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How do guys not get attached after sex?

They can just have sex without feelings, just pleasure.. and not call the girl up afterwards or want a relationship with her
They can just have sex without feelings, just pleasure.. and not call the girl up afterwards or want a relationship with her
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  • Ok so based on the answers, other opinions and my own knowledge id say this:
    the attachment after sex thing is a 50/50 thing in men and women and is most likely a gender based stereotype. However as some people might think, the reason most likely isn't cause ”mens brains go by logic, womens go by emotion” as that statement itself isn't entirely true. Although the majority of men go by logic and women otherwise, as since the attachment is 50/50 has to tell another story. Im guessing it has to do with either chemicals in the brain in which varies from person to person, emotional interest in the other person or the way the person gets attached and close to others through individual experience. Maybe it comes down to both being flawed, the girl not calling cause she is too shy to and the guy not calling for the same reason.

  • I think that some guys do get attached. I can't speak for all guys, since there are always exceptions, and I'm not a guy. I'm only speaking from my learning about psychology and from people's experiences.

    I think that some guys do get attached to the girls/partners after sex, but that attachment is the desire for more future sex. It's the yearning and thirst for more sex.

    They might say "I miss you," or even "love," and feel that they want to see the partners again and soon, want them close to them, but it's not really out of love, although some might think that if their partners had a nice sex with them, they provided love.

    • Sure, we could make that biological argument. But we'd also have to include the inverse for balance and say that the woman in that situation doesn't actually feel attachment towards the male, but towards what the male can provide her, knowing that sex can keep him interested and supply long-term resources and protection to raise her offspring. So, we could say the male isn't actually attached to the female, but the sex the female can supply. And, we could say the female isn't actually attached to the male, but for the resources and protection the male can supply. But where's the fun in that? I prefer to think that bonds are deeper than that.

    • For me personally, emotionally attachment (affection, care, love, etc.) must come first before I can let my guard come down, to be literally naked in front of another man, so usually my attachment wouldn't be just the sex, but do other women get attached to men only for sex? Sure, it can go both ways. Genders don't define everything. There's always exception, that's why I said "some" guys.

    • Huh? o. o; You might be surprised how little you need affection, care, and love in the right circumstances. I'm not sure you absorbed the content of my comment, though.

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  • We aren't supposed to not get attached. Sex causes our bodies to make love chemicals. That's far and away the main thing sex is for an its most important function. Not reproduction, not pleasure, but pair bonding. I still have feelings for every woman I ever slept with, and one or two I only ever kissed. I'm not haunted by these feelings, in fact I like them. It only hurts to love somebody if either you're obsessed with them or they hate you. Instead of denying yourself feelings, try allowing yourself as many as will fit. That's what your body wants, and the world needs a lot more of it.

    • The world needs more sex?

  • This is just a generalisation and does not apply to all people.
    This is down to differences in the male and female thought processes. male will apply logic to a decision and don't have to apply emotion to it. A female make a decision based on what she feels and generally this will involve an emotional tie to it.
    So when it comes to sex the logical thought process can take over and we can see it as just a way to experience physical pleasure it just involves a second person... If one of the girls can give a perspective on what you feel about having sex please?

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  • Guys can get attached after sex. It totally depends on the circumstances. But sex does not create an attachment. There has to be one there already. Sex can be meaningful or it can be meaningless. It depends entirely on the situation. But the guy should make pretty clear which one he considers it to be. You should make sure you're clear in that too.

  • I get extremely attached. I don't understand the alternative.

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  • They do they just have to like you for whatever reason that may be but in my experience guys definitely aren’t rocks lol

    • No, guys don’t get attached after sex like women, it’s chemical. Women are bonded to guys after sex based on their chemicals. But men don’t feel attached until the have fallen in love and are committed to her fully. One reason why having sex before a committed relationship is a mistake because it’s unfair for women

    • That’s not true at all I’m a woman and can have sex with men and not feel a thing but I know guys tend to get attached with me after just like my friends with benefits rn and pretty much every friends with benefits before and I have yet to be emotionally attached to any so I would have to disagree with your statement

    • My point is more general and I admit individuals experience things differently. But it’s not my opinion, it’s chemical bonding backed by science. I saw a Ted Talk on the subject and was blown away at how the bodies chemicals affect men and women differently after sex.

      Read the science here and let me know what you think:

      www.dailymail.co.uk/.../...akes-men-want-MORE.html

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  • If you are willing to have sex with people you do not like ~ you will not get attached. Men are more willing to do that.

    If you want casual sex ~don’t bed a guy you like.

    If you want a relationship~ don’t bed a guy who just wants sex🤷‍♀️

  • That’s actually a gender based stereotype. Statistics show that men are just as likely to become attached to a sexual partner as women. However men’s brains are hardwired differently, so it’s not impossible that we tend to express that attachment differently than women do.

  • Now it's all coming out that never ever trust guys that is asking you to have sex with them or asking something that involves lusts and will say that like you coz it's not their heart who speak. It's their dick who dictates their mind.😆😆💔

  • In a serious sexual engagement the man is the giver and the woman is the receiver. My guess is that the sense of intimate communication and fulfillment is probably more for the woman, which might explain why they differ in their outlook and their postsexual conduct.

  • Truth of the matter is, even though men don't quote on quote get attached during sex, too many partners does damage us psychologically. Same as women.

  • We do but it's more subtle. Guys quite literally feel emotions less than girls. Our bodies don't produce the all the same hormones in the same amounts. Basically the bonding hormones that are produced in a woman's body during sex are also produced in the man's body but to a lesser extent. So yeah guys DO get attached after sex but it's not just not as strong of an attachment.

  • I wouldn't with someone I am not attracted to

  • Some girls do this too

    • True

  • Great question 😊💞

  • Because sometimes people just want a quick hook up both genders do it

  • They don't think/feel the same as we do. That being said, I've used guys for sex once or twice in my life, but I always felt bad about it afterward.

  • Both sexes do this. My ex was doing this less than a month after she broke up with me. On the other hand, I've had sex with just two different people in my life and been deeply emotionally attached to both of them. It comes down to the person. I could never just have shallow, meaningless sex even though I'm a guy, and there are girls who do it with someone different each week.

  • We learn from young age to control our feelings so if we go into sex as just as sex that is what we get out of it. But we can also allow ourselves to fall for the girl but we can't decide that it will happen. Or we can just act as we don't care if we haven't mastered our feelings yet. If we don't want it to go on.

  • Even if she finishes in the best way possible, we dont assume things and to be honest just may not be as into someone.

    This isn't everyone's reason and it's a bit messed up, but I used to just sleep around to be better for the one I want to be with and I'm a pretty chill and open dude, I won't ghost people and if they have the courage to ask I'll tell them.

  • We’re not all wired the same. If I have sex with a woman I liked initially I’m hooked emotionally and physically.

    Girls I don’t have feelings for? Well that might answer the question. But I don’t think that’s exclusive to gender. A lot of people have sex purely for physical pleasure. The emotional attraction was never there. So sex can’t amplify it.

  • Well regardless of how many times women repeat “men only want sex”, it takes a lot more to keep us interested. While women can be all in after sex (because they place so much value on sex by itself), men need a lot of other variables to line up to be emotionally attached (because we place value on a lot of other things). Those are the facts, but girls like to flip it and project how they deal with relationships onto men.

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