Just don't tell him. I realize this is an unpopular opinion, but you fucked up. You made a mistake. And you made a mistake while you were intoxicated. in my opinion, being intoxicated, that's a different person--it's not you. It's you *MINUS* your inhibitions. So it's *you* WITHOUT a key characteristic of yours. Making it another person. So, in my opinion, "you" didn't cheat on your boyfriend, drunk you did.
in my opinion, it's worse to tell them you cheated. What does that accomplish? It hurts them, likely blows up the relationship.
What does not telling them do? Makes you guilty as fuck and feel like shit. Good. You should feel like shit. So why would you want to tell him? To assuage your guilt, right? So you'd be telling him for your own sake, not his.
But, if you think it would ultimately be for his sake, and he needs to know that he's dating someone who cheated, then sure try to explain and ask him "what you can do" to "make it up" to him. An apology is worthless. You have to make up for sins with actions.
Anyway, that's my two cents. Totally depends on his personality. Me, I'd get it. One time, you were drunk, okay, as long as you acknowledge it was a mistake. People make mistakes. But other people aren't as mature as me. *flips hair obnoxiously*
I so agree with you... Number one she doesn't love him as much as she thinks bc drunk or not, it wouldn't have happened... it happened bc its been a thought in her sober state... as women, we cheat bc there is an underlying issue... sex with her loving boyfriend is probably bad... regardless of why she did it, she shouldn't tell him. It does nothing for either parties... her guilt won't go away after n he will just be crushed... if they stay together it'll put a damper , to say the least, on her relationship. She needs to hush her mouth then do some thinking on her own to see if she TRULY wants to be with him.
Well, depending on the guy and his feelings on public intimacy goes, posting about it probably lowered your chances *CONSIDERABLY*...
NOTHING says, "But I *really* want to be with YOU!" like hearing from someone *else* that, not only did your girl cheat on you, but she told THE WHOLE WORLD before she got around to talking to you about it...
😅Yeah, his guy frienda will NEVER let him live THAT down... *especially* the one who's dick you sucked (and obviously didn't sign a nondisclosure about). He won't be quiet about it, that's for sure.
So yeah... take that burlap sack of kittens you call intimacy, tie that shit up, and just start flogging it into the ground until it stops whimpering.
I don't see any way he is NOT going to have a problem with it, unless he either doesn't care, or has someone else on the side already...
(& because you posted about it, the gorls in your circle will probably have made moves on him by the time you get up the nerve to talk about it.)
(Now I'm going to be insensitive...)
On the plus side, now you might have a budding new career in pornography, if you can keep the tears real for the camera. 😉
Oh goodness yeah cheating is fucking awful but some people are taking it way overboard. Like calm down.
He most likely will break up with you and that is just gonna be how it is whether you want to be with him the rest of your life or not it ain't gonna matter lots of people go out drinking and don't cheat even when there is temptation so don't use drinking as an excuse. It seemed like you were into it so there's no way out of that.
I am sure you realize that coming clean which I highly recommend is going to hurt him and probably scar him leading him to haw future doubts and thoughts with new relationships. It will leave him with insecurities and so much more.
In my opinion once a cheater always a cheater what is to stop you from doing it again? Once a person cheats that's kind of a sign they don't love the person as much as they claim but actions speak louder than words.
You already made a very selfish decision so I suggest you make a non selfish one when it comes to thinking about your boyfriend. In the case he doesn't break up with you well all I can say is good luck and bless his heart that boy is gonna need it.
O... oh no. What a mess. Sorry girlfriend, but most people don't let the drunk excuse fly anymore. Why on earth did you get drunk around 2 men who are clearly not your boyfriend is beyond me... not a good move at all sister. I don't know what to tell you, the best thing to do is tell the truth cause the truth can or will come out eventually, it's either going to come out of you through guilt or it's going to come from someone else who knows or saw. Could be the dudes or somebody, and the last thing you want is for him to find out by somebody else... so you need to embrace for what's going to happen. Embrace the fact that he might break up with you and move on, and if that happens put it down in a life lesson notebook on what not to do in your next relationship. If he decides to forgive you, then also embrace the fact that your relationship might not be the same and that there will be insecurities/trust issues.
