing theory Fucking Hilarious!!! I never read such lame ass funny don't know anything lying about your age Bullshit!!!

    • @Moonchild714 It has to do with estrogen levels in women and testosterone levels in men.
      www.psychologytoday.com/.../sex-and-dancing
      I'm 58. I don't lie. I have no reason to lie.

    • You spewed nothing but BS. Hormone levels matter but not always. I know a lot of women Pist Menopausal Higher Sex Drives than me and tgey don't do Supplements, many who have had complete Hysterectomies both scenarios no Estrogen producing...

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  • First of all, I’m pretty sure 99.9% of guys have a high sex drive😂 They can get aroused very easily and almost immediately. With women, it’s different. Some have low sex drives, some have high sex drives, and some can have low or high sex drives depending on their state of arousal. Even women with high sex drives will never have it as high as guys. We’re just not wired that way.

    Communication plays a major factor when it comes to sex. Perhaps these women you’re with have a low sex drive because they aren’t enjoying it. It’s important to know what makes them aroused so they can have just as good a time as you are. And never pressure them.

    • It’s just been the last two girls. The girl before them was a great match (sexually). The frequency was perfect and she would initiate sex sometimes. Before her the amount of sex I was having with girls was reasonably enough for me. The past two girls were my first experiences with girls who didn’t enjoy or like sex. My ex didn’t like sex and the one after her straight up didn’t like intimacy. She didn’t like kissing or cuddling. It made me wonder if I did something to attract those type of partners and if there’s something I can do to attract more compatible girls. I will say my sex drive has probably gotten higher over the years. But it’s not ridiculous. I’m not paying for sex or pressuring girls. I ended up breaking up with the last girl because we weren’t sexually compatible. I didn’t realize how important sex was in a relationship until I got into a couple of sexless ones. Sorry for the long reply lol

    • A woman can have sex with 100 guys in one day... a man can only last few hours maybe few times maximum.

  • Having a conversation...

    • How do you lead into that specific conversation though?

    • I have a high sex drive my ex had a lower sex drive and I think was a little intimidated by me and keeping up. I got bored. The guy I’m talking to now has brought it up slowly by asking what I like and I mean realistically I feel like you can tell if a person has a high sex drive or is more into sex! Which I ended up being open about what I want/like because there’s nothing worse than a horrible sex life. You’ll know if a girl is shy or just doesn’t want sex that much by asking questions. Don’t just say hey what’s your sex drive lol.

    • This is really good advice. I need to talk about it but ease into it is what you’re saying? So when you got bored with your ex did you just end it? The last girl I dated didn’t even like kissing. We dated for about a month before I broke it off because the girl before her was similar and I just didn’t want to be in another sexless relationship. How long do you think it takes to find out if the person is right for you?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • High intelligence usually have higher drive.

    Female's with high testosterone usually has higher drive. high testosterone gives more body hair especially in the face, little hard tk see since majority of female's pick most hair in the face.

    You have some study amongst females there they notised correlations with being more of being in terms with people to increase the chances of geting more and those that was difficult with others did have less drive. like drama queens for one example.

  • I think you suck in bed. Most girls I've slept with that had a low sex drive became little animal freaks with me and were shocked because they honestly thought they didn't like sex. But im very attractive, fit, dominant, big dick... current girl begs me to fuck her till she is sore and then fuck her some more and she loves it the more the better and she was never like this with her previous lovers.

    • You sound hyper-macho. Not my style. I prefer women who already have an idea of what they like and want. Sex has never been a problem for me. If the girl is sexual we do it a lot. I’m not aggressive to the point of trying to convince a girl to do anything. So yeah the last couple of girls didn’t work out for me because they openly expressed they didn’t like sex and I respected that. Kudos to you for helping girls discover they like sex though.

    • They are like children, don't want a bath but once they get in they don't want to get out! Lol. That's basically it and also just teaching them how sex is supposed to be like. Usually they don't like sex because their only experiences are a chubby sweaty wimp who asks permission and then cums in 2 minutes and is afraid to touch them. Maybe not quite that bad but sometimes yeah. So its understandable they don't like it.

