What do you think of guys who say this "I like to stay single, free of relationships drama and conflicts?

[Anonymous]

This was said by a 46 yrd old guy. who says marriage is just a facade and marriage is just a nest of conflicts and dramas ALL the time. So this guy says he will never ever marry much less have kids,. Kids are a no no at his age he says. He rahter enjoy life as being single you have more benefits than being attached to someone and do whatever he wants. But then he does not like to wear a condom when he has sex. He prefer informal relationships, no emotional attachment,

But then all of a sudden the guy starts dating a lady so what was the deal of being in a relationsip is a no no due to he dislike the drama and conflicts. Im sure he will come up with soem drama or conflicts on his own eventually or is it possible that with the lady he is dating she is the one he was looking for and he would change? I mean the guy is 46 and always had been single. Can you trust a guy like this, is it worth to date a guy like this?

This happened to a friend with a guy he was informally seeing but she was aware of the conditions. She met this guy 4 years ago and even though they were not seeing regularly becaue they were not a couple or a bf/gf or in a real relationship, they went out 4 times, made out and out of those 4 times they had sex twice b ut becaue both wanted that to happen. The guy was always clear to her, he disike drama in a more real relationship , he enjoys being single and enjoy life and he could see her from time to time like going on meal dates have conversation and then sex, they were not really stranges anyway they had known for 4 years My friend is 48 and she is still single as well no kids never married either.

They seem to get along fine the way they were, as they were not even in a relationship they were more like casual friends. but the guy gave her signs he was attracted to her and she was the same to him so it was mutual. She always told her the way she feels about him, that she was

[mattdzz]

I think a guy would say that who has enough friends to fill the boredom, and enough female attention so he doesn't mind not having a permanent one. However, 45 is near the tail end of where a guy (unless he's wildly successful) can continue attracting women he'd actually like to be with. He's in for a rude awakening when he's all alone and can't get a girl to give him a coffee date.

[Asker]

Yes this friend told me that the guy always had thought about that in regards of relationships. He dislike thef drama that comes to be involved in a relationship, so he enjoys being single. My friend was kind of bummed that the guy even was in her house and viceversa, they treated each other ike close friends with the benefits of sex both agree on that. She never told him she wants t marry the guy or anything similar so he will thik she wanted some serious stuff, she knew the conditions she is 48 also an age where is not so young for my friend to start looking for mates to get pregnant or marry seriously anyway, even though she also like being single. I beleive my friend and the kind had some kind of informal bond but they did have something, even if they never acutally dated often but they got along well, they went to meals dates had sex twice, the guy gave her signs he was attracted to her and like her. The guy even know her brother and her family. But always he was set he did not want anything serious. Then she was told he had a girlfriend even when they both had sex. Then when when they were like in good terms of getitng along, the guy blocked her from Whatassp and ghosted her a few weeks later. So my friend says if he was into not having any informal or somethign mroe serious relationship with a woman, he did not like the drama of a relationship either, why the heck he did end up having a gf? Or why the heck the girlfriend was not my friend if they did get along and know each other and nto strangers? Maybe my friend was not his type then?

[Asker]

so wha t do u think?

[MrHopper]

To me i read him saying "i am happy being single" as possibly true, at that point in time he had not experienced the benefits, it also could be a cover story he tells him self so often he starts to believe it... i used to do the same after being single for many years

[Asker]

So what does that guy means when he says that? Why a cover story? I mean if he was not serious with the lady he had sex with why he wil be really serious with his alleged real gf? I mean why date then? If dating involves drama, conflicts confrontations things he seems want to avoid by dating seriously?

[nerms123]

He’s just a player

[Asker]

Player for the one he is dating and the one he just had sex with?

[Valnac]

I choose to be single and I’m 36. I see the agendas girls have, the games they play.
A very good friend of mine got married. They were great in bed and really loved each other. She told him she wanted kids,
They had 3 kids. Then his wife announces she’s done having sex.
Why would I want that kind of shit.

[Asker]

Not all women are like tat maybe a lot but not all

[Valnac]

How can you tell which would and wouldn’t. It’s like playing Russian Roulette.

[Asker]

im not like that

[Valnac]

Are you married with kids?

[Asker]

Nope

[Valnac]

How would you know then?

[Asker]

and how would u know all women in the planet are like that? Maybe some are but do nto generalize 100% of world women population is like that, I hate when people steroytpe

[Valnac]

I’m not. I don’t know if it’s a hormone thing after women have babies. That’s all!

[masterkamasutra]

he is smart!

[Asker]

why smart?

[masterkamasutra]

away from all kind of drama