Also girl, if drinking is problem and makes you do crazy stuff then i would put the alcohol away for good. Or at least have someone with you.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Ok first of all, don't do anything to yourself... You're young and there are plenty of good things around. As for the relationship, you have to tell him... No other choice. To be honest, if that would be me, that would be over but it happens. Also even if he will forgive you it may not be the same. As a word of advice... Don't drink alcohol anymore.
Hopefully Here, Dear, The Two you didn't Screw... Won't say Anything.
Keep your Mouth Shut, And from Now on, Watch What you Drink, It Stink. xxoo
she absolutely has to tell him the truth are you kidding? If he finds out later, do you have any idea how soul shattering that is?
@Shamalien Lol She does? She was Drunk as a Skunk.. Or Was she? Keep Quiet, No Proof in this Jello Pudding, guy. xxoo
@Shamalien why? Itll. only hurt him to know. I would never do what she did but I still don't think he needs to know! It will crush his heart either way.
Stop drinking and dont tell him... itll only hurt his heart
How can you type so well but "accidentally" have a threesome?
Tell him the truth, but I hate that line, I'm so drunk, if you can't handle your alcohal you simply shouldn't drink! You knew what you were doing, you just explained to us you feel bad , so your drunk enough to regret it and remember you love your man but couldn't remember that at the time of your shitty choice?
Either way be honest and if he leaves you, that's a choice your going to have to live with , people make mistakes but sometimes those mistakes have happened to us before so we won't forgive a second time ! Good luck
Don't kill yourself. Things will be fine. Just talk to him. Everything will be fine. Stay safe. Its okay.
didn't vote. depends on the boyfriend. see another girl out here whose boyfriend forgave her. see others who broke up. depends on the boyfriend and you.
"you" are out of control, no longer allowed to touch alcohol or drugs, and need therapy to deal with your low self worth. then you are worthy of being asked forgiveness from someone else. work on forgiving yourself and others who hurt you first.
Just break up with him and get help for alchoholism
Sounds like you shouldn't allow yourself to get drunk anymore if you're gonna turn into a cheating slut. You don't want to get that reputation. And you can listen to these shady dudes with no balls and not tell him but it will bite you in the ass someday. Sure, he may not get over it and leave you. But if you truly loved him you would let him make that decision knowing all the facts. You've been selfish enough by cheating so don't go on being selfish by not telling him. And one more thing. We all do make mistakes. But owning up to our mistakes is what makes us decent humans.
You don’t love him, because you wouldn’t of that. No, it’s over.
What @Paris13 said, except she rhymes better than I do
That being said, your boyfriend will be REALLY hurt when he finds out. Especially if the guy who fingered you made you cum.
^trash
@PrincessGrail Even I found it weird that you had to mention "if the guy who fingered you made you cum." I just do not see how that is necessary or even relevant to be honest.
@EmbraceThePain guys really don’t like hearing that. Best to leave that detail out if she confesses.
What you've done is irresponsible, the only thing you can do now is be honest about everything that happened.
Man, this is why women get looked at like we’re hoes. WTFFFFF. Don’t be a in a relationship if you wanna get drunk and mess around. So dumb. He shouldn’t be with you and if he is do him a favour and leave, he deserves someone better, and you need to work on your priorities, morals, and just overall logic
I agree. I know I’m mentally not okay right now
Then please seek help, but the right way. Not for anyones sake but for your own. None of us are perfect and we make mistakes, just go and work on yourself and clear your mind and heart.
There’s no shame in seeking professional help, ever. It will do you some good trust me
I'm not sure how you can say you love your boyfriend with all your heart and do something like that.
That’s for him to answer, not us.
Don’t feed the trolls
Telling her to kill herself is too far.
Just tell your boyfriend you were hungry for cum and that you still love him.
Let me ask you this if I may! I have asked women over the years some basic sexúality research questions. Thére is a few and would you Scute please take an stab at um thax. WEC #1 Does a man's cum turn you on. Do you like to sée it squirted out, like to rub on your tits, etc? #2 Do you always let a man cum in your mouth? #3 Do you like the taste of a man's cum? #4 If you do taste of a man's cum, what does it taste like! #5 Do you swallow? #6 Where had you rather have a man's cum, in your mouth, hands, on your tits, in your pussy, etc. ?
Please keep forwarding those questions! Thax
I hope so
Lol @ people who voted A.
Just spare him from being in a relationship with a cheater and get a life.
No, you don't love him.
Is it true; once a cheater, always a cheater?
Yes. Come read the opinions again when you can think clearly.
So I will never be happy the. Right?
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