    • I don’t agree with you but I respect your opinion. lol.

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  • I don't think that there's a way to tell, other than having a conversation with the person. If you're a freak you can identify other freaks. It's a simple as that, have a conversation about sex with the person and figure it out. You'll know if they're the right person for you or if you're not compatible. Best of luck!

  • If their blonde or redhead it's pretty much guaranteed.

    • What’s the stigma behind that?

    • No stigma just fact

    • where is the source and reasoning behind this fact?

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  • There's no obvious we wear this or do our hair like this sign... You really just have to talk to the individual.. I'm very open about my sex drive. Flirtatious women often have high sex drives but not all do. Most with High Sex Drives talk openly about sex and how often they want it.

    • Which moonchild are you? And that makes a lot of sense. I think I missed a lot of signs that the last two girls I dated weren’t sexual.

    • Dongtai, I'm the only Moonchild that matters... LOL. Experience over time will help you...

    • I thought moonchild was a reference to your zodiac sign. Lol. Is it? And I agree with you

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  • I guess test their testosterone out. If they have higher testosterone than average woman the sex drive will be higher.

    I have a high sex drive lol but I look opposite from it. So I don't know._.

    • I guess I like to be creative and argue with people and have my way with things. Lol the testosterone showing its colours <.< lol I: A woman with high sex drive will probably tell you her sex drive but I am not sure if it'll be a lie. Many women lie and mainpulate to get things they want and change them to suit their lifestyle. Lol. So I wouldn't trust completely.

  • Usually they tell you, either directly or indirectly pretty early on. If there's some kind of secret code, it's so secret that even they don't know it.

  • They are not asexual, they are just bored, try hitting them in the butt and fuck them hard they will squirt the hell out of them and since you have a high sex drive dont stop! Cum and then cum again and again until she cums herself she will squirt the hell out of her!

  • They’re horny a lot? It’s not that hard

    • You can't tell if a woman is horny unless its very obvious through dialogue or body language

  • My boyfriend has a high sex drive, he always horny for me, but I have a low sex drive. But we can only text each other, we do sexting too & send pictures. He lives in a different country.

  • Initial conversation with a women you just met is usually a playful back and forth banter. How quickly the banter devolves to sexual references and if she starts or expands on the references may be a good indication.

    • I’ve never tried talking about sexual with a woman I just met. Between the second and third date I kiss them and at least get to third base. Usually by the third or fourth date I end up having sex with them. The longest I’ve had to wait was a month. Shortest is about a week or less. Maybe I just found the answer to my question.

    • It's not literally taking about sex. It's playful banter laced with heavy sexual innuendo. Talking sex literally will make you sound like a stalker. Sexual innuendo banter requires more skillful game.

    • Sounds like something out of one of those pickup artists books. Not my style. I’ve gotten with plenty of girls by just being me. I was just looking for advice on how to tel if a woman is sexual

  • They'll tell you. Or you'll get an idea from the way they speak, how they're acting. I have a very high sex drive and I think it's obvious when I talk to boys😂

    • Are you single about it or are you explicit with your language?

    • **subtle*!

  • If they have lots of sex?

  • Friend, You're high on pheromones

  • Women don't express their sex drive openly..

    • Not even in subtle or subconscious mannerisms?

    • Nope... Women need communication to reveal their sex drive.. Once she feels comfortable around you she will take you to heavens...

    • Oh well yeah. That’s if she’s sexual though. If she doesn’t like sex or isn’t sexual is what I’m trying to learn how to figure out. I’ve been with sexual girls before but the last two weren’t. I asked the question for tips on how to find girls who are more sexually compatible with me.

  • I have a high sex drive and I want my boyfriend ALL OF THE TIME. Lol. When he comes over, we are canoodling most of the time. But he likes to watch movies and cuddle. I like to get “dirty”. He’s a really sweet guy and I like that he would rather lay and cuddle with me than make out (and do other things) all of the time. We have been together for almost 2 months now and we are going to be having sex for the first time tomorrow. We are both really excited. But before, we would sext each other and go through the other bases. I’m crazy about him. He’s the sweetest guy to me. 😊😊😊